A Link to Kacy's Old Goodbye Post to TTCAL

panacea05

I posted it in one of the earlier threads, but I don't want it to get lost, so here it is again:

https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/66201005.aspx?MsdVisit=1

It's probably a good idea to go read it, then formulate your own educated opinion of Kacy, rather than just assuming she was wrong because somebody told you she was. 

**Edited the title for clarity.

orangegoggles

Yeah thats what I rememeber but I wasn't sure if there was a post where she actually called specific people out or something. I always thought it is of her leaving because it was getting too difficult for her to deal with it all and the fact that she wasn't ttcal at the time.

Btw, you know that by posting this you are going to have 20-30 posts of people highlighting and bolding the parts they thought were offensive and rehashing it,

panacea05

pangnl79:

Yeah thats what I rememeber but I wasn't sure if there was a post where she actually called specific people out or something. I always thought it is of her leaving because it was getting too difficult for her to deal with it all and the fact that she wasn't ttcal at the time.

Btw, you know that by posting this you are going to have 20-30 posts of people highlighting and bolding the parts they thought were offensive and rehashing it,

Hehe... I'd love for them to waste their nights doing just that. 
 

Mrs.DeliaMarieP

I remember her goodbye post, and never took it as a GBCB, woe is me kind of thing, but more of a ta-ta for now kind of thing due to stress.  I agree with you, I thought that the intro post was a terrible place to bring everything back up again from before, and am surprised that was done, it's too bad, honestly.  

GraceInCA

Kacy was consistently kind, giving, and helpful. She was an absolute gem to have on TTCAL. Her exit was honest, and graceful. It was not even remotely GBCB, but an honest expression of what she was experiencing. I won't lie; I agreed with every word she said, and I too posted a lot less frequently in those days (although I don't think I ever came out and said expressly that I was going to do so).  I'm really saddened that someone took the opportunity of her introduction into PGAL to make comments about being unhappy with the manner of her exit.

I hope the rest of her very long stay here is filled with warmth and acceptance. She certainly gives those feelings, and should get support back.

mijakach

Thanks for posting this. There was definitely nothing wrong with her goodbye post. I guess some people just have nothing better to do with their time then try to ruin someone's excitement...a little juvenile if you ask me.

Kacy, so many of us here are so excited for you! You deserve to be here and certainly deserve all the happiness in the world right now.

pkaren

:::lurking:::

To put this in context if I remember correctly this was a time of "great turmoil" on TTCAL. A bunch of oldies were getting called out for selectively only supporting their friends and there was a rash of troll posts too. I think alot of ladies decided to quietly back away at that time and Kacy just worded what alot of people were thinking. A few people may have gotten hurt, but overall, TTCAL lost a great support member. Kacy was only ever kind and supportive to me. 

Just my .02 cents.

:::lurker out::: 

raashton

Though it is admirable that you are defending your friend, I feel like you neglected to realize that posting such a link would further take away from her day. 

An educated opinion of Kacy could be formed  through her present and future time on PgAL that EVERYONE wished her.  Instead, there is an entirely new post devoted to the issues that you are defending her against.

panacea05

raashton:

Though it is admirable that you are defending your friend, I feel like you neglected to realize that posting such a link would further take away from her day. 

An educated opinion of Kacy could be formed  through her present and future time on PgAL that EVERYONE wished her.  Instead, there is an entirely new post devoted to the issues that you are defending her against.

I personally asked Kacy if I could post this link, but thank you for your opinion.  

raashton

panacea05:

raashton:

Though it is admirable that you are defending your friend, I feel like you neglected to realize that posting such a link would further take away from her day. 

An educated opinion of Kacy could be formed  through her present and future time on PgAL that EVERYONE wished her.  Instead, there is an entirely new post devoted to the issues that you are defending her against.

I personally asked Kacy if I could post this link, but thank you for your opinion.  

Any time!

panacea05

raashton:

panacea05:

raashton:

Though it is admirable that you are defending your friend, I feel like you neglected to realize that posting such a link would further take away from her day. 

An educated opinion of Kacy could be formed  through her present and future time on PgAL that EVERYONE wished her.  Instead, there is an entirely new post devoted to the issues that you are defending her against.

I personally asked Kacy if I could post this link, but thank you for your opinion.  

Any time!

Sweet! 

zombiemommy

For what it's worth, I know Kacy in real life and in the bump world and she is a totally great person. I think everyone has the right to their opinion, but I just want to put in my two cents that she is the kind of person that would be of real benefit to any board and she has really been a great support system for me through my loss and this new pregnancy.

KacyChicago

I've stayed out of this "kerfuffle" today, because I agree, it wasn't the time or the place. Nor do I see or understand why any of it happened to begin with. But I feel like I do need to acknowledge it, because I don't want anyone to think I'm sitting idly by, enjoying the drama that started today simply by me sharing my news. I didn't just gloss over the fact that I left TTCAL, quite frankly I found it irrelevant. And I was extremely surprised it even still mattered.

I hold no ill will toward anyone that holds a grudge simply because I left the other board in April. I just ask you to please not interact with me if you so overtly feel that way. I came to the board today because I want and need support. If you can't give it to me because of the truths I spoke months ago, I won't ask for it. Honestly, I couldn't take a lot of what was happening there at the time, and there's no shame in that.

It's your prerogative to think whatever you choose to about me, and I can't do anything about it. People will perceive you however they want to, no matter what. But I am a full believer of your actions speaking louder than words on an internet forum, and I am so thankful that for many, my light shines through. (Or should I say, my actual "true colors.") I am the type of person that genuinely loves and supports everyone, and I am so humbled to see that opinion from dozens win over the words of a few. So to everyone who came to my defense today, thank you, but know I hate that you even had to.

I am bummed that a lot of this overshadowed one of the best days I have had in the whole of 2012. Today I should have been reveling in my excitement, like you all got to do. Instead, I was worried that I had "hurt" people by simply getting pregnant again. Did I expect it to happen so quick? Nope. Am I supposed to apologize for that? Because I won't. I am 36 years old, and I want nothing more than to be a Mom, the same as every single one of you. The first thing I did when that word popped up on my digital test was to cry for the baby I didn't have, the one I still ache for every single day. I'm not promised that this one will come home with me in June, but I am thankful I get a chance to do it over again. And I hope for such a great outcome this time, the same I would wish for any of you.

ilenegrace

KacyChicago:

I've stayed out of this "kerfuffle" today, because I agree, it wasn't the time or the place. Nor do I see or understand why any of it happened to begin with. But I feel like I do need to acknowledge it, because I don't want anyone to think I'm sitting idly by, enjoying the drama that started today simply by me sharing my news. I didn't just gloss over the fact that I left TTCAL, quite frankly I found it irrelevant. And I was extremely surprised it even still mattered.

I hold no ill will toward anyone that holds a grudge simply because I left the other board in April. I just ask you to please not interact with me if you so overtly feel that way. I came to the board today because I want and need support. If you can't give it to me because of the truths I spoke months ago, I won't ask for it. Honestly, I couldn't take a lot of what was happening there at the time, and there's no shame in that.

It's your prerogative to think whatever you choose to about me, and I can't do anything about it. People will perceive you however they want to, no matter what. But I am a full believer of your actions speaking louder than words on an internet forum, and I am so thankful that for many, my light shines through. (Or should I say, my actual "true colors.") I am the type of person that genuinely loves and supports everyone, and I am so humbled to see that opinion from dozens win over the words of a few. So to everyone who came to my defense today, thank you, but know I hate that you even had to.

I am bummed that a lot of this overshadowed one of the best days I have had in the whole of 2012. Today I should have been reveling in my excitement, like you all got to do. Instead, I was worried that I had "hurt" people by simply getting pregnant again. Did I expect it to happen so quick? Nope. Am I supposed to apologize for that? Because I won't. I am 36 years old, and I want nothing more than to be a Mom, the same as every single one of you. The first thing I did when that word popped up on my digital test was to cry for the baby I didn't have, the one I still ache for every single day. I'm not promised that this one will come home with me in June, but I am thankful I get a chance to do it over again. And I hope for such a great outcome this time, the same I would wish for any of you.

I don't know you but I just wanted to wish you a huge congratulations!!! Welcome to the board sweetie!

raashton

KacyChicago:

I've stayed out of this "kerfuffle" today, because I agree, it wasn't the time or the place. Nor do I see or understand why any of it happened to begin with. But I feel like I do need to acknowledge it, because I don't want anyone to think I'm sitting idly by, enjoying the drama that started today simply by me sharing my news. I didn't just gloss over the fact that I left TTCAL, quite frankly I found it irrelevant. And I was extremely surprised it even still mattered.

I hold no ill will toward anyone that holds a grudge simply because I left the other board in April. I just ask you to please not interact with me if you so overtly feel that way. I came to the board today because I want and need support. If you can't give it to me because of the truths I spoke months ago, I won't ask for it. Honestly, I couldn't take a lot of what was happening there at the time, and there's no shame in that.

It's your prerogative to think whatever you choose to about me, and I can't do anything about it. People will perceive you however they want to, no matter what. But I am a full believer of your actions speaking louder than words on an internet forum, and I am so thankful that for many, my light shines through. (Or should I say, my actual "true colors.") I am the type of person that genuinely loves and supports everyone, and I am so humbled to see that opinion from dozens win over the words of a few. So to everyone who came to my defense today, thank you, but know I hate that you even had to.

I am bummed that a lot of this overshadowed one of the best days I have had in the whole of 2012. Today I should have been reveling in my excitement, like you all got to do. Instead, I was worried that I had "hurt" people by simply getting pregnant again. Did I expect it to happen so quick? Nope. Am I supposed to apologize for that? Because I won't. I am 36 years old, and I want nothing more than to be a Mom, the same as every single one of you. The first thing I did when that word popped up on my digital test was to cry for the baby I didn't have, the one I still ache for every single day. I'm not promised that this one will come home with me in June, but I am thankful I get a chance to do it over again. And I hope for such a great outcome this time, the same I would wish for any of you.

I think you deserve your rainbow.  And I genuinely hope that this is it for you.  I think your true colors would come through in how you support currently and what I hope would be for 9 months here.  That's what I am saying, that in making a new post it was just perpetuating what was upseting to you will mar your current and future experience.  I in no way believe that you don't deserve to be a mother or that you've stabbed me in the back by getting pregnant.  ANY woman who has gone to hell and back deserves her happy ending. 

xxswebbxx

KacyChicago:

I've stayed out of this "kerfuffle" today, because I agree, it wasn't the time or the place. Nor do I see or understand why any of it happened to begin with. But I feel like I do need to acknowledge it, because I don't want anyone to think I'm sitting idly by, enjoying the drama that started today simply by me sharing my news. I didn't just gloss over the fact that I left TTCAL, quite frankly I found it irrelevant. And I was extremely surprised it even still mattered.

I hold no ill will toward anyone that holds a grudge simply because I left the other board in April. I just ask you to please not interact with me if you so overtly feel that way. I came to the board today because I want and need support. If you can't give it to me because of the truths I spoke months ago, I won't ask for it. Honestly, I couldn't take a lot of what was happening there at the time, and there's no shame in that.

It's your prerogative to think whatever you choose to about me, and I can't do anything about it. People will perceive you however they want to, no matter what. But I am a full believer of your actions speaking louder than words on an internet forum, and I am so thankful that for many, my light shines through. (Or should I say, my actual "true colors.") I am the type of person that genuinely loves and supports everyone, and I am so humbled to see that opinion from dozens win over the words of a few. So to everyone who came to my defense today, thank you, but know I hate that you even had to.

I am bummed that a lot of this overshadowed one of the best days I have had in the whole of 2012. Today I should have been reveling in my excitement, like you all got to do. Instead, I was worried that I had "hurt" people by simply getting pregnant again. Did I expect it to happen so quick? Nope. Am I supposed to apologize for that? Because I won't. I am 36 years old, and I want nothing more than to be a Mom, the same as every single one of you. The first thing I did when that word popped up on my digital test was to cry for the baby I didn't have, the one I still ache for every single day. I'm not promised that this one will come home with me in June, but I am thankful I get a chance to do it over again. And I hope for such a great outcome this time, the same I would wish for any of you.

I vaguely remember this from TTCAL.

Welcome back & Congratz on your rainbow!