August 2012 Moms

If You Don't Have Anything Nice To Say...

Subject: If You Don't Have Anything Nice To Say...

I keep having the same WTF moment again and again. My husband is a weapons load team chief so he has people working for him and with him. One of the people in his crew happens to be a girl who is very pretty and sweet. I really like her, she lives a few houses down from us and shes a total sweet heart. While hes gone my husband spends a lot of time with her because clearly they work 12 hour shifts and are on the same schedule. They go to the gym together or run together and catch most meals together. This doesn't bother me. I mean, my husband isn't the type to go out of his way to make friends (though he is super nice). He prefers to be by himself and not worry too much about what other people think, and you know... he likes his free time to talk to me and his daughter rather than trying to maintain a friendship by watching a sports game or hanging out with some other people.

Anyway, every time I talk to him and she says hi I am always happy to see her and say hi. If I ever mention this to anyone or they realize how much time they spend together they say things like 'Should you be worried?' or they give me the look like 'be careful.' WTF?! SERIOUSLY!? I'm thousands of miles away, have a post baby body, haven't been with my husband in over 5 months and now you want to plant the seed of doubt in my mind that hes interested in a skinny blonde girl while I'm home with his baby!?

My husband would NEVER EVER cheat on me, but more improtantly he would never get involved with A. someone who he outranks (which is seriously frown upon if not grounds to get in a lot of trouble) B. someone in his own crew (which is even more bad). I just wonder why people would even say things like this?!

Re: If You Don't Have Anything Nice To Say...

  • I think it's people's natural insecurities if they've ever been cheated on. Knowing what I've been through in the past, I would have thought about it, too. But I don't think I'd say something outloud.
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  • imageBemyselfandi:
    I think it's people's natural insecurities if they've ever been cheated on. Knowing what I've been through in the past, I would have thought about it, too. But I don't think I'd say something outloud.

     

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    but if I were super close to you, like bff or family member i might say something too. Noone wants to be the blind girl that should have seen it and noone around her said anything. Does that make sense? Not saying YOU should be worried, just saying a typical person might be on alert. Gosh, I hope this is coming out right and Im not sounding like the ppl that upset you Zip it!

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  • I agree it peoples natural insecure minds. I wouldn't worry about him. You know your husband they don't. When my DH was deployed this was a worry of mine:( its so hard. From what it sounds like hes a good man who loves his family. When people say this to you just ignore them and feel bad for there insecure thoughts.
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  • imageBemyselfandi:
    I think it's people's natural insecurities if they've ever been cheated on. Knowing what I've been through in the past, I would have thought about it, too. But I don't think I'd say something outloud.


    This. A lot of people react from personal experiences and beliefs. The thought would have crossed my mind as well given my past, but I wouldn't say anything unless I was very close to this person but I wouldnt cross the boundries. I think it's great you have trust in your DH. That's a wonderful thing! I would just ask whoever keeps mentioning it to please keep their mouth shut :P
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  • That is the last thing you need to be worried about. Post baby body or not, he loves you. Sure we all have those moments that we worry, but don't let people make your imagination run wild. I'd also tell people, maybe kindly depending who it is, to mind their own business.
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  • Thank you all! :) You make me feel better!

    And I do understand where they are coming from it's just, damn...I've got enough anxiety already! lol

  • Well stand up for yourself and if anyone says anything let them know that it isn't the position they should put you in. It is jerky for people to say things like that.
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