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August 2012 Moms
JBullock10
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Moms W/ Older LOs Come In
JBullock10
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Title: Moms w/ Older LOs Come In
DD#1 just turned 2 a couple of days ago and she has been driving me insane for a while now. I have 2 other children in the house that are younger and it's hard to give everyone equal attention sometimes. I try, I really do.DD#1 screams constantly, during the daytime, at bedtime, for any and every reason.. and I don't mean like shrieks every once in a while, I mean full on, as loud as she possibly can screaming for 30 minutes or more. No matter what we do (other than holding her) she will not stop unless it's momentarily when we give her a new toy, or a drink, etcBefore DS was born she had a wonderful vocabulary, 20+ words, could form small sentences, asked for things by name, didn't have a problem with bedtime, screaming, hitting or anything like that. She was a pretty easy baby until DS came along. After DS was born she became selectively mute pretty much. She refused to use any words at all and would only scream and point (sometimes not even that) to tell us what was wrong or what she wanted.She's now back up to maybe 15 words that she uses but she still generalizes food and drink under one word for each (she used to name things specifically), she hits her brother, pushes him down so many times that he is now afraid of standing and walking (which he hasn't started yet), screams as described above, and is ridiculously difficult to put down for nap and bedtime. She also has started to refuse to go potty in her diaper but only sits on her potty without using it.I am seriously at my wits end and do not know what to do.. I am EBF DD#2 and DS is still crawling and very much a momma's boy, DD#1 is getting out of control and I need advice on how to help her and me.If you got it this far, you deserve an award , I just feel like I'm failing her, or that I traumatized her by having her siblings or something
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Re: Moms W/ Older LOs Come In
That would be hard to deal with! Does she have a specific routine for bedtime every night? I would try to do the same thing every night, either you or dh and don't keep giving her new toys or drinks etc since she seems to be using it as a delay tactic. You would have to be very firm with her, but after a few days I would think she would know exactly what to expect and it would get easier.
As for being mean to her brother, just remove her from the situation every. Single. Time. Make a big deal about making sure brother is ok and then take her. To her room and explain that she can come out again when she feels like she can be nice again.
Also, try to make sure you get some one on one with her very day. I know, easier saidd than done bwith a newborn and EBF, but it doesn't have to be a long time, just some extra snuggles when she wakes up, or a special treat when the others are napping..
No matter what you do, this phase won't last forever. She will get through it and so will you. Good luck!
Side note since I'm on my phone, but do you have 3u3? If so, you have even more of my sympathies!! I honestly couldn't imagine. You're a brave mother and a stronger woman than I! Hang in there, mama!
Every little but counts. I also agree with PP, being firm and no rewards for screaming will help. She's old enough to understand she needs to User big girl words and no screaming. It'll take a lot of consistency but the end product will be you,having a smoother day.
Yes DD1 is Sept 2010 DS is Sept 2011 and DD2 is Aug 2012.. Obviously difficult but we're surviving lol.
To everyone that answered, thank you... I have just started doing one on one time with her everyday, she is a strong willed child and I guess I'm just going to have to be a little more on her about her behavior and not trying to placate her temporarily