I don't think I am cut out for this vent

mrsrobyno

I feel like such a failure as a mom. LO has spent the whole day crying and not sleeping. I am exhausted and in tears. I feel like nothing I do works or is good enough to make her stop... I am growing more and more frustrated by the hour. DH just took over and is sleeping on the couch in the living room tonight and he took her RNP out there so she can sleep out there too and I can try and get some sleep myself, and as much as I appreciate this it just makes me feel even more defeated. I am so jealous of people who's LOs will go to bed and sleep for hours, because I am convinced my 5 week old hates me and is bound and determined to make me lose my mind every day. If God won't give me more than I can handle, can someone please give him the memo that I think I have reached my limit??? Sorry ladies, really needed to get that one off of my chest....

Daniellekrista

If LO has spent all day crying, call your pedi.

I came to the realization the other day, during a crying fit, that ds doesn't want to be like this. He would rather be sleeping or content. It helped change my mindset about the crying somehow. Now I just think, "poor baby" rather than,"just be quiet already."

rainedrops117

I'm sorry you're feeling defeated.  Our babies are around the same age - I remember Koa's first few weeks were horrible, he was fussy non-stop and seemed he rarely slept.  It's just now getting better so I hope your LOs "getting better" phase comes soon.

But like other pp said, a trip to the pedi may diagnose any issues as well. Hang in there!

tammynixx

The crying can be hard sometimes but that is how they communicate with us. You are not a failure. This is some hard work but everything will get better. It just takes time. GL!

emtjen79

My pediatrician said peak crying happens around 6 weeks. You are not a failure and remember when you are tired things seem so much worse. I hope you were able to get some sleep!

Manda-Kay

I almost posted a similar thread. Nothing i do will ever help him sleep. i also think to myself that God won't give me more than I can handle, but sometimes I think otherwise. Like pp said, I had to change my mindset that DS isn't crying because he's a brat. He's crying because he's in pain. This doesn't stopping me dropping the fbomb when his crying and sleep deprivation are too much. But it helps when people ask if he's a good baby and I smile and say no to explain he just doesn't feel good.

SpruceGrouse

I felt like that the first two weeks. I agree that you should go to the doctor just in case. I am sure it will get better for you, and I like the saying above about it being the baby that is having a hard time.  Even if that is known, it doesn't make it easier because as a mom you want to be the comfort.  Don't worry your baby doesn't hate you.

klp28

I really hate the phrase "god won't give me more than I can handle" because it tends to make people feel like failures if they are having trouble coping. And, news flash, a lot of people actually are given more than they can handle, hence the existence of mental health profession.

Honestly, a screaming baby all day would be more than I can handle! You're doing a great job, mama! I'll echo the PPs and say take LO to the pedi to rule out medical issues that could be helped. Hang in there!!

PhillyGal34

You are a great mother. the fact that you aren't ok with this and care enough to find something that works to help her shows how loving you are.  if she cries all day again I agree that maybe a pedi visit will help... at least it may ease your mind when you hear that you are doing everything right.

and I am so glad you have a supportive husband that is helping... you guys will make it through this! and you will look back and... ok maybe you will never laugh about this. 

 

Hope today is better!