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hubby JUST left :(

nlj627nlj627
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My husband is on a submarine and their schedule is X months out to sea and x-x months in so I knew there was no way to avoid him going out to sea while being pregnant and I thought I was prepared for the time came and he's now out to sea and I can't seem to pull it together. Not sure if everyone here is farmiliar with submarins and pretty much there are about 2 months where there is no communication from him to me and I feel so lonely even with a few friends here and family that i can call any time. I just wish that I could ear his voice. I feel bad and know that I should feel happy that he will be home for the birth and that he is only missing small portion but it feels so horrible right now. Also I have had some complications in this pregnancy and I am absolutely terrified something horrible will happen while hes gone. Thanks for allowing me to vent even though this is my first time on the Miliary board. I guess I'm just scared and emotional and lonely all wrapped up into one.

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    ladybugpjbladybugpjb member

    ((hugs))

    The first few days after they go can be really rough. Get yourself into a routine and surround yourself with other people. It's not the same as hearing his voice, but at least you won't be alone. You can still email him or write him letters, even if he won't get them for awhile. When DH was deployed, I emailed at least once a day, even if he couldn't write back. I don't know if he read all of them (since I ramble quite a bit), but it helped me feel like the communication lines were still open.

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    inateapotinateapot
    I know how hard this is (we've had 3 deployments), but I'm sure everything will be fine. Hang in there!
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    kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
    I never had to go that long without hearing from MH, but I also had him call and leave me a message that was about a minute long so I'd always have something to listen to his voice with. Maybe when he can call, have him do that?
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    laurelita42laurelita42 member
    One thing that I like to do when I know that DH will be out of contact for a while is to leave him a voice message, that way he doesn't check in and have 50 emails from me. I use k7.net, which was something I didn't know existed until my spouses' club brought it up. You sign up (using his work email address) and it will assign you a phone number. Then you can call that number whenever you want, leave a voice message, and it will get emailed as a .wav file that he can listen to right away! I think it sends a confirmation email when you register, so you would just want to let your husband know you've signed up. My husband loves being able to hear me talk instead of just reading all the time. This is my first deployment too, so I am right there with you... you're not alone!
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    WifeyMommy2011WifeyMommy2011 member
    The first night I was a MESS, I couldn't stop crying and there was nothing anyone could do to make me feel better.  The first week, I would cry myself to sleep.  After that I got into a rhythm with DS and it started to go by fast.  Halfway through I hit a rut, but now we are only days away from him coming home and it feels like it's just creeping by.  DS has been my saving grace during this deployment.  I can understand how you would feel like it would creep by, especially since pregnancy seems to creep by (for me it did anyway).  Try to stay busy, make little milestones. Like every month you get through go get a mani/pedi, go out and see movies, go out to dinner.  You won't have the time when LO comes.  Just don't sit around the house, that makes the days REALLY go by slowly.
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    nlj627nlj627
    Thats awesome.. you cant do that with a submarine though. atleast not the type my husband is on. This is my 4th deployment it just feels so different! Good luck!
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    nlj627nlj627
    unfortunatley there are no phone calls on submarines although that would be awesome. He did record a small message on the voice recorder before he left.. its just not the same as being able to talk to eachother or keep in contact :(
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    nlj627nlj627
    Thats awesome.. you cant do that with a submarine though. atleast not the type my husband is on. This is my 4th deployment it just feels so different! Good luck!
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