RE phone call with results and final game plan

rrdiva1

You ever have those moments in life where everything just kind of stops, and all you can hear is the beating of your own heart? Well I just had one of those moments.

We received the results from Hubbs SA, and although his motility went up to 48% from 20% his numbers were still below the 5 million mark to do IUI. She advised his morph was like 2%. SO just not enough to do anything. WHEW, it was like a kick in the head. We kind of knew, but until they tell ya, you hold out for hope.

They advised us that based on everything our only real chance/option is IVF with ICSI, and we can do it any time I am ready. She said he has some pretty good sperm and my body is doing well for a 34 year old, no time like the present.She also said she hopes I am pregnant, and won't need to do anything. 10/5 seems like a bigger day than I ever thought, pregant, or the start of the IVF road.. I am scared, excited, crazy, hopeful, all into one. I am a little sad I didn't even get to try IUI, but then again I am glad at least we have some option. I am blessed no matter how you look at it!!!!

Thank you ladies for reading this, and being here for me.

 

MrsSJE2011

So glad you can start to move forward

Aurora1181

I'm sorry that you got sucky news about your DH You sound so positive though, so that's good! Someone on here once said that their RE said he wishes all couples who are having trouble could jump to IVF since it gives you the best chance. So at least there's that! Good luck to you and the new plan!!

BlueEyedDreamer

Isn't it weird how each step further down this road takes some options away but gives us new and promising ones, too? It's definitely a double-edged sword. You don't know to feel devastated or hopeful. {{hugs}}

I hope you're KU and don't even need IVF, but if you do move on to that, then I'm glad you guys have a good plan moving forward!

BellaLux

Oh my dear, I completely understand and sympathize with the shock of being told IVF is your only option! It's terrifying and overwhelming. I won't lie and say it's a walk in the park, but be encouraged that many have traveled that road and we are all here to support you! The Infertility board has a ton of ladies doing IVF and we even have cycle buddies. I'm part of the "September Sweethearts" and I can't tell you how much those ladies have helped me...we have all gone through this together and it's made it bearable.

The October ("Pumpkin Patch") and November (I think "Turkey Basters") have badges and have already formed a close knit group. There are weekly check-ins and like I said you will have a lot of support and an answer for any question imaginable.

Every cycle is different, but if you have any questions, please let me know! I will be with you every step of the way:-)

Juicy71

Wow, sweetie... 10/5 is a big day for both of us as it is my beta day!!

I know IVF can be a scary thing and, hopefully you don't have to go there, but if you do, you know I'm here for you!!

((((hugs))))

futurehuber

Good luck on 10/5!! But great you have a plan to move forward just in case.

rrdiva1

Aurora1181:

I'm sorry that you got sucky news about your DH You sound so positive though, so that's good! Someone on here once said that their RE said he wishes all couples who are having trouble could jump to IVF since it gives you the best chance. So at least there's that! Good luck to you and the new plan!!

Yes, still stinks to be told no other options though. But yes I guess best chances. Thanks you

karda2011

:::hugs::: I am so sorry diva : GL moving forward!

NicoleRich105

Sending you more hugs!!

 

larhun3

Hugs diva! Sending good thoughts your way and I hope that you and your husband can decide what's best for you. Good luck and I hope you get good news on 10/5.

ElleBeeKay

I'm so sorry for the news about your H. I will be rooting for you on 10/5!

pantsarella

I'm so sorry you had to get that news. Trust me, I know exactly how you feel. We were so hopeful that we would be able to do an IUI after the varicocele surgery. When I got that phone call, my heart stopped and my stomach dropped. I went home from work that day and cried my eyes out.

Our only option is IVF with ICSI, too. I just keep telling myself that there are some good sperm in there and ICSI takes away the fight for them to have to get to the egg. And since I don't have any issues that we know about, IVF is helping us overcome our one obstacle to getting pregnant. So I'm thinking our odds are pretty good. At least that thinking keeps me positive.

daisy19782011

I am so sorry! I am 34 also and feel that pressure. We are doing one more IUI and the on to IVF as well. Sorry you are going through this.

rrdiva1

pantsarella:

I'm so sorry you had to get that news. Trust me, I know exactly how you feel. We were so hopeful that we would be able to do an IUI after the varicocele surgery. When I got that phone call, my heart stopped and my stomach dropped. I went home from work that day and cried my eyes out.

Our only option is IVF with ICSI, too. I just keep telling myself that there are some good sperm in there and ICSI takes away the fight for them to have to get to the egg. And since I don't have any issues that we know about, IVF is helping us overcome our one obstacle to getting pregnant. So I'm thinking our odds are pretty good. At least that thinking keeps me positive.

I just want to cyber hug you, thank you for this seriously! I teared up reading this. We are like twins. I just sat and talked with Dr. Lee this morning, and ivf was approved if we are not ku by next week I start IVF. They ordered my meds this morning, and med company just did my profile. SO Oct is when we are doing it. So surreal, scary, but for the first time I feel so hopeful ya know. I need to get my badge on my siggy huh lol. THanks again. I will be here for you!!!!<3

rrdiva1

BlueEyedDreamer:

Isn't it weird how each step further down this road takes some options away but gives us new and promising ones, too? It's definitely a double-edged sword. You don't know to feel devastated or hopeful. {{hugs}}

I hope you're KU and don't even need IVF, but if you do move on to that, then I'm glad you guys have a good plan moving forward!

BED! You hit it on the head, you mourn the idea of the options, but I am so hopeful for at least this option. THank you, so much this comment really summed up how I felt!!!

BlueEyedDreamer

rrdiva1:

BlueEyedDreamer:

Isn't it weird how each step further down this road takes some options away but gives us new and promising ones, too? It's definitely a double-edged sword. You don't know to feel devastated or hopeful. {{hugs}}

I hope you're KU and don't even need IVF, but if you do move on to that, then I'm glad you guys have a good plan moving forward!

BED! You hit it on the head, you mourn the idea of the options, but I am so hopeful for at least this option. THank you, so much this comment really summed up how I felt!!!

I'm glad it helped, diva! Even if just a little bit!

Try to embrace that hopeful feeling. I have my FX for you.  

pantsarella

rrdiva1:

pantsarella:

I'm so sorry you had to get that news. Trust me, I know exactly how you feel. We were so hopeful that we would be able to do an IUI after the varicocele surgery. When I got that phone call, my heart stopped and my stomach dropped. I went home from work that day and cried my eyes out.

Our only option is IVF with ICSI, too. I just keep telling myself that there are some good sperm in there and ICSI takes away the fight for them to have to get to the egg. And since I don't have any issues that we know about, IVF is helping us overcome our one obstacle to getting pregnant. So I'm thinking our odds are pretty good. At least that thinking keeps me positive.

I just want to cyber hug you, thank you for this seriously! I teared up reading this. We are like twins. I just sat and talked with Dr. Lee this morning, and ivf was approved if we are not ku by next week I start IVF. They ordered my meds this morning, and med company just did my profile. SO Oct is when we are doing it. So surreal, scary, but for the first time I feel so hopeful ya know. I need to get my badge on my siggy huh lol. THanks again. I will be here for you!!!!<3

We are totally twins! lol Take the time you need to process the news. That was huge for me. Anytime you want to *** about MFI, let me know! 

herecomesthesun

Stay positive, girl. At least there is a game plan now. That's progress.

TammyDoubleB

Best of luck to you, Diva. I'm excited for you as you take this next step! I've got everything crossed for you, my dear!