Has anyone read "Good Grief" by Westburg?

weddedwife

If so, did you like it? And does it apply to baby loss? It was recommended to me but I can't find a synopsis anywhere.

ally2011

I have read it and found it helpful....if I recall correctly, t goes into a few more phases of grief than the standard few that most people think of.  It was especially useful to me to work through the anger stage.  Another thing it talked about that was helpful to me was how we use grief to stay connected to the person we lost.... subconsciously we think if we stop grieving as hard we lose that person....this was especially true for me because Grace was a baby that I did not get to meet...so this was my connection with her.  If I had a day when I did not feel as grief stricken I would feel guilty as though I were leaving her behind.  Which is not true.  She will always be part of my life, she is my first born daughter.  And I honor her short life the most by living well and making her proud.

Anyway, that may be more rambling than you were looking for....but the moral is, I found it helpful  I read it at 8/9 months out.

I am glad your baby is still baking away!  I hope you are not going too stir crazy on bedrest.

Hugs,

Jenn 

Bayberry12

ally2011:

 Another thing it talked about that was helpful to me was how we use grief to stay connected to the person we lost.... subconsciously we think if we stop grieving as hard we lose that person....this was especially true for me because Grace was a baby that I did not get to meet...so this was my connection with her.  If I had a day when I did not feel as grief stricken I would feel guilty as though I were leaving her behind.  Which is not true.  She will always be part of my life, she is my first born daughter.  And I honor her short life the most by living well and making her proud.

I should get this book for my husband!  But, he probably wont read it lol.

I completely relate to using grief to stay connected!  We don't have "living" memories to hold on to.  Although I don't feel guilty if I have a good/happy day anymore, but when I have a sad day I really hold on to it.    

JonesBaby0624

I read it but I found it to be common sense kind of stuff.  The book I found to be helpful was "An exact replica of a figment of my imagination".

weddedwife

GBabyMom:

I read it but I found it to be common sense kind of stuff.  The book I found to be helpful was "An exact replica of a figment of my imagination".

I loved that book. I read it twice. I also read "Empty Cradle, Broken Heart" and liked that one too. I also read "Stillborn: The Invisible Death".