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How far is too far to give birth????

Please be advised that I am not even pregnant yet. I just had an ectopic pregnancy in July while ttc via iui. Ever since then, I have been thinking positively about having a baby as a want to try to move on from the loss. I am currently waiting for ghi to approve my ivf treatments so I can get started.  Anywho, I live in Brooklyn, NY and I am not too thrilled with the Hospitals in Brooklyn. As a matter of fact, I am not too thrilled with any Hospital in the City because I do not want to share a room with anyone, some of the staff in the City hospitals are very abrupt, it is too much hustle and bustle and it is too expensive to obtain a private room for recovery (Some Hospitals are $800 per nightblush). So, I have been doing my research and found 2 Hospitals on Long Island that have ALL private rooms and the standard of care and bedside manner throughout the Hospital is excellent. However, the closest one is about an hour away in moderate traffic and about an hour and a half in bad traffic. Is that too far?? Then, the obgyn is in Queens but it's also about an hour away by train. Is that too far??? I

Re: How far is too far to give birth????

  • Well, the obgyn office is in Queens which is about an hour and 15 minutes away. I would have to take a train there because we do not have a car yet. However, the hospital itself, we would more than likely travel via cab or hopefully, we would have a vehicle by then.
  • I would not be comfortable with a hospital an hour and a half away. My first delivery was very quick and I barely made it to the hospital, which is about 20 minutes away. If I had to go 1.5 hours I would have given birth in a car. My situation is probably not the norm, but I personally would not do it. 
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  • IMO I would travel the hour to Long Island if it means being more comfortable and relaxed. Giving birth is stressful enough, you don't need the extra stress if you can avoid it.
  • I would want to deliver close to home. Labor is unpredictable and I'd want my doctor to be close by in the scenario that my water broke and labor began at 28 weeks or something. I definitely understand the desire to have your own room/more compassionate staff, but the time you spend in the hospital after delivering is so short. Plus, I think it would be easier to find a great OB close to home vs traveling an hour.

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  • I live in a rural area, and there is a county hospital about 10min from my house, but they do not have any advanced support, so if anything happened they would have to air lift you to the closest hospital with a NICU. 

    My OBGYN is about 45min from my home, and she only delivers at the hospital in the city (about an hour from my home).  This is the hospital with the level 1 NICU that the county hospital would have to transfer you to anyway...

    My OBGYN had no problems with me being so far away, I delivered at the hospital an hour away from my home. Although, she was a little more cautious about keeping track of me at the end (I went into preterm labor at 32 weeks, was in the hospital for 3 days until they got it slowed down, then on strict bedrest, and weekly checks). 

    I don't think it's unreasonable to go a little further from your home to get a hospital you are comfortable with. That being said, if there is an emergency and you can't get there, you would obviously go to the closest hospital for the safety of you and your baby...

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  • I went from 5 cm to 10 cm in 20 minutes. I was literally holding my LO in while they were frantically trying to get the doctor in the room. My nurse was getting ready to catch. My hospital was only 10 minutes away from where we lived. I would have given birth in the car if my travel time was an hour.
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  • My dr and hospital is an hour drive from my house with no/light traffic.  The birthing center I really wanted to use is an hour from my house and 2 hours from my job.  We decided to go with the hospital because it wouldnt have been possible for me to get time off of work to go 2 hours away for an appt, not because I thought it was to far for me to go while in labor.
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    Well, the obgyn office is in Queens which is about an hour and 15 minutes away. I would have to take a train there because we do not have a car yet. However, the hospital itself, we would more than likely travel via cab or hopefully, we would have a vehicle by then.

    Do you really want to make that trip every month? Twice a month? Once a week? I Our regular OB is about 15 minutes away but every 9 weeks we have to see a fetal specialist which is an hour away and it's a pain. At 35 weeks we have to transfer to the specialist for our weekly visits and we are really not looking forward to the drive. I will also have to deliver at their hospital so I'm hoping this baby takes his/her time!

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  • I would want to deliver to a closer hospital, but I live in the burbs of Indianapolis
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  • Where in Brooklyn are you?  Where on the island are you looking?  What hosptials have you looked at?  You can get a private room in the city for $250 a night.

    I delivered in the city both times and shared a room and it was fine.  andplusalso, Kings County hopsital is a great hospital. 

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  • I'm also going to go out on a limb and say you aren't from here. 

     

    ETA: why the f*ck are you going to on OB/RE in Queens?

    ETA x2: get a zipcar

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  • My hospital and OB were 100 miles away. We live in a small town with a very small hospital but I was much more comfortable going to a larger hospital with a NICU and an OB instead of a GP.  The trips to the OB every month, 2 weeks then weekly were a little stressful but when it came time to deliver I was so confident and comfortable about where I was it was worth it.  I did opt for an induction to deliver because I lived so far away.  I would do it all over again and not change a thing.  Remember do what you need to do to make yourself comfortable.
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    Where in Brooklyn are you?  Where on the island are you looking?  What hosptials have you looked at?  You can get a private room in the city for $250 a night.

    I delivered in the city both times and shared a room and it was fine.  andplusalso, Kings County hopsital is a great hospital. 


    Ditto. No way would I try to make it to NSLIJ (If that's where you're thinking of). There are excellent hospitals in the city, I would look at them. 
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  • I delivered 4 miles from home.

    I'm glad we were so close.   The first time around the nurses told DH it was going to be a while and he was able to go home for 7 hours and get some stuff done - but could be back at a moments notice if needed.

    and with #2, it was great being close enough that the grandma's could bring #1 by to meet her new sister.

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  • Thank you for your responses. I guess I will go to ny Methodist. It has a decent reputation and its 15 minutes from my house. Their private rose are 250 a night. The last thing I want is to give birth too soon or have complications.
  • I would worry if the hospital had a NICU rather than a private room... I delivered at a hospital with a level 3 NICU that did not guarantee private rooms. My daughter needed the NICU team in her delivery at 39 weeks. I am glad the experts were present... Just something to think about.  

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  • My OB, and the hospital where Dom was born are both about 45 minutes away (without traffic, with traffic could easily be 1.5 - 2 hours).  Everything worked out fine for us.  The only problem I could see is if you labored at home for a while, you may not make it in time to deliver at the hospital.

    With us, we were going to L&D just to have me checked out because of cramping, and they ended up keeping me there all day trying to stop the contractions and Dom was born the next day.

    Apparently, when SIL was born, FIL took his sweet time dropping off BIL (DH's eldest sibling), and by the time MIL got admitted, the Doctors were not able to get her prepped.  SIL was born 15 minutes after MIL was admitted.

     I could not imagine sharing a room with someone else, but the hospital I delivered at only had single patient units, and you could rent a suite. (Though the room I was in was pretty sweet so I could imagine the suite being swanky) I would consider it worth, but there are always those crazy circumstances you may never expect.

     

    EDA:   I agree that NICU would have been much more important than a private room, and the hospital my OB delivers at has a fantastic level III NICU.  Dom was there for about a week before graduating to level II and it was nice to be able to walk over and see him while I was still admitted.

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  • @ weelass24 I was born and raised in Brooklyn. I am from Flatbush and live in Crown Heights. This is more so the reason why I know better. I am 5 minutes away from Kings County Hospital. Would you want to give birth there?? It is one of the worst Hospitals in the City. I have been there many times (since that is the community Hospital) and even though they rebuilt it, it still leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Traveling to Manhattan can take me anywhere from 30 to an hour and a half depending on location and traffic. I figured I could get to LI in at least an hour (which would take the same time to get to as Mt Sinai or perhaps NY Presbyterian. It is not hard to find a level 3 nicu. Their are plenty of them throughout the city. I just want my privacy and to be treated with respect and quality care. If u are from NY, U know that no one wants to deliver at Kings County, Brookdale, Woodhull, Brooklyn, Interfaith Hospitals and all the rest of hood Hospitals that treat you like crap, have disgusting facilities and have no regard for standard/quality of care. That is y a lot of people are having their children in Manhattan instead. However, I did decide that when that time comes, I'll go to New York Methodist. It is closer to me (15 minutes) away and has decent/mixed reviews. It is the best Hospital in Brooklyn but compared to what??? The worst Hospitals in NY?? I and my future baby deserve the best care both medically and via the Hospital staff.
  • Well that certainly explains a lot.  and if kings county is so gowawful, why would the NYPD bring all of their close enough wounded officers to Kings?  Why?  Because they are the best. 

    And you know what, I didn't want to deliver at Elmhurst (for my own personal reasons), but you can be damn sure they know what they are doing when it comes to L&D because they see everything.  Just like Kings.  But, you are right, no hood hospitals for your baby. 

    If you are really concered about it, check out NY Downtown.

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  • No skittles for hood babies. 
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  • Kings County is good for NYPD because:

    A. It is a good Trauma Hospital but if u are a civilian in trauma, u will be waiting there for at least 10 hours for care in your own blood and feces (I have seen it all). I have been there when the homeless people used to sleep in the waiting room and the sick cried out in pain. I was born there and back in the day, that was the go to Hospital for convenience in the neighborhood. Now that everyone is sick and tired of being treated like an animal, they go elsewhere (If their insurance permits it). This is the go to place if you do not have any insurance and have no other alternative. Besides, NYPD gets first priority in any Hospital in the City and depending on what Borough they are in, they go to the best Trauma unti. In Queens, Jamaica Hospital. In Brooklyn, Kings County. In Manhattan, Bellevue. In the Bronx, Jacobi. ALL OF THESE HOSPITALS ARE GOOD AT TRAUMA BUT HORRIBLE IN EVERY OTHER AREA. AGAIN, NYPD HAS 1ST PRIORITY. CIVILIANS STAY IN THERE ALL NIGHT AND DAY. People that have a choice try to look for better hospital. I have a choice. I deserve better.

    However, I can bet you anything that none of those officers would choose that Hospital for labor and delivery. 

     @ Excitedtos what's with the skittles comment???

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    Kings County is good for NYPD because:

    A. It is a good Trauma Hospital but if u are a civilian in trauma, u will be waiting there for at least 10 hours for care.

    NYPD gets first priority in any Hospital in the City 


    Yeah, as an ER nurse who worked in a city hospital for 8 years I can tell you that is outright false. I know that's how people like to see it, but it just isn't true. 

    Go wherever you want to have your baby. You asked a question, we answered it. You don't like the answer, who the fcuk cares? Go to Greenwich or Westchester or NSLIJ for all we care. 

    And please, for the sake of all that is holy, STOP USING TXT SPK. There are 26 letters in the English alphabet. Use them. It does not take longer to type out YOU. 
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  • What is your problem??? Was I rude to you??? We don't know each other from anywhere. Don't get your blood pressure up. I don't do online arguing. In response to your comments. I do find the "skittles in the hood comment" offensive but whatever. Again, you are online and I came for for informative conversation. Secondly, I was born in Kings County Hospital. I have been going to Kings County Hospital since I was a child and most people from my neighborhood has been to KKH. I have waited (personally) for hours to be seen. Everyone I know has went through the same experience. Their are times I have got to the emergency room at 8pm and left at 4am. My mom had a stroke and was in the emergency room for 2 nights straight without being put in a room. She finally was placed in a room the 3rd day. That was in 2006. Maybe things have changed since then. However, I know what I and all of the Brooklynites from my area have experienced. I am not going to argue with you though. Enjoy your day and I hope that you do not respond everyone like this because some people come here for information and need help figuring things out and might take what you say to heart. I don't because I have tough skin and do not know you from a hole in the wall. It might be different if I actually knew you especially the skittles in the hood comment which was referring to the Trayvon Martin travesty. Hav a great day :)
  • What you are describing is the overuse of emergency systems, not just a crappy ER. Every ER in the country is overwhelmed on a weekly basis, OF COURSE it's going to take you hours to be seen. Of course traumas are going to be taken more seriously. It's the ER, that's what we do. (It's right there in the name - EMERGENCY)

    Many admitted patients stay for days in the ER because there aren't available rooms upstairs. Again, not a KCH problem (or other 'hood hospitals' as you so lovingly described it), it's because hospitals are in crisis. And NONE of this has jack to do with your original question. 

    You asked how close or far you should be from a hospital and you got several very good answers. No way in hell would I want to travel from Crown Heights to Nassau County just to get a private room. I saw my RE a minimum of once a week, and sometimes everyday of the week. OB appointments add up. If I go into labor during rush hour on a friday, there is probably zero chance that I would make it to a 'better' hospital. 

    There are very good hospitals in Brooklyn, and Queens, and Manhattan. Take your pick. Wee gave you good advice, check out NY Downtown. Check out Elmhurst. Maybe look beyond your own preconceived notions about what constitutes a good L&D unit.  

    And for the love of God I wasn't referencing Trayvon Martin. 

    Take the stick out of your arse and unclench. 
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  • ::drags ETS out of post::  Not worth it. 

    and LOL at someone in Crown Heights complaining about the hood

     

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  • Sigh. Fine. 

    Now I want Skittles. 
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  • Did I say that traumas are less or more priority? I most certainly did not. I said NYPD has 1st priority and rightfully so. If you are a civilian, you will WAIT. I have also seen a difference in Hospitals such as St Lukes Rossevelt in Manhattan that I was in and out and treated with quality care. Their no comparison in Hospitals.  My RE is in St Lukes Roosevelt and he is one of the best. That's why most people in the City choose one Hospital over the other. You should know that all Hospitals in the City are not equivalent in terms of care and quality. That is what this entire conversation was about. Getting the best care. I read posters opinions. I agreed and I have decided to go somewhere closer. Obviously you didn't read that. You just want to argue with me. I am not looking for an argument. I come to this site to learn, share and support. That is what most of us are here for. We are supposed to be supporting each other. Not tearing each other down. Tongue Tied
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    ::drags ETS out of post::  Not worth it. 

    and LOL at someone in Crown Heights complaining about the hood

     

     

    So, because I live in Crown Heights I should just accept anything. I understand. I have all races living in my neighborhood. White, Black and Hispanic. Do we all not deserve the best?? Ya'll sound crazy!!!

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    Did I say that traumas are less or more priority? I most certainly did not. I said NYPD has 1st priority and rightfully so. If you are a civilian, you will WAIT. I have also seen a difference in Hospitals such as St Lukes Rossevelt in Manhattan that I was in and out and treated with quality care. Their no comparison in Hospitals.  My RE is in St Lukes Roosevelt and he is one of the best. That's why most people in the City choose one Hospital over the other. You should know that all Hospitals in the City are not equivalent in terms of care and quality. That is what this entire conversation was about. Getting the best care. I read posters opinions. I agreed and I have decided to go somewhere closer. Obviously you didn't read that. You just want to argue with me. I am not looking for an argument. I come to this site to learn, share and support. That is what most of us are here for. We are supposed to be supporting each other. Not tearing each other down. Tongue Tied

    A) This board is not for support. If you want support, go to BabyGaga or grow a thicker skin.

    B) No one here was "tearing you down". See A for further info.

    C) Welcome to the internet. People who spout off stupidly get put in their place.

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  • Have a nice day ladies. lmfaooooo
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  • shibby was here! My hospital is 13 mins away, can I have skittles?
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