My fiance is in the National Guard and he had drill last weekend and he came home and told me it looks like there will be an up coming deployment next year! I know it's part of the lifestyle especially since he plans on putting in the whole 20 years. But we were going to get married this November, but had to move the wedding due to the upcoming baby! So we moved it back a year and now it looks like we are going to have to change it again and it wont be what we wanted it to be. Just something alot smaller and what not. I am just so overwhelmed but super close to having my first LO and to think of all the things that he is going to miss by being gone for a year! I just needed to Vent!
I know i'm not the only one going through stuff like that and I am thankful that he will at least be here to see his son born! It just has been eating at me since he told me and he keeps telling me everything will be ok!! Sorry for the vent but I just wasn't ready to hear this yet I already have alot on my plate!
TIA for listening! Just so overwhelmed!
Re: My nightmare is coming true...
Pipsqueak born 6/9/14
This is what we're doing after the baby is born and he's gotten out of the army.
Ditto. We were legally married 15days prior to DH deploying. Now in NOV we're doing a big to-do in TN. While it may not be what you want right at this moment you'll be able to tweak the larger one to fit exactly as you want. Also when/if you decide to do the smaller affiar you'll have the support of the FRG which is always nice.
This.
I know it's hard, but keep thinking about your little guy and how great things will be when you have benefits and security while your hubs is away. Safety, security, that all trumps the frilly stuff. And you'll be able to plan what you do want while your man is away
I don't remember her proposing that as an option at all....
Other posters did. I'm saying she can have "security" without getting married.