Late Term and Child Loss

I saw my very pregnant neighbor (pg mentioned obviously)

Another young couple on our block lives about 3 doors up the street from us.  We are not close, but would always be friendly, and stop for conversation when we would see them out or around.  Well, the obviously they knew I was pregnant.  Back in March they sent an e-mail around to everyone on the block regarding a neighborhood issue, and mentioned that they were expecting their first child the end of summer. We were both excited to have more babies on the block, and future play dates.  I haven't seen them since my loss, and don't know if they are aware.

Well, yesterday I was leaving for a Dr. appt and the pregnant neighbor was coming out of her house at the same time with her dog.  her back was towards me and my eyes were fixated on her.  I didn't see her carrying a baby, so I felt safe.  Then, she turned around, and BAM!  Her gigantic belly was right there!  I felt a huge wave of anxiety/sadness/fear...I don't even know what I was feeling.  I quickly turned around headed in the other direction without even waving.  She looked miserable, like she must be due any day, and couldn't wait for it to be over...I remember that feeling.

Pregnant women don't usually bother me THAT much, but we were pregnant at the same time.  I think thats what bothers me the most, people who were pregnant when I was pregnant, and they get to keep their baby.  It's weird, and I can't even really explain it.

I just needed to tell someone about the siting, to kind of getting it off my chest.    

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BFP #1 Jan. 2011 - mmc Mar. 2011 
BFP #2 Aug. 2011 - My sleeping angel Stella, born April 21, 2012 
BFP #3 Nov. 2012 - mmc Dec. 2012
BFP #4 April 2013 - mc May 2013
BFP #5 Sept. 2013 - EDD 5.24.14

Re: I saw my very pregnant neighbor (pg mentioned obviously)

  • Big hugs.  It was and still is always harder for me to see someone I know pregnant than it is a stranger.  I think with strangers I can rationalize that I don't know them and so I don't know their back story and how for all I know, they're carrying their rainbow.  With people I know, I know their back story so it's easier for me to get upset.

     

    In memory of Corbin Scott 10/28/11-12/3/11. Heaven got another angel the night you left this world behind Heaven got a little better the day it took you away from me Missing you tonight, see you again sometime For now I'll close my eyes and dream of heaven tonight I'll love you forever I'll like you for always Now and Forever My baby you'll be

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  • I am sorry!  I had a similar situation last night at my son's taekwondo practice, so I get it.  Like pp said I think it is easier to see random people out and about than people with who we shared such a special commonality.  (((HUGS))) 

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    EDD: 04/08/2012  M/C: 09/03/2011
    EDD: 12/27/2012  Born Sleeping: 07/19/2012
    EDD: 12/07/2013  M/C 05/30/2013 & 05/31/2013
    EDD:  07/01/2016 Born sleeping: 03/02/2016



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  • You guys hit the nail on the head!  It's so much easier with strangers, who knows what their story is?  They are strangers.  But, someone you have that commonality with, makes it different. 
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers 

    BFP #1 Jan. 2011 - mmc Mar. 2011 
    BFP #2 Aug. 2011 - My sleeping angel Stella, born April 21, 2012 
    BFP #3 Nov. 2012 - mmc Dec. 2012
    BFP #4 April 2013 - mc May 2013
    BFP #5 Sept. 2013 - EDD 5.24.14
  • A neighbor that lives right behind us was pg at the same time with her DD so I have been listening to her baby almost everyday and it hurts b/c my lil girl would be about the same age, so I know just how you feel. Back when we lost my son's hamster after we lost Bri we were in the back yard digging his hamster's resting place and I glance up to see her coming down the stairs very pg and I think I hated her, for just a moment. I know how much it hurts but the hurt starts getting to less and less as time goes on (for all other pg women and babies) it's still gonna be hard to see someone you were pg with with their child, though. ((Hugs)) I am sorry! And I don't know if or when that feeling ever goes away, if it ever does, but we're for you!
    Tim 12/30/00 Brad 4/30/02 Alex 9/29/03 Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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