MIL ruining a name... XP

shipsshoessealingwax

I love my MIL, and generally speaking we get along famously. We recently found out LO is a boy. DH and I have two boy name pairs we really like, then a list of names not in pairs which we are also considering. MIL has chosen her favorite of the two name pairs and will NOT shut up about it! She absolutely insists upon mentioning it, and how much "better" it is than the other, every.time.we.speak! I loved the name to begin with but her being so obnoxious is starting to make me hate it...

FWIW, the names we are considering are...

Nathaniel Owen
Connor Reid
Liam
Ryan
Daniel /mn only/
Avery /mn only/
Elliott /mn only/

Sxia

If you don't want her opinion, don't tell her. She's probably just really excited.

I told my mom what DS's name was going to be and she said, "OH, good!" Much better than xxx. Made me want to change it back. Kind of like it was her approvall. But then, why did I tell her, if I didn't want her opinion or approval?

nycitygirl1

That sucks, sorry you have to listen to this. That is exactly why we aren't telling anyone until LO is born. Can YH say something to make her be quiet about the names? I mean after all, it's your decision not hers!

shipsshoessealingwax

I'm really starting to wish we HADN'T said anything, but she is usually more reasonable so I didn't think it would be a huge issue. I've considered telling her if she doesn't stop the name is off the table, but that isn't really fair to DH because he likes it. I'm hoping I can just cut her off a couple times with an "I KNOW" and she will get the picture.

persephonerose

She might think that the more you hear those combinations the more you will like it.  The next time she brings them up you could say something nonchalantly like, "yeah you know the more I am hearing them together the less I am liking them." Maybe she will get the hint. Maybe not.

rockopera

Sorry to hear that.  My MIL tends to do that with things.  Say it over and over and over, as a passive aggressive way to get what she wants.  It's not fun.  I'm pretty much not sharing anything about this process, including names when it comes time, because I don't want to deal with those opinions.  I don't have a suggestion on how to deal, but just wanted to commiserate.  I hope it gets better for you.

LaineyPaney

I agree; she's probably just excited and tacking a name onto the LO at this point is helping her bond and channel excitement.

Just flat out tell her: I get it that you really like it, but we haven't decided yet. You have to keep an open mind or you may be really disappointed.