Grrr, stupid PG comments

Cooper81

I think I've posted here (maybe also on the the b-more nest) about testing GBS positive this entire pregnancy and getting the shots of antibiotics, etc.  Well when I was explaining to my mom, sister, and step-sisters why they were so concerned with treating the infection, because an infection and excessive amounts of GBS could cause PROM and pre-term labor; my step-sister asks "how far along are you again?"  This was a few weeks ago, so I was 31 weeks, so I tell her.  And she says "oh, you'd both be fine if she came now."  I just glared at her and said that while yes, she would likely survive there is a reason women are typically pregnant for 40+weeks and if she did come early, she would probably have complications and time in the NICU.  And of course she just brushes me off.  And now whenever I see her she makes comments about how I must wish I could just have her now.  I've just always repeated "nope, I want her to come when she is good and ready, and healthy, I might not be entirely comfortable, but I can wait."  This is the same step-sister (she is 10 years older than I am) who, when she saw that J was still rear facing at 2 years old, says "our parents used to hold us in the car, my mom held me on the way home from the hospital, no car seat, and we turned out fine"

 

For the most part I don't have many people or strangers make rude or ridiculous comments, but the fact I have to continually interact with her, and endure her idiotic comments is beyond annoying.

anonsouthernbell

ITA...does she have kids?

jcsntms06

Oh M I get so upset when people make these comments, but obviously I like so many other people are living proof that YOU DO NOT WANT YOUR BABY to be born EARLY!! Those people I normally just want to shake or hit them with something, but normally I just walk away upset. People are idiots, and I understand that yes, you may be uncomfortable, but hey that's part of being pregnant and your just going have to deal. I have friends who have had 31 weekers, 36 weekers and even 40 weekers who have not made it out of the NICU.

Cooper81

anonsouthernbell:

ITA...does she have kids?

 

Her 2 year old son passed away suddenly 10 years ago.  He did not have any known pre-existing conditions, and they never got a solid answer why.  I don't know why this makes me think she would be a bit more sensative.

salc21

Cooper81:

anonsouthernbell:

ITA...does she have kids?

 

Her 2 year old son passed away suddenly 10 years ago.  He did not have any known pre-existing conditions, and they never got a solid answer why.  I don't know why this makes me think she would be a bit more sensative.

 

Do you think she just has a hard time because of this? Maybe she is... whats the right world... jealous, eh, hmm... resentful or in pain... or something like that  that you have J who is about the same age and then having #2??

Cooper81

salc21:

Cooper81:

anonsouthernbell:

ITA...does she have kids?

 

Her 2 year old son passed away suddenly 10 years ago.  He did not have any known pre-existing conditions, and they never got a solid answer why.  I don't know why this makes me think she would be a bit more sensative.

 

Do you think she just has a hard time because of this? Maybe she is... whats the right world... jealous, eh, hmm... resentful or in pain... or something like that  that you have J who is about the same age and then having #2??

For a normal person, I would be inclined to believe this might be why. Not for her, without writing a novel on her general personality, she has always been one to say extremely insensitive things, even before having her son. When I was PG with J, I actually tried not to talk about my pregnancy very much around her because I didn't want to be insensitive. She asked my mom once if I was excited because I never seemed to talk about it, and my mom told her that I was just being mindful around her and her then husband. She told my mom to relay to me not to worry about it, that she was happy about it and that she found with her other SIL's pregnancy it didnt' really upset her.