Nervous about telling my boss

MinnesotanMom

Hello!

For those of you who have done it this time or with a previous child, what have your experiences been like telling your boss that you are pregnant?

I am very nervous about this.  I know my boss wouldn't outwardly tell me that he was upset about it, but I'm worried about secretly disappointing him.  I am in a temporary "term" position, so I'm sure he would prefer that I fulfill my entire obligation without leaving early.  If this was a long-term, full-time position, I would be less concerned.  His good opinion and connections will be important for me in the future, and I also want the rest of my time at my job to go smoothly.

I am SO THRILLED to be pregnant... and I wanted to try since I am already in my 30s.  Since this job thing is really the only thing I am worried about right now, I thought perhaps it would help to get some perspective/support.

Thanks!

sowhatwhocares

MinnesotanMom:

Hello!

For those of you who have done it this time or with a previous child, what have your experiences been like telling your boss that you are pregnant?

I am very nervous about this.  I know my boss wouldn't outwardly tell me that he was upset about it, but I'm worried about secretly disappointing him.  I am in a temporary "term" position, so I'm sure he would prefer that I fulfill my entire obligation without leaving early.  If this was a long-term, full-time position, I would be less concerned.  His good opinion and connections will be important for me in the future, and I also want the rest of my time at my job to go smoothly.

I am SO THRILLED to be pregnant... and I wanted to try since I am already in my 30s.  Since this job thing is really the only thing I am worried about right now, I thought perhaps it would help to get some perspective/support.

Thanks!

Wish I had some advice. I worry about this, too. Although, because excessive worrying isn't the best thing for me or the baby, I am working on just letting go a little and preparing to let what happens happen.

I hope it goes well for you! Women have babies, it happens. Your boss (and mine, too) should make every effort to accomodate you.

sowhatwhocares

MinnesotanMom:

Hello!

For those of you who have done it this time or with a previous child, what have your experiences been like telling your boss that you are pregnant?

I am very nervous about this.  I know my boss wouldn't outwardly tell me that he was upset about it, but I'm worried about secretly disappointing him.  I am in a temporary "term" position, so I'm sure he would prefer that I fulfill my entire obligation without leaving early.  If this was a long-term, full-time position, I would be less concerned.  His good opinion and connections will be important for me in the future, and I also want the rest of my time at my job to go smoothly.

I am SO THRILLED to be pregnant... and I wanted to try since I am already in my 30s.  Since this job thing is really the only thing I am worried about right now, I thought perhaps it would help to get some perspective/support.

Thanks!

Wish I had some advice. I worry about this, too. Although, because excessive worrying isn't the best thing for me or the baby, I am working on just letting go a little and preparing to let what happens happen.

I hope it goes well for you! Women have babies, it happens. Your boss (and mine, too) should make every effort to accomodate you.

mrsorigami

MinnesotanMom:

Hello!

For those of you who have done it this time or with a previous child, what have your experiences been like telling your boss that you are pregnant?

I am very nervous about this.  I know my boss wouldn't outwardly tell me that he was upset about it, but I'm worried about secretly disappointing him.  I am in a temporary "term" position, so I'm sure he would prefer that I fulfill my entire obligation without leaving early.  If this was a long-term, full-time position, I would be less concerned.  His good opinion and connections will be important for me in the future, and I also want the rest of my time at my job to go smoothly.

I am SO THRILLED to be pregnant... and I wanted to try since I am already in my 30s.  Since this job thing is really the only thing I am worried about right now, I thought perhaps it would help to get some perspective/support.

Thanks!

 

I'm sorry you are worried about this!  I was a little worried too, but now I am not so worried.  Does your boss have children?  He may be more understanding than you think.  Good luck!! 

tcfreedom

Honesty is the best policy. My family owns our own business and the only thing that would make us think negitively of an employee is dishonesty.
Just go to your boss and be up front about what your abilities will be, your schedule or conflicts in regards to apptments and leave, and your plan moving forward.
If your boss knows you have a plan, and you put the time and effort into thinking all this thru ahead of time they will be more impressed than if you come to them flustered and upset with an "I don't know what I'm going to do" attitude. If you assure them your work won't suffer and you have a plan they'll know you don't intend to flake out on them, and that you respect them.

kor&dan

Don't worry about it too much.  When I told my boss the first time I was pregnant, she said, "Congratulations!"  And seemed very happy for me.  I work in an agency made up of mostly women so of course we are always happy when a pregnancy is announced, (which usually happens one or more times a year.)  Who wouldn't be happy to hear such great news?!

CatnipTrinket

I'm not sure what kind of work it is you specifically do (heavy lifting, risk of falls?). If it's something that might need some special restrictions or allowances, he should know soon. I don't think he'd have a negative opinion of your because of your pregnancy, though. But I can relate to being worried about it. I worried about telling my boss, too. I fretted over him thinking poorly of me or thinking I wouldn't be as useful a worker or something. But he surprised me with how cool he was about it all and was ready to help me with special allowances, like sitting on a stool, if I needed it. It depends on the boss, of course, but I wouldn't think he'd feel unhappy with you or your work because of your pregnancy.