My BMB is turning into baby gaga...

bananers

I think I'm definitely one of the newer ones on this board so can't relate to what most of you are going through yet, but I feel like the culture here is just much more my style. I have been trying to get involved with my BMB just because I loved my BMB the first time around and it's great to have others around you at a similar stage. But I feel like the board has flooded with phishing posts lately and everyone else just plays into it while my eyeballs are about to get stuck in the back of my head I'm rolling them so hard.

Are your BMBs this bad? Or maybe it'll get better once the board is "full," so to speak. I want so badly to like it there but I just can't right now.

ThereBeDragons

May? It'll get better once the intros slow down and people start stirring up trouble and getting settled in. April has gotten much better since the intros slowed and people started to establish check ins (to limit the number of "oh hai, I'm finally 6weeks!" frivolous posting). It still might not be your cup of tea, but I'd check back in a couple of weeks and see if you like it a little better at that point

Allycat11

My BMB is better than it was, but still a lot of eye rolling from me on it.  Especially the extreme gender disappointment posts. 

kelly321

I agree that it'll probably get better. As the bmbs get established they're usually pretty P&R, but once there's a regular crowd, things will settle in and you'll get to know each other (and people will feel more confident telling the ridiculous posts that they're being ridiculous).

BrittKav

We have the same BMB. It'll get better, right now it's just a bunch of mushy intros. I think this is common with any BMB.

Shayliz

It gets a little better once you get past 1st tri..

big_noise

If I had time this would be some sort of an I want to vomit gif.

I jsut introed on April today. Finally had the courage to do it but yeah, cant handle baby gaga. Then again, I wasn't like that with DD. Just not my thing. I bet it will even out.

rkrichey

I usually just stick to this board.  Sometimes the things people say on those boards just irk me.  It's almost like there's a lot of complaining about morning sickness or this or that and I just want to scream "Hey, you're pregnant.  Just be happy!!"  But if you've never experienced a loss, it's hard to relate to so I just stay here.  Everyone here is so greatful and supportive.  It's definitely more my style.  I have to say though that I haven't checked my BMB this time around so it might be ok.  I'm just going from what I experienced last time.

FreyaWin2382

I think that all BMBs are like this at first. It does tend to get a little less gaga after first trimester (at least in my experience), but thank goodness for PgAL!

bananers

daylights1:

My BMB drives me crazy at times.  Sometimes I just ignore the babygaga crap and other times I am just completely honest with them.   I try to hold back the snark although it has come out a few times.  

If there is one more post on my board from a woman telling all women not to have a first tri screening the gloves are gonna come off. 

 

What the... Why would someone say that? It's one thing if you choose not to, but I don't get why someone would pressure people not to. What's the benefit in that??

Mrs.DeliaMarieP

I think the first month of any BMB is kind of like that, with people getting used to one another, whereas here everything just kind of continues on a rotating basis.  Plus, most of us PgAL girls are more comfortable talking to others that are PgAL, I think because we can relate to each other's stories/problems more than we can relate to the excitement and P&R that BMB's tend to be.  

Andplus, we tend to be less snarky here, just because of the experiences that we all own, and the snarkiness can take some getting used to, especially from people we don't "know" yet.

I spent a lot of first tri feeling disconnected from my BMB, but I've gradually felt more like I fit in now than I did then. 

littlemaybaby

Allycat11:

My BMB is better than it was, but still a lot of eye rolling from me on it.  Especially the extreme gender disappointment posts. 

Totally agree! 

angelacarmen

I feel like most on my BMB are okay, but there are a handful of bullies who I can't deal with. They seem to sit and wait for someone to say something they consider to be stupid, then they totally attack and gain up on that person. They'll even start threads to get this behaviour started; they'll have a confession or omplaint day, then they will proceed to berate and judge posts made. I really like some of the ladies on there, but some just make me mad. I don't spend near as much time over there as I do here.

Eastie156

BMB's go through phases. Sept '12 was lame in the beginning then got interesting. Then it got very boring/repeated postings about the same things again and again. Then it got interesting again. Now alot of the Sept Momma's are having August babies so it's been sort of on the quiet side. Seriously, it's an epidemic, the amount of Sept Mom's who've already had their babies!

mijakach

All BMBs are like that in the beginning when people are still making their intros. I definitely found myself rolling my eyes often. At least for the December board, it got better after the first few weeks. But now it's pretty dead because they've created a FB group AND a private board. I didn't post much there since I mainly stick around here anyway.

angelacarmen

mijakach:

All BMBs are like that in the beginning when people are still making their intros. I definitely found myself rolling my eyes often. At least for the December board, it got better after the first few weeks. But now it's pretty dead because they've created a FB group AND a private board. I didn't post much there since I mainly stick around here anyway.

Yeah, that irritated me too.  They wanted to create this FB book but you had to tell them RIGHT NOW, and we were all still in our 1st tris.  Having lost two babies already, both in my 1st tri, I wasn't about to join a FB group that I'd have to later opt out of if I lost again, but once we all hit 2nd tri the group was closed and they wouldn't let anyone else join.  Wha??  How insensitive is that?  Just another example of how they don't understand, and why I spend most of my time on TB over here.

Eveanyn

I was right where you are with my BMB! I ignored it until probably about halfway through 2nd tri and then it got SO much better. I now enjoy posting there because most of the dimwits have gone away or learned their lessons. GL!

katigox

rkrichey:

I usually just stick to this board.  Sometimes the things people say on those boards just irk me.  It's almost like there's a lot of complaining about morning sickness or this or that and I just want to scream "Hey, you're pregnant.  Just be happy!!"  But if you've never experienced a loss, it's hard to relate to so I just stay here.  Everyone here is so greatful and supportive.  It's definitely more my style.  I have to say though that I haven't checked my BMB this time around so it might be ok.  I'm just going from what I experienced last time.

All of THIS!  I have tried twice to get on my own BMB board, but honestly, I like it over here at PGAL better, because it's more relateable.  Besides, who else would really be able to understand those frantic PGAL freak out moments that we have - unless you are a PGAL yourself? :P

katekate628

I look at my BMB (November '12) but it is a really slow board.  They created a Facebook group and closed it pretty quickly to new members.  Then a 2nd Facebook group was created & I just didn't join that one.  I haven't really participated that much in my BMB or even on Pgal, I am more of the slient reader type but I very much enjoy Pgal and the ladies here. I don't have to run into as many gender disapointment posts here because we are all happy to just be pregnant!  Hopefully yours gets better!