Sex.

VinaHoney

I don't get any.

I don't want any but I would like for my fiance would show some type of interest. I wonder what's going on. 

How's everyone's sex life right now ? How is the pregnancy affecting it ?

mejane123

This seems to be a common topic lately

It hasn't been too bad recently, but for the first few months it was rough because I had MS so bad.  I've been wanting it more often, but DH generally doesn't initiate, I think because he gets worried he'll hurt me or something (I've been getting really bad back pain and RLP lately).  He's been enjoying it because of the bigger boobies, but last night told me he's more apprehensive about what positions we use, so we had to do some finagling.  The sex itself has been pretty great, though

graciesmurf

I'm not getting any... or wanting any.  My DH is doing his best to be understanding.

HawaiiLover

graciesmurf:

I'm not getting any... or wanting any.  My DH is doing his best to be understanding.

Same here.   

hellojenny531

It's been pretty much nonexistent but I don't want any either. SO hasn't tried to put the moves on either but he's understanding as well.

yinyang124

Preterm labor = no sex, no orgasm. My partner is understanding, plus he still gets bjs. He knows he owes me lots of loving post-pregnancy haha.

VinaHoney

LauraT25:

If you don't want to have sex, why do you want your fiance to 'show interest'?  I'm assuming by that, you mean you want him to be trying to have sex with you, but then you're stuck either telling him no and feeling bad, or doing something you aren't interested in doing.

Maybe he can tell you aren't interested and he is trying to respectfully keep his distance.

No that is not it. He just doesn't care for it. When and if I do he'll actually just ignore me (not answering, changing the subject and what not) It's been getting on my nerves because it makes me feel like being pregnant makes me unattractive to him. 

And me confronting about "being unattractive" gets him so flustered and angry. I don't know why.

He's been acting really strange ever since I got pregnant and I'm trying really hard not to take it so personally

 

jg1011

I want it--- DH doesn't! He can't get past "There's a baby in there!" He's been like this since I told him I was pregnant. completely freaks him out. He has tried in his defense, but he just cant. I have tried to be understanding and now that my energy is starting to decrease again, I think I'll be okay. He has A LOT of lost time to makeup for in January!

jstoligrosz

I've been having the opposite with my hubby. We always have been that couple that had sex at least every other day. But, lately he's been wanting it about everyday. Being 30 weeks the other night I burst into tears and told him I just can't keep up anymore because my body is so tired. So now we've cut back to about 3 times a week. Every man handles it differently. Sometimes I wish he had no interest!

LaurelBee

LauraT25:

If you don't want to have sex, why do you want your fiance to 'show interest'?  I'm assuming by that, you mean you want him to be trying to have sex with you, but then you're stuck either telling him no and feeling bad, or doing something you aren't interested in doing.

Maybe he can tell you aren't interested and he is trying to respectfully keep his distance.

Sometimes it's just nice to feel wanted and to know you still turn him on even though your body is changing. Most of the time I have zero interest, but then Dh will initiate and my body reacts.  

Wild_flower25

Its normal, my DH doesn't seem bothered by it at all.  My drive isn't all there but he is able to get me in the mood.

But with my previous pregnancy, my ex was not into it at all.  We had a lot going on but he was just very creeped out by it.

bezbenak

jg1011:

I want it--- DH doesn't! He can't get past "There's a baby in there!" He's been like this since I told him I was pregnant. completely freaks him out. He has tried in his defense, but he just cant. I have tried to be understanding and now that my energy is starting to decrease again, I think I'll be okay. He has A LOT of lost time to makeup for in January!

This!  It's so annoying.  SO is freaked out and says it's just different and weird.  And now that I'm showing it's worse.  It is really frustrating.  And it doesn't help that it makes me feel even more fat and unattractive.  I think we have three times since we found out that we are pregnant.  And I agree, it's really nice to feel like you're still attractive and wanted, even if you really have no interest.

Reptar13

I think I have a problem. I want it several times a day and if SO doesn't comply I get really pissy. I've toned it down a lot lately and been able to go a day or two without but by that third day I'm going crazy again. I think maybe once the baby comes I'll give him a break... maybe.

ashcody2

Ours is the same as before, pretty active. There was a point in the beginning though, that it was not happening very often but that was because I was so exhausted, I would end up going to bed by 8 pm. I'm sure it will slow down the farther I get along though, especially in the third. tri.

browneyedgirl76

First trimester was really a no go.  Second tri has been no holds barred.  It has been great.  Climax is far more intense than it used to be.  Hubby has no complaints for now.  I am sure when the third tri starts we will probably slow down.

dande2129

I'm getting plenty, usually about 3-4 times a week. It died down a little in the 1st tri to maybe once a week, but now that I'm feeling better, I'm all for sex again.

Meli B

My DH says it's wierd while I am pregnant so you are not alone.

starlee_99

I'm having the same issue. I want it but I can't seem to get SO in the mood. It does make me feel like he is no longer attracted to me and I've told him that. He says that it isn't that it's just that he is not in the mood. I often contemplate just jumping on him and having my way.

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VinaHoney:

No that is not it. He just doesn't care for it. When and if I do he'll actually just ignore me (not answering, changing the subject and what not) It's been getting on my nerves because it makes me feel like being pregnant makes me unattractive to him. 

And me confronting about "being unattractive" gets him so flustered and angry. I don't know why.

He's been acting really strange ever since I got pregnant and I'm trying really hard not to take it so personally

 

Sounds like you need to sit down and have a mature talk with your SO about his behavior. Ignoring you is not okay. Let him know that it hurts your feelings and you would rather he talk to you about how he is feeling rather than just ignore your advances. 

Try to keep in mind, while you are going through tons of changes, he is too. He's about to become a dad (for the first time, I assume) and he may be feeling nervous/scared/unsure. 

VinaHoney

starlee_99:

I'm having the same issue. I want it but I can't seem to get SO in the mood. It does make me feel like he is no longer attracted to me and I've told him that. He says that it isn't that it's just that he is not in the mood. I often contemplate just jumping on him and having my way.

Yes exactly! He is just not in the mood.

I'm thinking, how are you not in the mood? It's been a really long time!  

javagrl

I've been on pelvic rest since day 1, so no sex here.  My DH is very understanding about that but he is more attracted to me than ever (I think it's mostly the bigger boobs, and the fact that my belly is really growing now and he knows he put that baby in there).  I help him out when I can but I think he would definitely want to go at least once a day if I was able to.  Last time I was pregnant we had quite a bit of sex (before we were aware that it could cause problems for me) and it was really good.

wells2010

It's really hard to match our schedules up. Dh works shift work (plus PT jobs & OT). I usually have more energy in the morning or during the day, but he's not always around. When we are together, we have very little problems, lol.