To Drag or Not to Drag (Myself Out Tonight)

LoveIsOwlYouNeed

Long story short, a friend of mine is having a birthday gatering tonight at a bar for "drinks."  We don't really have mutual friends so it's just her and you know how it gets with Birthday girls, you rarely get to connect because, rightfully, everyone wants her attention.  It's Friday, I'm exhausted, have a headache, can't even drink and we have a full day ahead of us tomorrow.  Am I a terrible friend if I don't go?  To go or not to go?  Thoughts?

URMySunshine77

Can you go for an hour and have a non alcoholic drink? I am such an introvert, but I'm trying to go out when invited because I know that I won't be able to once LO arrives.

bearkatjen

I would make an effort to go for a litte bit, no more than an hour. It will only get harder to see friends the further along you get, and then there will be a hiatus for a few months once you have the baby. You don't want your friends to think you're abandoning them now that your going to be a mom.

Goldsgirl9

I wouldn't be upset if my pregnant friend wasn't feeling well and didn't show up. But that's just me. I am not one to get offended or small things like other friends I have might. Frankly, if you dont feel like going dont. If you can muster up enough energy to go for an hour then go. If not I wouldn't feel bad all. When I am out with people who are drinking I always ask for my sparkling water in cocktail glass with garnish so I feel a little better about it

Nikki262

I say go for a little bit!  I was in this situation last week and I am so glad I went. I had a great time and it got my mind off things for a while!

mroy82

you are not a horrible friend if you dont go! I definitly wouldnt. I'd feel so out of place, being preggos and in a bar. Do you know how many looks you would get? lol I think if your friend is a good friend, she would understand. Maybe you can get together the next day or over the weekend for a lunch date. That way you can talk, catch up and not have to be uncomfortable in a loud bar where you will barley hear her or talk to her.

aklawrence1

In the same situation, I opted to invite my friend out for a one-on-one dinner the following week and skipped the bar scene. She was totally fine with it. I think if you're really friends, it would be no big deal. She'll have plenty of people to keep her occupied and you won't feel out of place. Just my thoughts though.