Do you care if people touch your bump?

dulcemariamar1

I guess we can all agree that we dont want strangers to come up and touch our bumps but how do you feel about friends and family members?

Do you care if they touch your bump?

How about family members that you are not close to or really dont like?

Do you think people should always ask first?

 

laurapacheco

I think everyone except DH should ask first, but I don't really mind if friends/family want to touch my bump.

ungraceful13

A really close family member sure that is fine.

People I am not close to no. 

I'd prefer if people asked but I know many wont. 

mamak0328

I think people should ask. I don't mind if a close friend or family does it but I'm not okay with other people.

smwiggle

I don't care about family or friends touching me.  I would prefer if they asked, but if they don't, I'm not gonna get mad about it.  There are a lot more things that piss me off.

Magenta728

It's not my favorite thing, but I don't mind it. I understand that people are just excited about it and want to touch my belly. 

financialdiva

I don't know where ya'll live, but I NEVER had a stranger come up and touch my bump. Ever. Family and friends have, and I don't mind at all.

Now, random people touching the baby was a different story. Old people would always come up and touch DS. The worst is when they would touch his hands. Ugh.

Southernpeach80

I think everyone other than my husband and close family should ask before touching but I don't mind if they do once they ask.

LaurelBee

I guess I'm the odd ball- I don't mind when anyone touches my bump! Little old ladies at the mall, close family and friends, aquaintances. I don't feel the need to be asked. 

But if someone gave me a creepy vibe and tried to touch me anywhere, I would back out of the situation. 

littleheaven

i do care.....

it's definitely ok for dh to touch....and i guess i'd be ok with my mom and mil touching...but they haven't yet....but dh's aunt touches it every time we see her (which, thankfully isn't often) but it's not just a touch...she'll use both hands and rub....and i HATE it

i'm not a fan of being touched normally, so this definitely is out of my comfort zone....

i think when the time comes and you can feel kicking from the outside, i'll ask people if they want to touch it, but other than that, if they just ask or touch i'll back away 

eta- i'm totally ok with my 6yo niece and 8yo nephew though...my niece keeps talking to it and hugging it...so it's cute  

sjamin9

I would much rather someone touch my bump and call it cute than the random "your belly's getting huge" comments I've gotten lately. Especially because I feel like it's pretty small for being 20w along and I know I still have a ton of growing ahead of me. Makes me feel like eventually I won't fit through the doorway. That being said, I prefer if someone asks first

MrsLean

I'm happy for DH to touch my belly anytime (he can't wait to feel the kicks that I've been feeling as flutters!).

But....MIL started touching my belly at around 14 weeks (I wasn't really showing at that point so it made me feel weird that she was rubbing my fat...), so I simply told her that she was actually rubbing my belly fat & that the baby was actually lower in my abdomen than where she was touching (she hasn't touched my belly since!). I was maybe a little harsh but every time she saw me she felt the need to actually rub my belly (without asking).

I think once I can actually feel kicks from the outside I won't really mind if people want to touch my belly. I just felt that 14 weeks along was too early for that...

akating

I don't care once my bump starts getting hard but right now it is still mostly squishy. 

StacyCardinal

LaurelBee:

I guess I'm the odd ball- I don't mind when anyone touches my bump! Little old ladies at the mall, close family and friends, aquaintances. I don't feel the need to be asked. 

But if someone gave me a creepy vibe and tried to touch me anywhere, I would back out of the situation. 

Laurel... this is SO me too.  I actually like it when people touch my bump and it makes me happy to know that people recognize how special my DD is already!  I've wanted this LO for so long and since I'm pregnant and showing... I want everyone to know!!

Although, I'm terrified that I'm opening a can of worms... It's totally different when my DD is safe in my bump vs. out and having anyone and everyone grabbing and touching her.  It's going to be hard to change the expectations that people can touch my belly but not man-handle my baby lol 

Kie310

Yes. I don't like being touched by people. my husband and son (when he realizes that he can feel the baby) are one thing. Anyone else... ask & I'm still likely to say no.

I know I hurt family feelings with my first because I wouldn't let them touch, but that's my space you are in. It's a personal thing.

 

jobiann

I hate it now because I'm not very big and I feel like they are just touching fat because usually they touch me high and the baby is obviously lower...when I'm further along I probably won't mind as much as I do now if they are family or very close friends. Strangers or people I never see/talk too I don't want touching me without asking. That's just not acceptable. 

graciesmurf

In my first trimester I didn't want ANYONE

nadja1121

I don't mind if friends and faily touch my bump. I haven't ran into anyone that I am not as close with that has touched my bump so I am not sure how I will react when that happens...It would be nice if people asked but I haven't been asked by anyone yet.

this decaf life

Do you care if they touch your bump? 

     I do not mind if people touch my bump. 

How about family members that you are not close to or really dont like?

     Most of the people I don't really like wouldn't even try to touch my bump but I'm a good sport about it. Babies are fun, people get excited and I don't see a reason to get worked up about that - touch away. 

Do you think people should always ask first?

     So far people have sort of asked or been asking while they put their hand on my stomach. I feel like anyone who previously asked has free roam now to touch again. I wouldn't freak out if someone touched me without asking but again I just see the excitement [especially because we're the first in the group to be pregnant] so it really doesn't bother me. 

graciesmurf

In my first trimester I didn't want ANYONE touching my bump because I would get sick.  Now I don't care but I do prefer when people ask (mostly so I can tell them shere she's sitting).

this decaf life

sjamin9:

I would much rather someone touch my bump and call it cute than the random "your belly's getting huge" comments I've gotten lately.

This. I would've preferred my MIL touch away then make snide comments about how "huge" I am. 

martha919

My mom and some random folks at church are the only ones who have touched my belly thus far. My mom I don't mind, but it is a little weird to me how squirrely she gets about it (by which I mean, "oooh! My grandbaby is in there!" and squealing...totally out-of-character for her, so it just weirds me out a little). The random people at church thing is a little more difficult to figure out...it definitely varies person-to-person. We all sort of think of ourselves as a big "family", but there are definitely some people who I'd rather didn't touch, but many that I wouldn't mind. I guess I would just prefer that people ask first to remove the element of surprise!

Sorry that was long...still a little sleepy.

LoriLue31

It really depends on the person and how they do it. A quick, soft rub is not a big deal to me for close family but a soft pat bothers the crap out of me. It's not all baby, I def had a fat layer before and now bloat on top that therefore it is still jiggling. Please don't make my stomach jiggle. As for the person, if I've heard them gossip about pregnant people before or know they're a bit of the judgmental side, I don't want them touching me. I feel too vulnerable. If I'm not close to you, don't touch me. I do think people should ask first as well, but I'm not too crazy particular about this and family.

chefsteph

Randomly, my CEO came up to me yesterday was like "OMG you finally popped a little" and put her hand on my bump. I just smiled, because really what am I  going to say  to my boss's boss's boss.

It didn't bother me so much, but it was strange. My family hasn't even attempted to come near my belly though. 

mrsodonnell12

This makes me SO uncomfortable.... if anyone touches mine I will freak. I dont get why people think its ok! DH and DS can obviously touch it... anyone else can stay away.

ashcody2

I've only had one of my friends come up and rub my belly, I'm not going to lie it was kind of weird haha! I never thought about it once when my sister was pregnant, I would always rub her belly, but now that I'm pregnant I feel like I should have asked first!

Allison546

It doesn't bother me at all, but I haven't ever had a completely total stranger do it-- that'd probably be weird.

That being said, I have a real issue with belly buttons including my own and I am apprehensive about the changes mine may undergo. If people touch my belly button that might freak me out.

JumpAroundBucky

Friends/family? Fine.

Coworkers? Ask.

Random strangers? Back. The. Fcuk. Off.  

laheath28

It definitely weirds me out..but maybe because I don't feel like I have much of a bump yet. At a family party, my sister went to touch my stomach and I instinctively slapped her hand away lol. I'd prefer they not touch,or at least ask so I can prep myself for the awkwardness. I don't mind if my husband does, but he honestly hasn't without me suggesting he tries when the baby is pretty active.

pghctwife

Other than DH no one ever tried wtih me uninvited (ive grabbed my sister or mom's hand to feel a kick etc but they never did so wtihout asking).

For strangers or acquaintences I have heard many women do have this issue. Not me - I give off the 'stone cold ***' vibe in general and definitely never had this issue at.all. lol

Kay1029

I don't care who touches my bump. Friends, family, strangers, etc. Doesn't matter to me at all!

BLPL101

It doesn't bother me in the slightest.

JaiteJanerico

The only person who can touch my bump freely and without asking is my DH.  If I know you very well and we are close then I don't mind having my belly touched.  Everyone else should ask and if I don't know you well or like you then don't even try. 

jessalared

Now that it's hard I don't think I mind, unless it's someone I don't care for. A couple of people rubbed my bloat early on though and I hated that!

mest1215

Immediate family...no I dont mind (its actually sweet i think, it's their way of saying "i love you baby" and to me).

Strangers/not close family or friends...HELL NO!! Just like i would never do it to someone i hardly ever see, i hardly know, or some lady buying apples at the grocery store! 

moonglow_84

I don't get what the fascination is... I never touched anyone's bump without asking, not even my best friends'. No one has touched mine yet except my DH and my grandma, neither of whom I minded, but I do think people should always at least ask first.

zonagirlie

I guess we can all agree that we dont want strangers to come up and touch our bumps but how do you feel about friends and family members?

Yeah strangers are icky. I work as an adult educator and have a ton of people in and out of classes each day and every day at least one person I am acquainted with but may not remember their name, touches my belly. It's awkward. I don't mind if friends do though. 

Do you care if they touch your bump?

Not friends or family. 

How about family members that you are not close to or really dont like? 

Not really. I don't associate with people I don't like  

Do you think people should always ask first?

Yes. But they won't. I have yet to slap someone's hand,but I might if a weird stranger tried to grab me, but I'd do that no matter what they grabbed! 

sesigs

I think everyone should ask before touching, family or not (except DH of course). My MIL just came to visit and the first thing she did was try to touch my stomach. I asked her not to (actually my first reaction was to slap her hand away but in all fairness I've only met the women 3 times in person before) and she was offended but LO is still sitting low and my "bump" is just chub still. I don't care if you are family there will be no rubbing my belly fat!

aklawrence1

It pretty much always bothers me. Before I was PG, I never touched anyone but family/CLOSE friends, and even then I always asked first. I can't stand it. My parents and IL's do it all the time- I'm just not that comfortable with people touching me and being in my "personal space" so it almost always makes me feel "off"... I just plain don't like it.

lulamagoo

Eh, doesn't bother me.  I had a friend grab my bump and my ass the other day at the same time while asking, "Doesn't your wife look hot?" to my husband.  It takes a lot for a friend of family member to go to far with me.