DH doesn't understand

MrsWhipple

Let me start this out by saying I love my son. I have been having a hard time adjusting to being a mom. I finally completely broke down to DH tonight I think mainly bc he was gone for work and told him I thought things would start to get better as Landen is 3 weeks old and I figured I would start to feel more comfortable and get in to some sort of routine of taking care of him. I still feel like I don't know what I am doing and admitted to him that I go thru periods where I don't enjoy taking care of Landen. My husband first didn't say anything and then proceeded to ask me if he needed to find another job where he would be home more and then lastly said maybe we should never have had a baby. It was not the support or the understanding that I was looking for. He made me feel even more like a horrible mom/person and like a piece of shht. When I called to tell him goodnight he acted like nothing ever was said. I knew going into this that it would be hard. I didn't think it would be this tough for me emotionally. Sorry for the long rant I just needed to get it off my chest so hopefully I can get some sleep before Landen wakes up again.

Bemyselfandi

Call you doctor and tell him or her about this. You could have post pardom depression. Please...you'll feel much better! I'm sorry you're going through this.

nopegoat

Oh sweetie I am so sorry. Don't be so hard on yourself. Having a newborn is hard between hormones, lack of sleep, and trying to figure everything out. Nothing anyone can say or do can prepare you for it. Its definitely not all fun and games and can be so overwhelming. ((hugs))

I also agree with the pp. I would call your dr and tell them whats going on. It really could be ppd and they might be able to help you overcome some of these feelings. 

AprilAngie

kdm06c:

Oh sweetie I am so sorry. Don't be so hard on yourself. Having a newborn is hard between hormones, lack of sleep, and trying to figure everything out. Nothing anyone can say or do can prepare you for it. Its definitely not all fun and games and can be so overwhelming. hugsI also agree with the pp. I would call your dr and tell them whats going on. It really could be ppd and they might be able to help you overcome some of these feelings.nbsp;

merricksmom

I think its natural to feel inadequate and emotional to a degree. You definitely should call your doctor though. I was on anti depressents for 6 months after my son and I plan to go back on this time. Also, don't be afraid to ask for help. If you can, have your husband watch him for a few hours and either sleep, go to the mall or just get a pedicure. You need a little "you" time too. Babies can be all consuming and you need to take care of yourself to take good care of them. You'll be ok! I'm sure you're a great mom. It just takes time to adjust.

DemoDoll

I understand how you feel. There are times when I wish I didn't have to take care of her. I think it's just an adjustment thing because I went from working full time and being a super active person and very independent...going shopping, having girl's nights, doing dates with my DH and now to just full time watching a baby. I think the thing that is most difficult is that a schedule isn't set in place (and I know it's not suppose to be that way yet) but it's hard because one day she will sleep all day and I'll be able to clean the house and days like yesterday, her and I will sit on the couch ALL DAY and nurse. Hang in there and call your Dr. if you think it could be PP depression. I do think it's natural to get down, especially if it's your first baby, we are new to this and it's a lot. It goes from no baby and full independence to having someone need you 24/7.

jessalynn521

Bemyselfandi:

Call you doctor and tell him or her about this. You could have post pardom depression. Please...you'll feel much better! I'm sorry you're going through this.

This 100 there is no shame in admitting emotionally things don't feel right. If it is ppd your doctor can get you on something to help the emotions.

MrsWhipple

Thanks for the support. I really don't think it is ppd but am not just going to dismiss it. I think it all stems from the fact that I am a perfectionist and it is impossible to be a perfect mom/wife. I do feel better this morning after getting a little sleep. Have a good Friday everyone and good luck to all the mommas still waiting to have their babies.