Hard to leave my LO

janb213

Ok, I started back at work full time about 3 months ago and it seems to be getting harder to go to work. My son is 6 months new and is just getting cuter everyday. When I first returned to work it was exciting and everyone was so happy. Now that the thrill is gone and I am back in my routine at work I am hating it and missing my LO more than ever. Yesterday I had a breakdown and just cried my eyes out when I got home. I just miss him soo much!!! Quitting my job is not an option right now. Any tips to help me cope. I am chalking it up to being a new mommy and all the emotions and new experiences that come along with it. Thanks.

jf198400

I am going through the same thing as you, my son is also about 6months old.  Since I have been through it before with my older child, I know that it's always hard, but it does get easier.  I think as they reach the toddler stage you are able to really do a lot of fun activities with them on the weekends, but b/c toddlers have tantrums and stubbornness it somewhat makes you appreciate the break that going to work gives you.  I'd still rather be home, but overtime you adjust to it and accept that this is the new normal. 

SMask

I don't have any advice, but I am going through the same thing.  This is my 2nd week back at work and it is hard.  I cry every morning on the way to work and when I get home and hold him I cry some more.  Then I feel guilty for crying during the only 3 hours I see him during the day.  I get home at 5 and he is passed out by 8.  I would love to hear others as well.  Does it ever get easier, or do you just learn to deal?  

Sometimes it is nice to know that other people feel the same as you.  

rodiesmum

my LO is 2 years old already and i still have these kiinds of thoughts from tiime to time so i really understand where you are coming from. What helped me survived is the thought that what im doing is whats best for my family. After all, im working to help finance our family's needs.

hold on.

Beckabooney

It's always hard for me.   DD is 3 1/2 and some days I feel like I'm missing her whole life.  Also after I've worked all day, it's a rush to get dinner made, bathtime story time bedtime; some days I forget to enjoy it ... then when I'm doing laundry at 8:30 I feel super guilty because I missed that part of the day with her.  

For me it did get a bit easier as time went on but there are still hard days and days that I really struggle and then there are the days where I remeber to be grateful and happy.  Hang in there!.  

 

JoJoMama730

You're going to have good days and bad days, and when the bad ones make an appearance, just try to remember that they will pass.  My LO is approaching 2 years old, and there are still days I miss her something fierce.  Those evenings when I get home, I don't do a damn thing around the house except play and hang out with her.  Dishes, laundry, cleaning, etc. can wait.  Hang in there, it will get better so that you're not feeling like a meltdown every day. . . . .

Rocklandholly

I agree w/JoJoMama!  You have to enjoy the time you have with them.  I can defiantely sympathize.  It is beyond hard and my son is 15 months. There will come a point where it gets easier or you get numb to it a bit....I cried so much all the time...even at work - it was embaressing, but I missed him so much.  I think it gets easier when they stay up later at night.....when he was small there were times at night when he fell asleep on the 5 min car ride home from daycare adn i could barely give him a bottle.  Now he stays up until later and I get a full hour to 1.5 hrs w/him..i know not a lot but more than what I was getting with him.  Hang in there!!!!