a good post in response to the "who is raising your child" nonsense

semdkm

https://liberatingworkingmoms.com/2011/08/01/who-is-raising-your-children/

I really liked this-it's obvious to us working moms that WE are raising our kids, but I thought you might enjoy the "kick them in the shins" comment (Oh, and I don't get sick days, either--they are apportioned to me, but it's never as if I can just stay home from work and rest in bed while the house gets cleaned, the kids fed and bathed and read to, then once they are in bed, respond to the work emails, etc.)!

ridesbuttons

IMO, the 'someone else raising your child' comment is only a reflection of the person saying it, not a reflection on who it is directed at.

 

irishmom2010

I'm a lurker who doesn't post here often.  Thank you for posting this.  I want to strangle people when they say our sitter is raising our daughter.  No, she helps us raise our daughter. 

KathrynMD

I'm all about "it takes a village" - I really don't get why people are so "greedy" with their kids - like other people can't love their kid too or something.  I'm so happy my LO has lots of loving, attentive adults to bond with and I can't find anything negative about that. 

Nechie122

KathrynMD:

I'm all about "it takes a village" I really don't get why people are so "greedy" with their kids like other people can't love their kid too or something.nbsp; I'm so happy my LO has lots of loving, attentive adults to bond with and I can't find anything negative about that.nbsp;

I agree and also feel this way about moms who say they've NEVER left their kids with a babysitter or overnight as if it's a source of pride. It's not. It doesn't make you a better parent.

Also, I'm a firm believer that there's a difference between "raising" and "educating." My DCP may take all the credit for teaching DD how to use utensils, but at the end of the day, DH and I are the ones who will instill our values and morals, and that's reflected in who we choose as DCPs or educators.

LoCarb

I enjoyed reading this, thanks for posting.

I love my support team/village: H, DCP, teachers, adult friends, GP's who care for my children and/or helped educate them...they are loved!

1026pumpkin

Nechie122:

KathrynMD:

I'm all about "it takes a village" I really don't get why people are so "greedy" with their kids like other people can't love their kid too or something.nbsp; I'm so happy my LO has lots of loving, attentive adults to bond with and I can't find anything negative about that.nbsp;

I agree and also feel this way about moms who say they've NEVER left their kids with a babysitter or overnight as if it's a source of pride. It's not. It doesn't make you a better parent. Also, I'm a firm believer that there's a difference between "raising" and "educating." My DCP may take all the credit for teaching DD how to use utensils, but at the end of the day, DH and I are the ones who will instill our values and morals, and that's reflected in who we choose as DCPs or educators.

Totally agree!  I don't think it's doing kids any favors when they get to school to have only spent time with their parents.  While my husband and I are careful to pick care providers that are in line with our values on the "big" issues, I think it's important that our son is getting used to listening to and respecting other adults, seeing there is more than one way to do things, getting exposed to different people, etc.  I feel like it's my job as a parent to make sure he's exposed to different people, situations, etc regardless of having to work outside the home or not.

MammaBear81

I haven't had a chance to read the article yet, but I generally reply with that there are 168 hours in a week, 40 of them are spent with other people, DH and I have them for the other 128.  I'd say that we still have a huge impact on their lives. Or I ask them if they have considered if they are OK that the school district will be raising their children when they start school, or better yet point to their older children who are already "being raised by the school district" (homeschooling isn't big around here).

financialdiva

I hate when people  make this comment to me. Thanks for posting!! 

Pesky

Nice article.  Ignorant comments like the "raising" one bug me but no one has said it to me thankfully.  Probably scared to. 

waTracy

semdkm:

https://liberatingworkingmoms.com/2011/08/01/who-is-raising-your-children/

I really liked this-it's obvious to us working moms that WE are raising our kids, but I thought you might enjoy the "kick them in the shins" comment (Oh, and I don't get sick days, either--they are apportioned to me, but it's never as if I can just stay home from work and rest in bed while the house gets cleaned, the kids fed and bathed and read to, then once they are in bed, respond to the work emails, etc.)!

I'm the creator of this blog and I wanted to say a huge THANK YOU for posting this here!

wychets

Great read!

hoping4sticky

MammaBear81:

I haven't had a chance to read the article yet, but I generally reply with that there are 168 hours in a week, 40 of them are spent with other people, DH and I have them for the other 128.  I'd say that we still have a huge impact on their lives. Or I ask them if they have considered if they are OK that the school district will be raising their children when they start school, or better yet point to their older children who are already "being raised by the school district" (homeschooling isn't big around here).

Thank you, I never understand why these people on their high-horse about 'raising' their kids aren't all homeschooling. If you see a benefit to sending them to school at five, can you not, for a second, consider that there are benefits to be gained at a younger age.

MariJ1008

great post! thanks! a guy made a comment the other day about his wife stayed home to raise their children, so no one else would raise them....and this was right after I said I was really sad and nervous about sending DS to daycare....I almost cried in front of the entire group!