March 2012 Moms
Overnight at Grandparents??
Just for stating....I have really great In-Laws but they are driving me batty! I have 5 1/2 month old twins, only grandchildren on each side and just loved and adored by everyone. Since they have arrived my In-Laws have basically begged and pleaded with us to have them stay the night at their home (which is not the cleanest of homes) and they live over an hour away. I am fortunate to have a job that I do not need a lot of child care, if I do my husband is home with them but they are at our house at every moment that they have free. The twins are not sleeping through the night and they do not have accomodations for them (we would have to provide everything just to have them stay). This does not seem appropriate to basically "move" in for one night and uproot their routine of being home and in an environment just so they can have one night of the weekend at their house. My husband says "it is me trying to be controlling" but they are only 5 1/2 months old and we (I) would have to deal with the consequences of this decision. I guess what I am asking is when did you have your children stay the night; even at the Grandparents house?
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Re: Overnight at Grandparents??
This.
Same with us.
My son is 2.5 and still has not spent the entire night away, my husband came home overnight to take care of him while I was in the hospital with baby #2. He has just recently started to ask to stay with grandma and I would be fine with it now. It's not being "controlling" that you don't want to have baby stay the night at this age when you are trying to establish sleeping routines and it may stress baby out unnecessarily to be away from mom at bedtime. Not to mention, it's a huge hassle to have to lug a pack & play, enough diapers, wipes, formula/breastmilk, bottles, etc. for overnight. I would not want to go through all the trouble just to "play".
If you were confident with the environment and the care they would receive, I would let them keep them for a couple hours of quality time during the day, but it sounds like you are concerned with the cleanliness of the home. Maybe invite them to visit at your home more often or suggest an outing near them like a trip to the zoo or park, somewhere besides their messy house where they can spend quality time and not feel the need to have them overnight? I don't know why they want to stay up all night with babies when they can love them and then send them home and get a good night's sleep? ha
Dom has stayed with my parents and DH's. He was at my parent's house for one night in April, and that put him at two months old. Practically a newborn adjusted age.
He spent a long weekend at the IL's house when DH and I were in NY. That was back in June, making him 4 months old and 2 months adjusted.
This. DD has stayed overnight at one of our friends' houses. We were going to a big camp out birthday party and it was easier to have her stay elsewhere.
Both sets of parents are over an hour away. I don't understand overnight visits unless it is for babysitting purposes. DD more than likely will not be staying the night away, especially with grandparents, until next summer. I do not trust my ILs to follow my directions. Of course, DH doesn't "get it" because he grew up in that environment. So really wanting to want until it isn't such a big deal and she is old enough that "Grandma House Rules" can be okay. Right now, that can't happen.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
We often times will stay at my parents' house overnight, but that is a different situation because I am there and do all of his care.
If my parents offered to take him overnight I would take them up on it in a heartbeat- I trust them, they have a crib and all he needs, and I know he'd be well taken care of. I'd kill for a full night's sleep.
Given your situation though, no I wouldn't do it. Mainly because you aren't comfortable with the cleanliness of the home and you want to be sure the routine is followed. I'm not sure if you're FF or BFing, but that's another factor. I don't know if the full night's sleep would be worth it for you if you needed to pump (for me, it would be worth it, but just another factor for you to consider).