ILs - would this annoy you?

simplein06

We are not telling anyone baby's real name until he is born.

I started calling him Elmer over the weekend.  We used to call him blueberry, but blueberries don't kick ;-)  We have no intention on naming him Elmer. I just needed a name and the u/s kind of reminds me of Elmer Fudd. 

I sent an email to ILs with the u/s from today and referred to him as "Elmer"  with the quotes and I got a long email back on how she doesn't like Elmer and what names she likes.   She said she prefers Elbert and each time she referred to the u/s she referred to it as Elbert.

would it annoy you that she decided to refer to him as something else  or am I just being hormonal? 

(btw.. this email confirmed why we aren't sharing the baby's real name)

 

sbevmc09

Wow... yeah, guess it's a good thing you're not really sharing! 

I think I'd actually let them believe I was naming baby Elmer just to mess with them.

Allison546

If they were expressing displeasure with the baby's real name, I'd be annoyed.. for now, they don't like the "fake" name so I'd let it slide.

Magenta728

Does she know "Elmer" is not the real name? And yeah, definitely don't share your real names with her

EAMommy

I wouldn't let her know it's annoying, but I would be venting like you are!

We call our baby *snowflake* and I've had more than one person take me aside and say, "Please tell me you are not naming the baby snowflake..." I assure them I am not and tell them we have names picked out but are not sharing them until baby is born. Until then, we will continue to refer to our baby as Snowflake.

zonagirlie

sbevmc09:

Wow... yeah, guess it's a good thing you're not really sharing! 

I think I'd actually let them believe I was naming baby Elmer just to mess with them.

This.

Your MIL sounds like a real peach. I think I'd all caps ELMER in my next few emails til she gets the hint or ask "Who's Elbert?" and ensue with Sbev's idea of making her think the baby is truly going to be named Elmer. 

LaurelBee

Wow. It would drive me bonkers too! But I'd probably roll my eyes and let it slide. And I would totally ignore her email. In the future, keep all decisions to yourself- seems like the type to have an opinion about everything!

laurapacheco

Yes, it is very annoying. My MIL is like this-- when my BIL & his wife had their youngest son, they named him Robert (Bobby)... but my MIL decided "he looks like a Fred." So she calls that poor boy Fred all the time. He is now 5 years old & sure to have an identity complex. I thought it was so rude that she just blatantly disregarded the parent's wishes like that. I made it clear to my DH that she had better respect our wishes when it comes to what we want to call our baby, because I will not tolerate that crap. LOL

simplein06

My mom asked if Elmer was the real name and my response was that you will not know for sure until you see the birth certificate.  ;-)

I have no intention on saying anything to MIL.  I do intend on calling him Elmer for now. 

This is the same person who sat me down after I announced I was pregnant and told me what I should and shouldn't name my baby and told me I shouldn't use the middle name that we would have used if it was a girl (she didn't know that we were planning on using it)

simplein06

laurapacheco:

Yes, it is very annoying. My MIL is like this-- when my BIL & his wife had their youngest son, they named him Robert (Bobby)... but my MIL decided "he looks like a Fred." So she calls that poor boy Fred all the time. He is now 5 years old & sure to have an identity complex. I thought it was so rude that she just blatantly disregarded the parent's wishes like that. I made it clear to my DH that she had better respect our wishes when it comes to what we want to call our baby, because I will not tolerate that crap. LOL

BIL needs to grow some balls.. that is ridiculous

PigglyWiggly1

This is the reason we've opted not to let anyone know the name until our baby is born. Last thing I need are backseat drivers. So far we've been referring the baby by a different nickname each week to coincide with the size. This week it's Stinky! hahah!

laurapacheco

simplein06:

laurapacheco:

Yes, it is very annoying. My MIL is like this-- when my BIL & his wife had their youngest son, they named him Robert (Bobby)... but my MIL decided "he looks like a Fred." So she calls that poor boy Fred all the time. He is now 5 years old & sure to have an identity complex. I thought it was so rude that she just blatantly disregarded the parent's wishes like that. I made it clear to my DH that she had better respect our wishes when it comes to what we want to call our baby, because I will not tolerate that crap. LOL

BIL needs to grow some balls.. that is ridiculous

I know right?! Unfortunately BIL is not the confrontational type.

brianabrad

sbevmc09:

Wow... yeah, guess it's a good thing you're not really sharing! 

I think I'd actually let them believe I was naming baby Elmer just to mess with them.

It would probably annoy me but I think the best thing to do is to take a step back, breath, and realize she probably didn't understand the "humor" in your email about calling the baby Elmer.  Probably the best course of action would be to simply tell her the next time to speak that you are referring to baby as "Elmer" only so you don't call him an it for the next 5 months or so. If she ask about the real name, play coy and tell her she will have to wait and see.

 

eponine7682

I would be very annoyed.

ariellabe

EAMommy:

I wouldn't let her know it's annoying, but I would be venting like you are!

We call our baby *snowflake* and I've had more than one person take me aside and say, "Please tell me you are not naming the baby snowflake..." I assure them I am not and tell them we have names picked out but are not sharing them until baby is born. Until then, we will continue to refer to our baby as Snowflake.

 

You know some fool asked me if I was going to name the baby Sweet Pea.  Of course I said "yes because I love Popeye so much."  They still didn't get the joke. *headdesk* 

ariellabe

Wow your MIL is slow.  I would let it slide...Elbert? smh

smwiggle

I would be the one to let her think that we were going to name the baby Elmer too.  But, I am mean like that.  Of course my MIL keeps pushing names that I hate.

noelikae23

Yes, this would definetely annoy me.  I would just keep calling the baby Elmer to piss her off!