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saradobens88

Okay I heard the baby's heartbeat last Tuesday. and it was 140 and know I am so worried that we are going to have a miscarriage still. I have read stories and they are freaking me out. They went to their Anatomy us and their baby did not have a brain or brain stem and then some people say that the baby's heart just stopped beating. Or they got an infection. Please someone tell me I am worrying to much we had the screening at 12 weeks and everything came back normal I think I am feeling the baby move hear and there and I will be 17 weeks Tomorrow. I do not think I am gaining weight but I was 189 prepregnacy. Overweight I have gained 4 pounds so far. I do not know I just really need the support we lost a baby at 8 weeks , by a mismiscarriage and we have a beautiful 3 year old boy with no pregnancy problems. 

sbevmc09

Anything can happen, but just keep reminding yourself that statistically the chances are overwhelming that everything will turn out just fine and you have absolutely no reason to believe otherwise.  That's all you can really do.  Worrying won't help anything!

simplein06

Regarding the weight, if it makes you feel any better.  I started PP at 200 lbs.  I had a great a/s today and I have not gained a pound. 

Anything can happen, but statistically things are in your favor.

Stop reading so many stories and instead read more factual books regarding pregnancy... it will make you feel better.

Magenta728

sbevmc09:

Anything can happen, but just keep reminding yourself that statistically the chances are overwhelming that everything will turn out just fine and you have absolutely no reason to believe otherwise.  That's all you can really do.  Worrying won't help anything!

All this. I am so sorry for your previous loss. Have you checked out the Pregnant After a Loss board? They are a group of very supportive women who are now pregnant after having suffering losses. Perhaps they can offer you some words of encouragement.

laurapacheco

simplein06:

Regarding the weight, if it makes you feel any better.  I started PP at 200 lbs.  I had a great a/s today and I have not gained a pound. 

Anything can happen, but statistically things are in your favor.

Stop reading so many stories and instead read more factual books regarding pregnancy... it will make you feel better.

All of this. I was 235 pre-pregnancy and now at a little over 17 weeks I've only gained about 1 lb... so your weight gain is not necessarily an indicator of LO's health, especially for us overweight gals.

My doc stressed to me when I would tell her of things I read on the internet-- Dr. Google is NOT your friend. Most of the stories you read are highly unlikely to happen to you. As PP said, just read actual pregnancy books and remember the mantra: "Today I am pregnant, and I love my baby." Stressing so much will do nothing but harm you & LO. GL!

nbalkin

We are all worried, but you can't control things that are out of your control. I am so sorry that you had a loss, but today you are pregnant and today you need to focus on taking care of you and reducing your stress. People don't realize what stress can do to you body. As a psychologist I teach stress management and try to do it myself as well, because the less stress you have the healthier you will be. It is ok to have some worry and some stress (we all do), but take some time to see the positive things that are happening in your life and in your body and hold on to those!

chefsteph

I am paranoid and petrified too. I keep reminding myself that the odds are in my favor though. 

I am high risk, and my HR doctor told us that he would be very surprised if we were to miscarry at this point. That put my mind at ease a bit.

Also, I weighed 225 pre-pregnancy and my weight has been fluctuating over the past few weeks, but right now I am at 221. My doctor told me that its fine, the heart beat is strong, and stressing over this stuff is no good for you or baby.

I think once I feel kicking or movement, things will feel more real and I won't be relying on doctor's appointments to reassure me that the baby is still in there. 

bstengler

My first thing would be to stop reading all the stories. I had that issue at first because I had 2 miscarriages before this pregnancy. But you have to reassure yourself that it will be ok and thing always work out and everything happens for a reason. Keep your head up!

sryanlklassen

I completely understand how you feel, I get very nervous sometimes and I just have to remind myself that everything has gone perfectly well so far and that will continue. We have had 2 ectopics and 1 miscarriage so I am just not used to believing I am going to have a successful pregnancy but at this point all of us have a very good chance of delivering healthy babies! Try and focus on those movements and that little boy who is perfect!