what are your irrational/silly fears?

Robeano

I did this on my other board and some people's fears were quite interesting. I'm wondering what you girls are irrationally afraid of regarding pregnancy and labour. Here's mine...

I am irrationally afraid that I will poop during labour. I don't care that it's normal, that it happens all the time, that my midwives won't care. I would be mortified if I did it. I hope I never find out!! I also told my DH that he isn't to catch the baby (he agreed), I want him up near my head holding my hand. 

JennV514

My fears are- freaking out on the table and having to be put under, hemorrhaging, and PP psychosis.

stewz

bleeding to death, blod clots, and pp depression or psychosis. 

littlemaybaby

Sorry OP - but you probably will poop during labor.  It's more common than not . . . and it's not a big deal.  Gross?  Yes.  But it happens, a lot.  

My irrational fear is that my son will hate me and the new baby.  Irrational to the point that I cry about it. 

Robeano

littlemaybaby:

Sorry OP - but you probably will poop during labor.  It's more common than not . . . and it's not a big deal.  Gross?  Yes.  But it happens, a lot.  

Sigh, I know....  I have issues with poop...

sjamin9

PP depression is a HUGE fear of mine.

megamegan60

Robeano:

littlemaybaby:

Sorry OP - but you probably will poop during labor.  It's more common than not . . . and it's not a big deal.  Gross?  Yes.  But it happens, a lot.  

Sigh, I know....  I have issues with poop...

 

I agree.  I understand its common and not a big deal.....but that is still my irrational fear too!  lol.

littlemaybaby

Robeano:

littlemaybaby:

Sorry OP - but you probably will poop during labor.  It's more common than not . . . and it's not a big deal.  Gross?  Yes.  But it happens, a lot.  

Sigh, I know....  I have issues with poop...

I understand.  It kinda freaked me out too.  And I told everyone in the room - if I'm pooping, I don't want to know.  Then during pushing, I could tell that I was, and they all swore that I wasn't.

It wasn't until my son was like 6 months old that DH finally told me I did poop.  

Good times.   

Pink253

PP Depression is scary.

Reptar13

I'm afraid of getting that giant shot in my back, contractions.... just about every pain related thing in this. I love being pregnant but I'm so scared of the pain...

LoriLue31

Oh tons, but I don't think they are silly. lol

Dying (either one), Blood clots, hemorrhaging, PP depression, troubles bonding with baby, breastfeeding, having no idea what i'm doing, being alone with the baby by myself for the first time, not making it to the hospital in time (we live an hour away from it and someones there is horrible traffic that makes it two), the epidural (if I choose it) and side effects- shortness of breath during labor, having a full blown panic attack in the middle of labor- oh the list goes on and on.

mindy0711

I fear this baby will come early and we'll ruin DD's christmas.  I also fear about DD feeling left out, not loved and I fear that I won't love this LO as much as I love DD. 

As far as the labor part, I am just scared of the whole thing...I had a long, hard labor with DD and I am scared I'll have the same thing with this one.

megamegan60

LoriLue31:

Oh tons, but I don't think they are silly. lol

Dying (either one), Blood clots, hemorrhaging, PP depression, troubles bonding with baby, breastfeeding, having no idea what i'm doing, being alone with the baby by myself for the first time, not making it to the hospital in time (we live an hour away from it and someones there is horrible traffic that makes it two), the epidural (if I choose it) and side effects- shortness of breath during labor, having a full blown panic attack in the middle of labor- oh the list goes on and on.

I agree, they are ALL legit, but you guys are making me nervous about things that I didnt even think about yet!!  The only thing I was scared of was poop and now I have a list!  lol.  I should stop reading these, but I just cant help it!   

 

eSynergy

This isn't irrational, but I'm scared of pre-term labor. I really want this baby in until 40 weeks!

Irrational....I'm terrified of having a baby that doesn't sleep well at night. I don't function well at all on little sleep! I need to mentally prepare myself for some sleepless nights because it's going to happen.

LoveIsOwlYouNeed

I wouldn't say I am scared of it, but I am really not looking forward to bleeding for like two weeks after the birth.  I'm nervous about pain/blood during that recovery time.  And about PP depression.

OP, like you, my husband and I have adamantly agreed that he'll be staying "north of the equator" so to speak!

littleheaven

i know it's not really irrational or silly, but i'm a bit worried about depression....

but i'm also worried about how my lady bits might get torn up....i know my sister had a squirt water bottle on the back of her toilet to use whenever she had to go...and they gave her some numbing spray.....ugh..i don't want it to hurt when i pee!

i'm also afraid that mil might try and burst in during delivery....or, not labor related, try and call our u/s tech to find out the sex of the baby 

oh, and i'm also afraid it's going to be ugly...i don't want an ugly baby 

eta- i'm also worried that my nephew (8yo) might be jealous? he was a little clingy last week, but i don't know if it was because he wasn't feeling well or not...i mean i'm really close to my nephew and niece, and i'm always there for them.... 

TexasMom7137

I am afraid it will be icy the day I go into labor and I won;t be able to get to a hospital.

We live in Texas so this almost never happens but when it does everything pretty much shuts down where I live. We live pretty far out in the country and they don't salt the roads or bridges out that far. I was hit by someone who slid on ice a few years back and now I refuse to drive on the stuff.

mrsodonnell12

My fears...... being induced..... c-section...PPD.... pitocin..... IVs in general.....

JaiteJanerico

The whole act of labor terrifies me, but I'm most scared of getting an epidural. Forever ago, I saw a 20/20 episode about epidurals gone wrong.  It was about how instead of numbing the lower part of your body, the medicine traveled up the spin to the brain which caused the mothers to become brain damaged, sometimes paralyzed, and one in a vegetative state.

ReeceFamily

I'm irrationally worried that I have incompetent cervix and that the doctor's won't pick up on it in time.  I have no reason to believe that this will happen, other than the fact that I have finally made it to 2nd tri and now am inventing things that could go wrong .

Smashdance

I do not do well with blood and I'm really nervous about that part of labor and after the birth. I am also quite afraid of that big, bad epidural needle. I went with a friend to get a spinal tap a few years ago and it was terrifying.

I'm also afraid that I'm going to drop the baby or that the baby will get hurt and I won't know what to do. I keep having this vision of something going wrong and me looking at DH and saying "WHO let us have a baby?!" I know it's silly, but it keeps happening!

mommywagner

I'm afraid of going into labor on Super Bowl Sunday! I want the day to be about our family and I don't want my husband focused on other things. I'm due January 26th so the chances of it happening are pretty high!!!

mrsodonnell12

Smashdance:

I do not do well with blood and I'm really nervous about that part of labor and after the birth. I am also quite afraid of that big, bad epidural needle. I went with a friend to get a spinal tap a few years ago and it was terrifying.

I'm also afraid that I'm going to drop the baby or that the baby will get hurt and I won't know what to do. I keep having this vision of something going wrong and me looking at DH and saying "WHO let us have a baby?!" I know it's silly, but it keeps happening!

I didnt see any blood when I had DS.

CocoR04

Despite the fact that I know risks are low in a normal pregnancy/labor, I'm scared of:

1) Blood clots

2) Unexpected major side effects (infections, epi horror stories, etc.)

3) Death (baby or me)

4) Uncontrollable migraine headaches after giving birth due to fluctuating hormones (I already suffer from hormone-related migraines)... and therefore, not being able to help DH care for our child.

5) Bed rest 

 

brittandjp

I have quite a few, some irrational, others probably not.

- my water breaking mid teaching (I'm a teacher)

- delivering early (I would really like to go the full 40 weeks, maybe even a week late or so)

- breastfeeding (I'm hoping to b/f for at least 6-9 months, but I'm terrified of the pain, scabs, and not being good at it)

- tearing

- something bad happening during delivery that will make it so I cannot have any more children

- our dogs having a really hard time with a baby

- the epidural!!!!!!!!!!