Stop telling me when NOT to give birth!

rp-chicago-mom

My sister, mother and MIL all have days they would rather I not give birth. My sister has a babysitter tomorrow night for her anniversary and the week after my due date she has her SIL visiting so it has to not be tomorrow but before my due date.

My mother has a special dinner to go to tonight for her retirement so it can't be today.

MIL is going on vacation next week starting Friday so and going to my due date. So it can't be the week before my due date.

Really? Shall I schedule an elective induction to suit everyone's needs? And what day exactly because every day between now and my induction for going over has already been claimed. Sorry the birth of your grandchild or niece or nephew is such an inconvenience for you! Sorry. Vent over.

Cheerilee

Tell them that if anyone else tells you not to have YOUR baby on any given day, you won't be telling anyone the baby is born until EVERYONE returns from their important engagements.

lizztheo

I totally know what you mean. My brother and sister are leaving for college so my parents are going to move them in these next two weeks. My in laws have mentioned good dates when they are free as well. Does nobody seem to understand that I have no control over this? My sister was a brat about the whole thing when my mom mentioned that they would be leaving her move-in early if I was in labor. My sis told my mother that moving in her child for college was more important than the birth of her first grandchild. My mom was pretty much horrified and is really scared I'll go into labor then and she doesn't know what to do.

LMB1231

Cheerilee:

Tell them that if anyone else tells you not to have YOUR baby on any given day, you won't be telling anyone the baby is born until EVERYONE returns from their important engagements.

 This.

 How annoying. I'm sure they know that you can't control it but its one of those "ounce of truth in every joke" thing which still makes it annoying that they say it to you still. 

k.martell

Until we booked the c-section date my Mom would call me telling me it's a beautiful day to have a baby.  I just ignored her and changed the subject.

klmcguire

OMG..... I would be frustrated. My mother is doing this a little, but it has not gotten to an unbearable point where I want to scream!

I do hate the guessing game of her telling me the family members brithdays in the next 2 weeks and the days i should "avoid"

nicnac817

I'm in the same boat girlfriend.  The other day I had my doctor trying to push an induction on me at exactly 40 weeks to suit her schedule. My DF giving me a list of days that the baby can come and  list of days she can't.  Everyone keeps calling to see if there is any progress... I freaked out!!!   I cried which hasn't happened in years.  This shocked everyone so much that they laid off.  I think people that are close to us get so excited that they forget how nerve racking and stressful having a baby is.  We just need to deep breath and know that our LO's will come when they want and thats that. Good luck dealing with the masses!

nicari_13

My SIL would do this to me (the date has passed). It started when she found out my due date at 12 weeks. She desperately didn't want my baby born on her son's birthday. Early on I would get a remninder not to give birth on the 12th. Then starting last month she would remind me weekly on FB not to the baby on the 12th. She was driving me crazy! She left me a voicemail on the 11th not to go into labor.

She's had a kid; does she honestly not remember that I have no control over when I go into labor? Honestly I wish I had had the baby on the 12th just because she would have been devestated.

Now she's started in with "Maybe the ultrasound is wrong and you're having a boy". UGH!

ExcitedFTM

Sounds like it might be less stressful if they weren't around? Can't believe they are saying this to you! If they can't make time for you then and LO then just enjoy LO without them :-) 

rp-chicago-mom

ExcitedFTM:

Sounds like it might be less stressful if they weren't around? Can't believe they are saying this to you! If they can't make time for you then and LO then just enjoy LO without them :nbsp;

This would be ideal! My Mother plans to stay with us and I guarantee she will not be helpful at all. She will demand things of me, be mad I don't have whatever food she wants, make messes for me to clean up and judge everything I do.

bellag8212

Cheerilee:

Tell them that if anyone else tells you not to have YOUR baby on any given day, you won't be telling anyone the baby is born until EVERYONE returns from their important engagements.

 

This!