Sexy Time---I apologize if its TMI

chefsteph

With all the sleeping position talking, I was wondering if anyone else is having an issue finding comfortable sex positions.

I don't have a huge bump or anything, but whenever my husband lies on top of me, I either get like instant heart burn or think I am going to puke. Very attractive I know.

If he tries to do it sideways, it hurts.

I am not a huge fan of doggy style because I feel like it takes away the intimacy, and perhaps I am just too lazy to be on top, but it doesn't really do it for me.

Is anyone else having issues? Totally frustrated because I have not lost my sex drive and DH is becoming obnoxious. 

sbevmc09

I know exactly what you mean and it will only get worse (obviously). 

Last time I was pregnant we hardly had sex at all.  It was just a combination of things.  Something that did help (especially once I was further along) was to put a pillow underneath me and then H was able to be more upright.  Like, more on his knees so that we could still be in the missionary position without him laying on top of me.  I hope that makes sense.  

sesigs

DH on top is definitely off the table for me now too! Being on top is personally the best for me but I totally understand it feeling like extra work

lanie22

I have been meaning to post pretty much the same question for several days!  You aren't alone!  In the 1st tri the side position was amazing - not so much now.  I can't stand for any pressure to be on my stomach, so him on top isn't working out so well either.  Mentally I still freak out a bit if I feel it's going too deep and getting close to my cervix, so doggy & on top can be a challenge. 

I'm just not enjoying sex right now at all.  Either the position does nothing for me or I'm uncomfortable down there thanks to added bloodflow I guess.  But I feel bad for DH (bless his heart he's been really good about not making me feel bad about our lack of sex life) and usually suck it up and "take one for the team"

Curious what's working for everyone else.....

chefsteph

I am so glad I am not alone. I really just don't want to throw up on him. LOL

nycitygirl1

sesigs:

DH on top is definitely off the table for me now too! Being on top is personally the best for me but I totally understand it feeling like extra work

This. LOL!

GraceyandTroy

sesigs:

DH on top is definitely off the table for me now too! Being on top is personally the best for me but I totally understand it feeling like extra work

This whole statement is me exactly!  I can't have him on top, but the extra work of me being on top is getting really exhausting.  Especially since I'm not that into it these days, and the extra work isn't exactly paying off.  I feel so lucky that DH is so patient with me, but I feel bad that I need him to be, too. 

laurapacheco

lanie22:

I have been meaning to post pretty much the same question for several days!  You aren't alone!  In the 1st tri the side position was amazing - not so much now.  I can't stand for any pressure to be on my stomach, so him on top isn't working out so well either.  Mentally I still freak out a bit if I feel it's going too deep and getting close to my cervix, so doggy & on top can be a challenge. 

I'm just not enjoying sex right now at all.  Either the position does nothing for me or I'm uncomfortable down there thanks to added bloodflow I guess.  But I feel bad for DH (bless his heart he's been really good about not making me feel bad about our lack of sex life) and usually suck it up and "take one for the team"

Curious what's working for everyone else.....

This is me too... although it's gotten better since 1st tri, I'm still out of the mood more often than not. But I usually just do it anyway; DH has been so great to me during this pregnancy that I don't mind helping him out when I can.

I was also going to suggest you laying on the edge of the bed with him standing, but I see someone else already suggested that. GL! 

zonagirlie

There are more positions than just those, ladies! If you only have four positions, there's a problem. Time to get creative! What about both on sides, him behind, you can still kiss in this position, or him between your legs with you on your back, legs in the air? For me, doggy style has always been the best way for an internal orgasm. Most women have to be stimulated both in and out, but that one helps me without any other stimulation. I find it very intimate because he doesn't have to just be standing and railing, he can be leaning over kissing your back and whispering things in your ear. Go take a wander through the bookstore and take a look at a kama sutra book. Excellent ideas in there, I promise!

flairdecor

I find that being on top, or doggie style works well for me. If you don't want to do either of those options another I like, and requires little effort on your end, is to lay on your back like you would in missionary, but have him on his knees infront of you on the bed and put your legs up over his shoulder (I prefer to have both to one side or the other, but you can do one on each shoulder) with your legs up on his shoulders the backs of your legs will keep him from putting any unwanted pressure on your stomach. This is basically missionary style, the only difference is instead of your legs on either side of your partner, they are actually on your partners shoulders. I hope that description was well enough for you to figure out. It is quite enjoyable and allows you full control of how deep the penetration is and how much pressure is placed on your mid section.

chefsteph

amnat84:

I actually downloaded a sex positions app (they seriously have an app for everything) that has some really good ideas in all kinds of crazy positions.  It's been fun trying out new stuff and getting out of our old routine.  I kind of had the opposite problem and became a bit of a sex fiend since my 2nd tri started, so I was just looking for ideas to spice things up. 

And you know, there are options besides intercourse (hate that word)...this app has like 30 different oral ideas which I personally have found VERY helpful

Oh and if you want to ramp up your sex drive, try googling James Deen.  You're welcome.

 

Sadly, my sex drive isn't the issue. I will definitely look into some other positions. Although I don't trust my balance to try something like the Italian Hanger LOL.  I just need to find a way to get comfortable. Nothing is worse than when you really want it and your hubby gives up and says forget it.

Yellow415

I dont know if I can explain this to make sense but the best way we have found is him on his side and me on my back. I kinda arch my butt towards him and throw my right leg over his hip and the other leg between his legs or both legs over his hips so that my butt ends up kinda backwards but the top of me is still able to face him.

MrsRiceARoni

There are a few that we rotate through lately that seem to be working quite well for us so far. Our go to is me on top of him alternating between sitting straight up and leaning over on him so we can kiss and he can get some boob action, this is still working quite well but it is getting a little harder to lean forward as comfortably as I get bigger. We also like something similar on the couch (but I guess it could be done with him sitting at the edge of the bed) where he sits on the couch and I straddle him, it gives good penetration and some nice rubbing stimulation and I love how we can kiss or he can get to my boobs the whole time. We also occasionally throw in me lying on my back at the edge of the bed with dh standing facing me, it allows him to get a good view while getting pretty deep, and allows me to assist with some external stimulation which he enjoys watching, sometimes he'll put both of my leggs together on one side in this position as well. We also enjoy finishing doggie style with me leaning over the edge of the bed at times, but I understand how it may not feel intimate enough for you, we never do this exclusively in a session just use it as a more energetic finish at times .

Added: I kinda wish it was a Saturday because typing that all out really makes me want to jump DH right about now...

Yellow415

MrsRiceARoni:

There are a few that we rotate through lately that seem to be working quite well for us so far. Our go to is me on top of him alternating between sitting straight up and leaning over on him so we can kiss and he can get some boob action, this is still working quite well but it is getting a little harder to lean forward as comfortably as I get bigger. We also like something similar on the couch (but I guess it could be done with him sitting at the edge of the bed) where he sits on the couch and I straddle him, it gives good penetration and some nice rubbing stimulation and I love how we can kiss or he can get to my boobs the whole time. We also occasionally throw in me lying on my back at the edge of the bed with dh standing facing me, it allows him to get a good view while getting pretty deep, and allows me to assist with some external stimulation which he enjoys watching, sometimes he'll put both of my leggs together on one side in this position as well. We also enjoy finishing doggie style with me leaning over the edge of the bed at times, but I understand how it may not feel intimate enough for you, we never do this exclusively in a session just use it as a more energetic finish at times .

Added: I kinda wish it was a Saturday because typing that all out really makes me want to jump DH right about now...

Gosh, girl, youre killing me here lmao! We had sex this morning and I o'd 3 times but after reading this, Im about to tell DH to get his butt home to go again!

MrsRiceARoni

Yellow415:

MrsRiceARoni:

There are a few that we rotate through lately that seem to be working quite well for us so far. Our go to is me on top of him alternating between sitting straight up and leaning over on him so we can kiss and he can get some boob action, this is still working quite well but it is getting a little harder to lean forward as comfortably as I get bigger. We also like something similar on the couch (but I guess it could be done with him sitting at the edge of the bed) where he sits on the couch and I straddle him, it gives good penetration and some nice rubbing stimulation and I love how we can kiss or he can get to my boobs the whole time. We also occasionally throw in me lying on my back at the edge of the bed with dh standing facing me, it allows him to get a good view while getting pretty deep, and allows me to assist with some external stimulation which he enjoys watching, sometimes he'll put both of my leggs together on one side in this position as well. We also enjoy finishing doggie style with me leaning over the edge of the bed at times, but I understand how it may not feel intimate enough for you, we never do this exclusively in a session just use it as a more energetic finish at times .

Added: I kinda wish it was a Saturday because typing that all out really makes me want to jump DH right about now...

Gosh, girl, youre killing me here lmao! We had sex this morning and I o'd 3 times but after reading this, Im about to tell DH to get his butt home to go again!

Haha I'm glad I'm not just working myself up here haha. I'm thinking DH may have to finish working a little early today...

erkie

MrsRiceARoni:

Yellow415:

MrsRiceARoni:

There are a few that we rotate through lately that seem to be working quite well for us so far. Our go to is me on top of him alternating between sitting straight up and leaning over on him so we can kiss and he can get some boob action, this is still working quite well but it is getting a little harder to lean forward as comfortably as I get bigger. We also like something similar on the couch (but I guess it could be done with him sitting at the edge of the bed) where he sits on the couch and I straddle him, it gives good penetration and some nice rubbing stimulation and I love how we can kiss or he can get to my boobs the whole time. We also occasionally throw in me lying on my back at the edge of the bed with dh standing facing me, it allows him to get a good view while getting pretty deep, and allows me to assist with some external stimulation which he enjoys watching, sometimes he'll put both of my leggs together on one side in this position as well. We also enjoy finishing doggie style with me leaning over the edge of the bed at times, but I understand how it may not feel intimate enough for you, we never do this exclusively in a session just use it as a more energetic finish at times .

Added: I kinda wish it was a Saturday because typing that all out really makes me want to jump DH right about now...

Gosh, girl, youre killing me here lmao! We had sex this morning and I o'd 3 times but after reading this, Im about to tell DH to get his butt home to go again!

Haha I'm glad I'm not just working myself up here haha. I'm thinking DH may have to finish working a little early today...

This is NOT helping with my pelvic rest

Yellow415

erkie:

MrsRiceARoni:

Yellow415:

MrsRiceARoni:

There are a few that we rotate through lately that seem to be working quite well for us so far. Our go to is me on top of him alternating between sitting straight up and leaning over on him so we can kiss and he can get some boob action, this is still working quite well but it is getting a little harder to lean forward as comfortably as I get bigger. We also like something similar on the couch (but I guess it could be done with him sitting at the edge of the bed) where he sits on the couch and I straddle him, it gives good penetration and some nice rubbing stimulation and I love how we can kiss or he can get to my boobs the whole time. We also occasionally throw in me lying on my back at the edge of the bed with dh standing facing me, it allows him to get a good view while getting pretty deep, and allows me to assist with some external stimulation which he enjoys watching, sometimes he'll put both of my leggs together on one side in this position as well. We also enjoy finishing doggie style with me leaning over the edge of the bed at times, but I understand how it may not feel intimate enough for you, we never do this exclusively in a session just use it as a more energetic finish at times .

Added: I kinda wish it was a Saturday because typing that all out really makes me want to jump DH right about now...

Gosh, girl, youre killing me here lmao! We had sex this morning and I o'd 3 times but after reading this, Im about to tell DH to get his butt home to go again!

Haha I'm glad I'm not just working myself up here haha. I'm thinking DH may have to finish working a little early today...

This is NOT helping with my pelvic rest

Oh no Hope everything is ok and youre released soon! 

Jbosarge85

flairdecor:

I find that being on top, or doggie style works well for me. If you don't want to do either of those options another I like, and requires little effort on your end, is to lay on your back like you would in missionary, but have him on his knees infront of you on the bed and put your legs up over his shoulder (I prefer to have both to one side or the other, but you can do one on each shoulder) with your legs up on his shoulders the backs of your legs will keep him from putting any unwanted pressure on your stomach. This is basically missionary style, the only difference is instead of your legs on either side of your partner, they are actually on your partners shoulders. I hope that description was well enough for you to figure out. It is quite enjoyable and allows you full control of how deep the penetration is and how much pressure is placed on your mid section.

I loved the legs on the shoulders till I got pregnant now it puts way too much pressure on my abdomen. So it hurts. I say to the original OP. Stop being lazy, be on top for a change why should your DH have to do all the work everytime geeze ladies.

catherinerachel

Yellow415:

I dont know if I can explain this to make sense but the best way we have found is him on his side and me on my back. I kinda arch my butt towards him and throw my right leg over his hip and the other leg between his legs or both legs over his hips so that my butt ends up kinda backwards but the top of me is still able to face him.

 

We like this one.