Birthmom & Blogs??

House of Lovelock

I recently had a social worker tell me that having a blog would be "very undesirable" to a birthmother or expectant parent hoping to place. She seemed really concerned about it - which I thought strange. I really hadn't ever thought about the blog being a hindrance to our adoption, I thought it might even help in the event that someone were to find us online, but now I'm not so sure!

Any thoughts? Anyone else has negative blog feedback from their birthmother or expectant parents?

JELLYRUNNER01

BS i think its refreshing to read how my baby is so loved already by their adoptive parents It also gives me a little reassurance that im making the right choice.

House of Lovelock

That is wonderful! (Congrats on your baby btw!)

christineandaaron

I never thought of it as a hindrance either. I am interested to see what others have to say.

jillianmb

Did you social worker even read your blog before making those comments?  I think she is crazy cakes and you are fine.  :-)  Keep blogging!

House of Lovelock

Haha! Thank you! Nope, she probably didn't ready it, she is definitely old fashioned which would make all of this make sense. 

jillianmb:

Did you social worker even read your blog before making those comments?  I think she is crazy cakes and you are fine.  :-)  Keep blogging!

Art Teacher

I mentioned writing a blog to our caseworker at one point, and she was very interested.  She wrote a blog about family life/adoption as well.  She thought it was a great idea.

I know of someone from my agency whose son's birthmom found them through her blog!  (Heart Cries -- https://rebekahpinchback.blogspot.com/.)  I say go for it.  Many many people use blogs to talk about adoption or to let others know they want to adopt.

House of Lovelock

Thanks for the link! I'm going to read it now. We don't want to use our blog for adoption, we just have one - I've been blogging for years and love to keep in touch with all my friends & family through it. It's just a fun little outlet for me!

Art Teacher:

I mentioned writing a blog to our caseworker at one point, and she was very interested.  She wrote a blog about family life/adoption as well.  She thought it was a great idea.

I know of someone from my agency whose son's birthmom found them through her blog!  (Heart Cries -- https://rebekahpinchback.blogspot.com/.)  I say go for it.  Many many people use blogs to talk about adoption or to let others know they want to adopt.

Ginny0211

I'm a Birthmother and I would not of seen it as "undesirable" when I was making an adoption plan and I would not be oppose to my birthson's parents doing one now. I would actually love it if they would! 

 

House of Lovelock

Yeah! Good to know. Maybe they will start one, it's so popular these days!

Ginny0211:

I'm a Birthmother and I would not of seen it as "undesirable" when I was making an adoption plan and I would not be oppose to my birthson's parents doing one now. I would actually love it if they would! 

 

Dr.Loretta

Yeah that's weird. I'd ask her why she had that opinion.

We set up a blog just for DD's birthfamily so she can see updates more than the annual letters and pictures we send.

House of Lovelock

I love that idea! I feel like it would work the same as it does for our far away family - a way for them to pop in and see how we are doing, what we are up to, without feeling too intrusive. It's very freeing to keep in touch this way with certain relationships, although if we adopt again I'm hoping the birth mom or parents wants to have contact.

Dr.Loretta:

Yeah that's weird. I'd ask her why she had that opinion.

We set up a blog just for DD's birthfamily so she can see updates more than the annual letters and pictures we send.

Jessicajade1

I am a birthmom due in just a few short weeks. It was the blog that sold me on the family that I have chosen. I loved seeing what their family was about and it helped me learn so much more about them. I think it is the best thing ever!