Close birthdays question

SarahKate31

If your children have birthdays within a month or so of each other, do you have a separate birthday party for each child or a joint party? Is the 1st birthday any different?

weezie825

Evie and Victor have birthdays about 1 month apart.  I think that for the non-milestone years we will probably do a joint party.  We have a HUGE family and it would be easier to have one party for both kids. 

DH and I share a birthday, so I don't think our kids will find it strange to share a party.

jcsntms06

My girls birthdays are six months apart, so they will have their own birthday parties.

DH and I birthdays are two days apart and we always do something jointly (i.e. dinner w/family). 

mrs. remy

Why do you ask SK??

Mine are 3 months apart so I don't know. My cousin has two kids, and their birthdays are 3 days apart, so she throws a party for two of them.

lenebene

My nieces are 4 days apart.... My SIL usually has them together.

KathrynMD

I don't think you can make a hard and fast rule about this - sometimes a kid needs their own party, sometimes a joint one is OK too.

As someone w/ a birthday right before Christmas, I feel like I always get the shaft, so to me, its important to make DD's birthday (a week before mine) a big deal in and of itself.

 

lenebene

KathrynMD:

As someone w/ a birthday right before Christmas, I feel like I always get the shaft, so to me, its important to make DD's birthday (a week before mine) a big deal in and of itself.

I feel your pain and LOVE that you do this.  I hated my bday growing up because no one came to my party since it was so close to christmas. 

jcsntms06

mrs. remy:

Why do you ask SK??

Mine are 3 months apart so I don't know. My cousin has two kids, and their birthdays are 3 days apart, so she throws a party for two of them.

Please do tell! 

SarahKate31

jcsntms06:

mrs. remy:

Why do you ask SK??

Mine are 3 months apart so I don't know. My cousin has two kids, and their birthdays are 3 days apart, so she throws a party for two of them.

Please do tell! 

Haha, sorry to disappoint! I'm just thinking about possibilities 

Ragdolls

SarahKate31:

jcsntms06:

mrs. remy:

Why do you ask SK??

Mine are 3 months apart so I don't know. My cousin has two kids, and their birthdays are 3 days apart, so she throws a party for two of them.

Please do tell! 

Haha, sorry to disappoint! I'm just thinking about possibilities 

Darn....I was getting excited since C's birthday is in - look at that! - just over 9 months.

Cooper81

KathrynMD:

I don't think you can make a hard and fast rule about this - sometimes a kid needs their own party, sometimes a joint one is OK too.

As someone w/ a birthday right before Christmas, I feel like I always get the shaft, so to me, its important to make DD's birthday (a week before mine) a big deal in and of itself.

 

I agree with Kathryn, I think while they are little you cag "get away" with a joint party, but I think once they get older they might start telling you they want separate. And right now we just do a party with family and close friends, but I see when they get older that we will do a friends party and then a small family thing (DH's family always did this since all his GP's, aunts and uncles all live close, mine didn't so it was a moot point, but we live near both sides of our family as well).

 

also DS was born 2 days before Christmas, and my b-day is 4 days after new years, so I know how much it can suck to have a major holiday so close to your birthday.  so I know I will make a point of making each kids birthday feel special. 

Megcheer2

Ragdolls:

SarahKate31:

jcsntms06:

mrs. remy:

Why do you ask SK??

Mine are 3 months apart so I don't know. My cousin has two kids, and their birthdays are 3 days apart, so she throws a party for two of them.

Please do tell! 

Haha, sorry to disappoint! I'm just thinking about possibilities 

Darn....I was getting excited since C's birthday is in - look at that! - just over 9 months.

 I happened to notice Caelan's bday is just over 9 months away, too! I agree with whoever  said that you can't make a hard and fast rule about it. I know some people who feel that each kid gets their own celebration, but other ones who share parties. I guess I personally feel that sharing is just fine, but if I were in a situation where my kids had close birthdays, I might feel different. 

BunintheOven311

I would keep them seperate.  I don't feel the need for a blow out party every year but I do think that we want each of them to feel special on their day.  I know I would want that and even if they were a day a part I would want each child to feel like they are special on their day.  That being said there may be times if they are SUPER close to have a joint party-especially since those parties can be expensive. 

Mella&T

I think if we had kids close together (I'd say 3-4 weeks or less) we'd likely have family parties together when they were younger but as they got older I think it'd be important for them to have separate friend parties, especially if they're different genders. I would want to place importance on separate cakes, etc so they know they're each being celebrated in their own way.

cordy_25

My children's birthdays are nine days apart.  We plan on doing joint parties as long as we can mainly to keep party costs down (which seem to add up really quickly!!) Having just pulled off a joint party less than a week ago, we got through another year without a hitch.  My oldest is heading into kindergarten this year, so we know our time is limited as she starts gaining more friends.... Realistically, I think we may be able to pull off one more joint party before the older sister decides it is just not cool to have her little sister chasing her around at her party.  Or perhaps we will just need a bigger venue and a way to separate the little girls from the bigger kids.... hmm.

lauren2000x

My brother and I are 6 years apart but our birthdays are only 1 day apart. We always had separate birthdays. If your kids are close in age, then maybe in the begining you can have joint parties then as they get in school and have their own friends, start giving them their own parties. We used to have joint family parties (or just get togethers each year) but then we would have our own regular birthday parties with our friends.  As they get older you want each kid to know their own birthday is special, IMO.

mrsbecky07

We always had two big family parties a year, one around December and one around February, that incorporated all family birthdays around those times.  TONS of winter bdays in my family.

but we always had our birthday parties with our friends (starting around 3 or 4 or so if the pictures are any indication) as individuals and we always always always had our own cakes and everything. My mom is kind of psychotic about it actually. So we go with my mom Jan 18, my grandfather was Jan 19, SIL feb 6, I'm Feb 8, my dad is Feb 10, and my grandmother is Feb 13.  (that is not including cousins, my uncle, or my sister.)  My mom bakes an individual cake for each person.  Growing up she and my grandfather always shared a cake and a mini-party and it is something that has stuck with her and so she overcompensates for everyone now.