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sex?

hollimarhollimar member
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Well that's the questionm. But the answer on my end is no. I went and saw my therapist last Monday hoping this was just a libido thing. Nope. Just terrified of another m/c. Yay. Any of you ladies have a hard time , getting in the mood, after loss? How do I get my drive back. I love my hubby. But I want to LOVE him, if u know what I mean. This sucks.
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Re: sex?

  • RedPhoenix625RedPhoenix625

    Sorry you're having a tough time.  I think what are you going through is perfectly normal and justifiable (so long as you are able to overcome it with time.)

    I wonder if it's the actual fear or pregnancy/mc, or the symbolic connection of sex to your mc that is causing the problem...

    If it's really just the fear of getting pregnant and miscarrying again, you might consider charting or using protection so that you can avoid pregnancy while still being intimate with your husband until you are emotionally ready to try again.  If sex at any time just makes you sad, even if you couldn't get pregnant, (which again, is understandable), then that's a different issue that you, DH, and your therapist will want to talk through.

    Sorry again.  (((HUGS)))

    PAIF/SAIF, PGAL/PAL welcome.
    TTC since March 2010 ~ Dx Unexplained IF September 2011
    2011: IUI + Clomid = CP#1
    2012: 3 more IUIs + Clomid = 3 more CPs. One on-our-own pg, also CP
    2013: BTB IUI + Lupron/Follistim/Prometrium/PIO = CP #6
    IF testing, RPL testing, Autoimmune testing = all normal
    So lost.
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