"Enjoy the peace and quiet now."

starrysmile18

So I posted on my FB that today we are 36w, and we cannot wait to meet our LO, and I get many many positive responses. And then this cousin-in-law who once in awhile gets under my skin goes "Well, enjoy the peace and quiet now, because it'll be gone soon." REALLY?! I had no f'in clue. And for the record, my DH and I are very well aware of the changes coming and welcome it with open arms....esp after waiting for 8 months.

Sorry, that just irked me a bit. I wanna be snarky and say something back, but I've gotta let my pg hormones chill out a bit.

MomiJerz

I would chill I don't think it was that serious to deserve a snarly remark, she will just come back and call you pregnant and hormonal and piss you off more.. lol

HRP22

Yeah, the negative comments get old.  Yes, I know I will be sleep deprived.  Isn't that common knowledge?  Is it really necessary to remind FTM/FTDs all the time that they will be tired when their child is born?

 

ELCJet

Eh, I think parents who were unprepared for "the change" like to warn others so they aren't as surprised.  I don't think she's trying to be mean.  For some couples (like DH and I, who had no friends with children and had never even changed a diaper before), a baby is the absolute biggest game changer *ever.*  I remember wishing that somehow I'd been more prepared, because talk of sleep deprivation and sacrifices paled in comparison to the real deal.

 Anyway, just a different perspective for you. 

TAGSL710

I usually get frustrated with that stuff too but waking up to a 10 and 11 year old this morning made me think "omg I don't think I really get it". 

Manx4

Haha!  Enjoy it now.  It's annoying to hear.  I hated people who told me to just "enjoy life now because it'll change."  I thought the same thing "DUH!" 

But no one can prepare you for becoming a parent for the first time.  Even when you think you know, you don't know.  And I don't mean to sound like a "BTDT" mom, just saying while it may not have been the nicest way to say it - it's true.  

I cannot believe how much time I had pre-child.  I was actually able to get things done and cross items off my "to-do" list in a reasonable time.  Now...things slide.  haha.  

You'll adjust, you'll love it, it'll be worth it but yes...enjoy the time you have left with just you & your husband.  Cherish it.  Your life and family dynamics are about to change forever! 

brideandbreve

That's one of the reasons why I don't post stuff on FB very much. I watched other friends get pregnant and get those snarky, know-it-all comments from others, and I decided I wasn't going to give people the opportunity to do it to me.

I'm sure people mean well, but I feel as though a majority of women think that once they've been pregnant and had a baby, they're experts on this whole motherhood thing..

I would just ignore those comments and chalk it up to someone thinking they're doing a good thing by giving you a heads up.

Mary&Nick716

I think we all have that one relative who is very talented at irking us to no end. I get maybe 3 hours of good sleep a night right now because I am still nauseous around the clock and can't get comfortable lying down, so if someone said this to me, I would probably respond, "Sleep? What's that? That went out the window a long time ago!" or, "Baby is already keeping me awake all night to get me prepared, lol!"

People drive me crazy but I try to keep it lighthearted because I'm sure they mean well for the most part. On the other hand, if this is one of those people who says things just to get a reaction out of you, ignore her.

Megroons

brideandbreve:

That's one of the reasons why I don't post stuff on FB very much. I watched other friends get pregnant and get those snarky, know-it-all comments from others, and I decided I wasn't going to give people the opportunity to do it to me.

I'm sure people mean well, but I feel as though a majority of women think that once they've been pregnant and had a baby, they're experts on this whole motherhood thing..

I would just ignore those comments and chalk it up to someone thinking they're doing a good thing by giving you a heads up.

This. I tried to avoid all possible situations where someone could respond with, "just wait". I'm so sick of hearing that one!

MomtobeNJ

I get it ALL THE TIME, and yes, it is annoying. I'm trying to develop a tougher skin though. Just imagine all the unsolicited advice and "I told you so's" we're going to be getting when we actually have these babies.

KarBear

Manx4:

Haha!  Enjoy it now.  It's annoying to hear.  I hated people who told me to just "enjoy life now because it'll change."  I thought the same thing "DUH!" 

But no one can prepare you for becoming a parent for the first time.  Even when you think you know, you don't know.  And I don't mean to sound like a "BTDT" mom, just saying while it may not have been the nicest way to say it - it's true.  

I cannot believe how much time I had pre-child.  I was actually able to get things done and cross items off my "to-do" list in a reasonable time.  Now...things slide.  haha.  

You'll adjust, you'll love it, it'll be worth it but yes...enjoy the time you have left with just you & your husband.  Cherish it.  Your life and family dynamics are about to change forever! 

I totally agree!  I don't blame you, it does get old and annoying, and I hope you have it much easier than I did.  I thought I knew everything and was 100% prepared when DD came along.  I wasn't.  I was a wreck for months

pnutgirl

I had a similar comment from a friend. She asked, "What are you up to this weekend?" I said, "going to the movies Friday, going out to dinner with friends on Saturday, Sunday is a walk in the park and then lunch.." And she goes-

"Man, your social life is really going to change."

NO s*&%, Sherlock.

I felt like this was a very jealous comment. She has 2 children and never, ever does anything alone with her husband. No relatives live close to them so they have no support system or babysitters. It was almost like, "You're going to suffer just like we do." I wanted to respond with something about how I have a supportive family network and I probably still COULD go out for dinner with or without the baby if I wanted to. But I am choosing (I said CHOOSING) to have a baby and to make that a part of our lives.

Some people. 

 

tma1685

This isn't my first time around with a baby by far but since its twins I get the same kind of remarks all the time. We all know that bringing a child into this world is hard work but it's so worth it no matter the changes it brings. Just remember ppl dont really think before they speak. Just have to let some things go.