DH and I both feel that the AP style of parenting is right for us. We bedshare, wear the kids alot, did extended BF, etc. We really love our boys and don't think that we would really change much about our parenting style.
Lately though, I do sometimes wonder if it is hurting our marriage. Before, DS1 bedshared with us both, me being in the middle. When DS2 was born, DH slept with DS1 and I slept with DS2. Now DS1 sleeps in his own bed, but DS2 and I sleep on a mattress on the floor in his room. And DH sleeps alone.
Right now our marriage is ok, but we've become more like friends, parents and not husband/wife. We lack both physical and emotional intimacy. I have tried to talk to DH about it, but he just says he doesn't feel close to me like he used to.
I know that part of being AP is practicing balance and we are doing an ok job of making sure we have our own down time, but we don't have a whole lot of help, so going out on dates is pretty infrequent. I sometimes wonder if we would have a better marriage if we just slept in the same bed and had at least that connection. Or maybe I am just trying to find some simple solution to our problems. Anyways. Any thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated! TIA!