something that keeps bothering me about my OB appt...

Karschingham

I don't know why, but I keep replaying this in my head it just IRKED me...

I was at the OB yesterday and as doc was trying to find the heartbeat he asked, "so have you felt baby move?" and I said "yes here and there"

he replied with, "It would have been okay to say no too, since most mom's won't feel for about another month.."

?????? like he thought I was lying?!?? I said no, I've definitely felt the baby, usually on my left side...and he just replied..."Oh."

again I don't know why it bothered me but it did and it still is, it's like this is my second pregnancy I'm not new at this...idk whatever...lol

Lynds549

That does seem a little odd. I could understand the doc being surprised that you had felt it already, but not discounting it and reacting as if you were full of it. Be confident that you know your body better than anyone. If you feel something, how the heck would he know?!? Just enjoy those feelings as so many are still waiting for them.

sbevmc09

Well, that's a really odd response. 

I don't know if it would have registered at the time, but after the fact I think that would have really offended me.  Like he knows what's going on with my body better than I do?  If it had registered I totally would have called him out on it.

Karschingham

sbevmc09:

Well, that's a really odd response. 

I don't know if it would have registered at the time, but after the fact I think that would have really offended me.  Like he knows what's going on with my body better than I do?  If it had registered I totally would have called him out on it.

Yea I think this exactly is what's pisssing me off about it, at the time it didn't really register and now I'm like....EXCUUUUUUSE ME!? haha, I just wanna go back and be like look buddy, I know my body and something is DEFINITELY moving up in thurr lol

nattn

That would have bothered me too. I don't think I would have known what to say right at that moment. In some ways, I think having a female OB who has been pregnant is worth the understanding it can bring. (I know that's not always he case.)

I have no doubt that I'm feeling LO and I'm not as far along as you. My OB asked at 13 weeks if I had felt anything. I said no, and she responded that some STMs can feel it that early so not to be surprised if I started feeling movement soon. 

BLPL101

Very odd

zonagirlie

This is why I couldn't have a male OB. It's an sympathy thing. I truly don't think a man who has no uterus can truly "get it". Call me a jerk for that but I just don't think they can.

 

bjlucas1

it sounds like he set you up too. If he didn't think you had been feeling the baby move why did he ask? strange

dlbrous

bjlucas1:

it sounds like he set you up too. If he didn't think you had been feeling the baby move why did he ask? strange

 

Just what I was thinking. Seems like he already decided that you shouldn't have felt anything yet. So, why even pose the question?

annetastic071710

What a ***! It was like he was baiting you to make you look bad. I would be pissed too. And how would HE know what it feels like?

clariknittist

Blechhhh - oh well, we believe you!!

hohmanam

That is strange. I'm a first time mom, but I thought most women say with the second one you feel earlier anyway! I have felt flutters as a FTM and am less than a week ahead of you.