ivf'rs

2moms2twins

any of you do gender selection where you can choose to implant a specific gender?

would like more info on this process?  and not sure where to post this ?

Also if you have multiples already and then have another child  what did you feel was the right gap or age difference?

TaylorandMel

We did not choose the gender, this wasn't even given as an option.  Though I don't know if we would have done it if we could--we just used the 2 best embryos which worked out for the best.

Mel and I have been discussing the if/when to have another.  We're debating between starting right now, and waiting until we each finish our next degrees (in 2 yrs).  We do have a limited amount of sperm tho, since our donor is retired.  So, who knows if a LO#3 will even happen.

2moms2twins

same here we have limited amount of sperm and I am AMA so my fear is I will be too old to give my eggs to M to use and lastly, MONEY ....

leapgirl8

We didn't do IVF but I just wanted to add that most clinics in the US will not do sex selection for IVF unless there is a medical reason (i.e., trying to avoid a genetic disease).  

Kershnic

To add to Leapgirl, I have read that a few will also consider sex selection for families who already have a child of one sex and want the opposite, which I think is what J wants.  But it is a hotly debated ethics issue.  Your first step would be to find out what if anything your IVF clinic (or others you'd consider using) allows.

JoySeattle

To help further your knowledge and ability to discuss this with your (potential) REs/IVF clinic, it's called pre-implantation genetic diagnosis (PGD or PIGD) or embryo screening, for prenatal sex discernment.

The wiki page actually has some good, and fairly clear, info.

queenbone

YGPM

2moms2twins

Thank you all for your input and information. 

I know it may seem selfish but there is back story that I just dont feel like going in to it.  Also,  i am just trying to figure out and make an informed decision for my family- I have my own issue about it and again I am just trying to figure out  what is right for us.