Officially a single parent

supermansmommy

The past 5 days have gone by in a blur. My big moving day was Saturday. STBX and I both moved out on the same day. It was a total *** show and anything and everything that could have gone wrong went wrong, from movers not showing up, to freak rainstorms, to lost and damaged items. I felt like the process would would never end but that it went by way too fast as well. Looking back I can't believe it took us five days to move our stuff and get our old place ready for the landlord. In the meantime, I've been sleeping on a mattress on the floor and I haven't even had time to unpack a box. But it feels so good to be out of the house. However, I'm not sure if it's psychological or just because I'm exhausted, but suddenly doing it all feels so much harder than it did before. STBX was only marginally involved before I found out about his affair. After that he tried to be superdad, but I still did most of the parenting and care of our son and our home. I had things down and I knew what worked for our my son and I. Now everything is a battle with him. I guess it doesn't help that he's a month shy of his second birthday and teething, but man. The last few days have been challenging. Someone please tell me it gets better??

jfoster04

I can't tell you it gets better, because I think you and I are in the same boat... but you aren't alone momma. ((hug))

FyreFlyeRush

It does get better, but it takes time. It doesn't happen overnight. It took years for my ex and I to reach where we are. And, what we have is rare. Both parents have to work together. There are good days and bad days. We argue. We fight. We get on each other's nerves. But, at the end of the day, we have our daughter's interest at heart. I can say that men and women unwilling to work together will always be hostile toward one another. When that happens, it's best to bite your tongue and not let the other person bait you. 

supermansmommy

Strangely enough STBX and I are getting along just fine, it's my hot mess of a 2 year old that's being difficult at the moment. It's nearly impossible to unpack when he's awake and because he's in a new environment he's fighting sleep and is really sensitive to noises in the house (even with a fan going at night). So I'm really overwhelmed with the task of getting settled. But I know the sooner I'm unpacked and "settled" the sooner he'll adjust. It's a frustrating catch-22. I seriously relate to hoarders at this point. I'm so overwhelmed by the chaos that it's easier to ignore it. And I'm afraid to unpack because I don't know where to put stuff right now and once the boxes are unpacked I have nowhere for the cardboard to go! ARGH!!

blueyedsweety28

sounds like you should call in the help of friends and family .. ! you need to relax .. don't try being supermom and do everything by yourself or you'll go crazy ..

supermansmommy

Unfortunately I have no family and few friends in the area It's just me.