A few months ago, I raised the issue of having our first child baptized at the church I work at right after she was born. My husband who is not religious objected and said he doesn't want his child baptized as an infant, but rather he wants her to make the decision herself when she is old enough to decide. If I were to get her baptized as a newborn DO gave me two choices
A. Did it at the church without him knowing and not telling the child
B. I did it myself without telling anyone
I talked to my therapist that I was upset about this. I told her that I did want to baptized my newborn, but I didn't want to upset my husband. I am a church worker and do believe in infant baptism, and my family and co-workers are expecting some sort of public baptism at the church. She said that the best compromise might be is to have a private baptism at home with my husband where I did the baptism myself. That way I feel satisfied that she was baptized but that I didn't offend my husband by having it performed by an organized religious institution. I haven't suggest this to him, but I know he is not going for this. I'm not sure how to proceed. If I had it my way, I would do the baptism at the church so that I would share this special experience with family and friends. I don't know what to do, and this issue is making me sad that I can't enjoy this experience with my child.
PS. I appreciate a response from someone who is not a Baptist, Seventh Day Adventist or atheist/agnostic because I understand they don't believe in infant baptism.