Dating now- how to take it slow?

KyleTrigger

I have been feeling like I am ready to start dating for awhile now. An opportunity arose from a very nice man and we have gone on a quite a few dates. I actually really really like him so far. He knows I have 2 children.

I have told him I would NOT introduce him to my kids for quite awhile as it is confusing for children and I wouldn't want that to happen until I knew he and I were in a serious relationship. He said he respected me more as a mom for being that way and seemed in no way offended.,

My kids go to be around 7 pm every night and are both sleeping through the night now. I had him over the other night around 9 to watch a movie and it was so nice having company and just honestly being with him. No sex yet btw!!

My question is how slow do you take it? and has anyone else found it hard to do if you really like someone?: I have custody of my kids 5 days a week so that doesn't leave much time for someone else, not even me!!! Has anyone else started to go through this?

blueyedsweety28

there are no guidelines on how fast or slow you HAVE to go in a relationship .. haha, just do what you're comfortable with .. I split with my ex when our son was 6 weeks old and he's now 6 months old .. I have yet to start dating while he's had numerous girlfriends already ..

andrew's_bride

I feel your pain! LOL! I have been split with XH for almost a year and a half. I also have the same philosophy, I do not and have not introduced anyone to DD and won't until I feel that we are ready for a long term relationship. I have DD all of the time, except for when XH takes her for a few hours, and usually only during the day, between meals.... sigh lol.  I am having a very hard time because I have no time for myself, let alone dating. My mom has cancer, so she is unable to baby sit. I joined the gym a few weeks ago because I felt like that would be good for stress relief. The intention was to go right after work before the daycare closes. Then I had the realization that even that is not going to work. I always have something I need to do, pick up, etc during that time I have gone out on a few dates, but it is always more stressful because i have to scrounge for a sitter.... A little frusterating becuase XH can do what ever he wants, whenever he wants, doesn't even have a bed for her.....and everyone thinks hes a damn hero because he sees DD once or twice a week, when its good for him. haha but thats enough venting about my situation!! Sorry!!!!!!!! LOL I guess my advice to you is there is no set time to wait. Do what feels right for you. Have sex with him if you want LOL That has nothing to do with the kids situation!! Haha!  As for introducing a partner, I feel like the primary guardian generally would have to introduce the child to a new partner a little sooner than the secondary parent because the child is a huge part of the primary parents daily life. Its a hard situation, thats for sure! Good luck!