Lets talk about sex.

marilyn049

Ok so I'm on the website reading about sex during pregnancy and everyone is talking about how great their sex like is, and how they always want it...am I the odd ball out? I'm 13 weeks, and we've almost completely stopped..like a few times a month...we are almost married a year (only a year) so this makes me feel awful! at first it was because I was sick and tired, but now thats passed, and now it just hurts! Is anyone else in the same boat?? PLEASE tell me it gets better :P

landosmommy

Give it a few more weeks, it will get better.

jessalared

Yes, i am so sensitive it makes it not as enjoyable as it once was. We just try to not go as long as we used to lol. I still enjoy it but not after too long, and i cant really handle foreplay right now. I LOVED it in first tri, couldnt get enough! Its supposed to be the other way around right? ohhh welll

SanDimasMama

I am also absurdly/unpleasantly sensitive but I've found I'm less sensitive in the AM. Previously I had a preference for PM.

jessalared

SanDimasMama:

I am also absurdly/unpleasantly sensitive but I've found I'm less sensitive in the AM. Previously I had a preference for PM.

LOL we never have time in the AM, so I wouldn't even know if I am the same way!

zonagirlie

I can be turned on... fairly easily actually, since I'm SO sensitive, but honestly, I'm too scared. We've rounded the bases twice and both times I was kind of freaking out a majority of the time. I really want to, but I don't. It's nuts.

mollywobbles13

You aren't alone. Sadly for my H this pregnancy and last my sex drive was just not there. Once we are actually doing the deed I enjoy myself, but getting to that point is what is hard.

misscarter87

I hope it gets better it seems too now that i am in the 2nd tri but we dont go as long or often as we used too now with pregnancy.

letitbe3

Nlope - I'm right there with you... My SO lives out of town right now and normally I can't wait "ahem...do the deed" when I see him. Poor thing...I just really don't even care now. So I will say that on that issue alone, it has sometimes been kinda nice not having him there all the time - spares his feelings and me the extra work. But even still, it takes alot of effort from me to just get motivated when we do see eachother. I do the best I can for his benefit, but I can say that if we were able to be with eachother everyday right now, things would be no different... I've heard this gets better, and for everyone's beniefit on this board in the same boat, I sure hope so.  

BLPL101

It hurts me at first too. The sensitivity is a HUGE plus though.

Jbosarge85

I've always had a high sex drive. So it's still enjoyable for me until we are finished and then I hurt quite a bit. So then we have to wait a day or two. I really hope it gets better for you...

AshleyDehaven

zonagirlie:

I can be turned on... fairly easily actually, since I'm SO sensitive, but honestly, I'm too scared. We've rounded the bases twice and both times I was kind of freaking out a majority of the time. I really want to, but I don't. It's nuts.

This. I am having the same exact problem and it is driving me crazy. I enjoy sex DURING, but the lead up, and about 5 minutes after.. Nope.. Not doin it for me at all. Sucks too, we were a "whenever humanly possible" sort of couple before i got pregnant. Lol. 

AshleyDehaven

ahaverkamp:

You aren't alone. Sadly for my H this pregnancy and last my sex drive was just not there. Once we are actually doing the deed I enjoy myself, but getting to that point is what is hard.

Sigh.. This is what i meant to quote in my last post... Lol. Preggo brain anyone?

Mama5181

First tri I didnt want it ATALL. Since we've entered second tri I'm craving it. But sadly on bed rest and no hanky panky for us. :-( So thankful for the good sex dreams these days. Lol. 

zonagirlie

AshleyDehaven:

zonagirlie:

I can be turned on... fairly easily actually, since I'm SO sensitive, but honestly, I'm too scared. We've rounded the bases twice and both times I was kind of freaking out a majority of the time. I really want to, but I don't. It's nuts.

This. I am having the same exact problem and it is driving me crazy. I enjoy sex DURING, but the lead up, and about 5 minutes after.. Nope.. Not doin it for me at all. Sucks too, we were a "whenever humanly possible" sort of couple before i got pregnant. Lol. 

Exactly. I write erotica and romance novels and I read a ton. My libido was HUGE before to the point of wearing my husband out and we've been married for 5 years almost. Now I'm like a scared puppy. It's sad. 

marilyn049

Isn't it an awful feeling that we "do the best we can for his benifit"! If they found out they'd be devastated. I wish so bad I could enjoy it, and usually I do want it, but then it hurts to much, so i kinda just loose the "feeling" lol. It breaks my heart. lets cross our fingers and hope for the best!

marilyn049

Isn't it an awful feeling that we "do the best we can for his benifit"! If they found out they'd be devastated. I wish so bad I could enjoy it, and usually I do want it, but then it hurts to much, so i kinda just loose the "feeling" lol. It breaks my heart. lets cross our fingers and hope for the best!

bstengler

I understand. I'm kinda goin through the same thing right now. Just beings oping that it turns around soon!!!

JJsMum

Um, you are not the oddball out!  Pretty sure DH would be thrilled to get it a few times a month, but between the exhaustion of chasing around a toddler and the m/s, we've 'done the deed' exactly twice since a week or so before out positive test.  Hopefully that as my energy comes back (still waiting on the 2nd tri engergy) I'm hoping that we can get back to business

Smiley-1980

We haven't done it since early April.  We couldn't around our IVF and then I was too scared it would cause bleeding that I wouldn't do it.

mrsodonnell12

I am still waiting for mine sex drive to come back... poor DH.... and we are newlyweds!

marilyn049

mrsodonnell12:

I am still waiting for mine sex drive to come back... poor DH.... and we are newlyweds!

Isn't it awful?! I never wanted to be THAT couple, where sex is a chore. It really gets me down, so I hope me telling the hubby "its just the pregnancy" is true.

mrsodonnell12

marilyn049:

mrsodonnell12:

I am still waiting for mine sex drive to come back... poor DH.... and we are newlyweds!

Isn't it awful?! I never wanted to be THAT couple, where sex is a chore. It really gets me down, so I hope me telling the hubby "its just the pregnancy" is true.

Um yeah... its REALLY frustrating.... we abstained before the wedding... so this is like torture for DH! We still do it frequently, but its hard for me to get into like at all. I just want him to get it over with and he can tell. UGH....I hate being "that wife"... and I hope it changes SOON!

marilyn049

mrsodonnell12:

marilyn049:

mrsodonnell12:

I am still waiting for mine sex drive to come back... poor DH.... and we are newlyweds!

Isn't it awful?! I never wanted to be THAT couple, where sex is a chore. It really gets me down, so I hope me telling the hubby "its just the pregnancy" is true.

Um yeah... its REALLY frustrating.... we abstained before the wedding... so this is like torture for DH! We still do it frequently, but its hard for me to get into like at all. I just want him to get it over with and he can tell. UGH....I hate being "that wife"... and I hope it changes SOON!

It's SO great to have another wife/mom going through the EXACT same thing. We abstained too!! We had an issue at first when I was on birth control, I then stopped birth control and our sex life was amazing! and now again. He must hate me. halfway through i'm just like "ok enough". ugh. Hang in there mrsodonnell, and remember the precious gift of life floating around in your belly . I'll try to hang in there too.

marilyn049

jamers601:

I have little to no interest in it and cannot have an O at all. I find myself less attracted to my DH and we just got married in May. I hope this is temporary! It is causing so many problems. I need to work on faking it better in the meantime I guess. 

I feel like faking it would make it worse :S. Being open to my hubby about it makes it a bit easier to handle.

mrsodonnell12

marilyn049:

mrsodonnell12:

marilyn049:

mrsodonnell12:

I am still waiting for mine sex drive to come back... poor DH.... and we are newlyweds!

Isn't it awful?! I never wanted to be THAT couple, where sex is a chore. It really gets me down, so I hope me telling the hubby "its just the pregnancy" is true.

Um yeah... its REALLY frustrating.... we abstained before the wedding... so this is like torture for DH! We still do it frequently, but its hard for me to get into like at all. I just want him to get it over with and he can tell. UGH....I hate being "that wife"... and I hope it changes SOON!

It's SO great to have another wife/mom going through the EXACT same thing. We abstained too!! We had an issue at first when I was on birth control, I then stopped birth control and our sex life was amazing! and now again. He must hate me. halfway through i'm just like "ok enough". ugh. Hang in there mrsodonnell, and remember the precious gift of life floating around in your belly . I'll try to hang in there too.

I am so glad I am not alone! Here's to hoping we both get back into it SOON!!!

RachelG1016

DH and I have done it ONCE since we conceived. Even that was a chore. If he touched my nips I might throat punch him. They are so sensitive they hurt!

mroy82

LOL. I just posted about the same exact thing. I found out i was pregnant in may and have had sex once since. I'm 14 weeks pregnant now and i feel so uncomfortable being around my husband because all he has become is completely negative towards me and just acts like a big fat pig like ok " its time to suck on me"... wow. really? does he think thats going to turn me on and jump on top of him ? NOPE! I'm constantly having pains, i dont feel sexy anymore, and i just dont want to have sex. thats the last thing on my mind and its so frustrating because i feel so alone. I dont have any girlfriends that are at the point in my life that i am, and i obviously cant talk to my husband because he clearly doesnt get it or understand how im feeling and what im going thru. Maybe my husband is the one that needs to get a life and get some friends. All he does is wait for me to come home for my lunch break and then wait for me to come home after work and its all the same thing. Like hes waiting at the door for me to come home to have sex with him. All this pressure, is not making me want to have sex even more.