December 2011 Moms

Does your Mother In Law have a daughter?

And does that daughter have children?

How is their relationship compared with your relationship with your mother in law?

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Re: Does your Mother In Law have a daughter?

  • yes, but my SIL is recently divorced and has no children.  However, whenever she does have kids, I don't doubt that my MIL will likely be more involved (because SIL will request her help, not because MIL doesn't want to do more for us, we just don't ask).
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    Yes she dose and her daughter has two children. She loves them just the same as our kids and doesn't favor them over our son what-so-ever. If anything, she really makes sure to go out of her way to do the same things for our son that she's done for her other grandkids because they're much older than him. I'm very lucky though. My grandmother (my Dad's Mom) treated me 100X differently than she did her daughters kids. There were never any pictures of me in her house, she yelled at me a lot while my cousins got spoiled with gifts. I remember it distinctly and it really, really hurt my feelings so I know how lucky I am to have such a wonderful MIL.
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  • Yes, she's 36 and unmarried and childless. If she does have children MIL will be 100x more involved with them but that has more to do with SIL's dependence on her parents than anything. I'd like to say it wouldn't bother me, but I'm sure it would. 

    My bro doesn't have kids yet, but when he does I knows mom will be totally equal with them.  

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  • Yes, she does.

    SIL and BIL have two kids (23 months and 2 months).  They live about 2 and a half hours away, so MIL doesn't get to see them as much as she sees us and little A.  Without a doubt, she loves all 3 grandkids equally and has a special relationship with each one.  I have a great MIL.

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  • She has two step daughters (that she raised from an early age).  One of them has a child. 

    My relationship with my MIL is much better.  But my sister-in-law has mental issues and honestly MIL spends more time mothering the baby than the baby's mother.  

     



  • My MIL has two sons (My DH and his younger brother who is 16). Needless to say, ours will be the only grandkids in their life for a while.

    Their family is a bit different than mine, and it's not always easy to talk to her, but she's a good MIL. If she did have a daughter, I can't say for certain that she wouldn't favor those grandkids. I'd like to say she would treat them all the same, but she doesn't treat DH and his brother the same at all. If she treats her own kids differently, she might her grandkids too. 

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  • Yes, My husband has an older sister. SIL and MIL don't get along too well, though they pretend otherwise. MIL talks to me about way more than her own daughter. However when SIL moves back to the area in the next few months she plans on starting a family with her DH and im sure MIL will be more attentive to those children, especially if they have a girl. MIL is desperate for a granddaughter. Not to say she is not attentive to our boys but we will2 hours away and SIL is moving to 20 mins from them, so naturally MIL will try to be more active in their lives.
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  • Where do I start?  

    My MIL has a daughter (DHs older sister, she's 35 I think).  SIL adopted two small children from Africa about three years ago, about five months ago she adopted three more (these kids are older, ages 9 10 11).  

    Our DD is the first birth grandchild.  Mil won't hold our baby unless dh makes her. She's afraid of dropping her because she's got a bad back or something that.  Every time we see them MIL just walks up to DD says how cute she is, takes some pictures and then carries on with doing something else.  Whatever.

    Since SIL came home with the three kids there has been nothing but chaos in their family. Rightfully so, you've got five kids three of whom are older and need time to adjust.  MIL and FIL are completely wrapped up in their drama.  It's to the point now where SIL is going to have another family adopt one of the older children she just brought home.   Do not even get me started on how I feel about this!!!!!!!!  I think SIL and MIL are crazy cakes.

    Anyway, everyone including DH is so worried about SIL and her stupid selfish behavior, I'm staying out of it and I don't care for mil to be overly involved in my DD's life, she gets plenty of grandmother love from my mom. 

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  • no.  so she wants to be BFFs and I can't stand her.

    She called me fat (in nicer terms) at her BBQ this weekend.  F-ing b!tch.  I think she would be very happy if DH and I got a divorce and she could have her "baby boy" back.

    DH is 28.  He's not a baby.

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  • Yes she does. My SIL has a daughter who is 6 months older than my LO. My MIL & SIL are VERY close.  My MIL and myself get along very well but we don't have a super close relationship where we talk on the phone regularly or anything.

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  • My MIL has 2 daughters and 2 sons.

    Between the 2 daughters there are 7 other grandchildren. The youngest next to our daughter is 12 so it's been a long time since she had a new grandchild.

    The other son never had children.

    My mil is very critical of her daughters and they are the snippy to her. I'm thankful that we do not have that kind of a relationship. She let's us parent how we want to parent our little one. No negative comments to us at all.

    I think it must be nice for her to have a daughter in law who is just happy to have her company and have her enjoy her grandbaby. We have no history. I'm pretty new to the family still :)

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    no.  so she wants to be BFFs and I can't stand her.

    She called me fat (in nicer terms) at her BBQ this weekend.  F-ing b!tch.  I think she would be very happy if DH and I got a divorce and she could have her "baby boy" back.

    DH is 28.  He's not a baby.

    ...part of me says "oh my". But a huge part of me relates. haha.

    To answer the question--No. MIL has two boys (32 and 28-which is DH). She's always insisted that her boys were going to always stay home with her. Her oldest has. He's never had a girlfriend and is at his parents side at all times. It's pathetic and horrible. I can't imagine being a mother and wanting that for your grown children! Anyways...MIL has always hated me for stealing her son. She'd love it (I'm sure) if DH and I were to break up. Now that we have a child she's sucking up BIG TIME and tries to be BFF---both DH and I limit our time with her...heavily! (oh, and she has called me fat also---which is funny since she weighs at least 150 lbs more than I do). 

    IF....IF BIL were to get married and have children I'm more than positive she'd favor them. She's always favored BIL more than DH (DH talks about being really really little and her favoring his brother and that's never changed). I secretly pray for BIL to get married. Don't get me wrong---I pity the girl that ends up with him if that happens. But it would be so nice to have a SIL in this family! 

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    My MIL has 4 sons and no daughters. Her oldest son is married and has two DDs and one more on the way. They live right by each other and my inlaws watch the girls during the week. They show some favouritism to them, but it doesn't really bother me. After reading some of the pps, I consider myself lucky!

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  • Yes, DH has only one sibling, his sister.  She is almost 47, has a boyfriend but no children and never will (medical issues).  I know MIL and SIL are close which is great.  MIL and I used to have a good relationship until DD was born almost 3 years ago.  At that point she just got weird.  They live 500 miles from us and are old (78/81) so they don't get to visit often (which is fine with me) because I don't like housing them while they're here.  Honestly, sometimes it feels like they are harder to take care of than my two children.  Also, DH usually works while they're here and leaves me to entertain them which just makes the situation worse. 
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  • Yes but she doesn't have children yet. DH has a brother who has an LO about 3 months Older than DD. They actually live with MIL and we live 1300 miles away so she see DNe more obviously but I don't think she has favorites. She comes down as often as she can. MIL was at the birth of DD and has come 4 more times.

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  • My FI's mom(almost MIL) has 2 daughters, one who is 19 and the other is 2. MIL is a little too baby crazy. DD is her first grandchild. We are on pretty good terms. FI's family loved me from the start, so I get along with all of them. If either one of FI's sister(or his twin brother and his wife) were to pop out a baby right now, she would push DD to the side. That's the only reason she wants DD now, because she's a baby. She pays very little attention to her 2 year when Kyoko is around. Her and her bf are the only ones who don't see it. FI and his brother and his wife, and their sister all see it. We all agree its pretty messed up.
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  • My MIL has one daughter who isn't married yet, but she's been dating a guy seriously for 2 years and probably will be engaged soon.  They are pretty close, but my MIL treats me as though I were her own daughter.  She's really a wonderful mom, MIL, and grandmother to my DS.  I'm very lucky.

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    no.  so she wants to be BFFs and I can't stand her.

    She called me fat (in nicer terms) at her BBQ this weekend.  F-ing b!tch.  I think she would be very happy if DH and I got a divorce and she could have her "baby boy" back.

    DH is 28.  He's not a baby.

    ...part of me says "oh my". But a huge part of me relates. haha.

    To answer the question--No. MIL has two boys (32 and 28-which is DH). She's always insisted that her boys were going to always stay home with her. Her oldest has. He's never had a girlfriend and is at his parents side at all times. It's pathetic and horrible. I can't imagine being a mother and wanting that for your grown children! Anyways...MIL has always hated me for stealing her son. She'd love it (I'm sure) if DH and I were to break up. Now that we have a child she's sucking up BIG TIME and tries to be BFF---both DH and I limit our time with her...heavily! (oh, and she has called me fat also---which is funny since she weighs at least 150 lbs more than I do). 

    IF....IF BIL were to get married and have children I'm more than positive she'd favor them. She's always favored BIL more than DH (DH talks about being really really little and her favoring his brother and that's never changed). I secretly pray for BIL to get married. Don't get me wrong---I pity the girl that ends up with him if that happens. But it would be so nice to have a SIL in this family! 

    I can relate to a bunch of this.

    MIL who would love to have 'her baby' back - check! (She talked about us getting divorced at my bridal shower...)

    MIL who thought her son would live with her/take care of her forever - check! (I was his first girlfriend so it came as a real shock to her.) 

    MIL who calls me fat at every opportunity... check! (Most recently it was an explanation for my swimming better than her. "You have lots of padding for flotation." Like MIL doesn't have her share of 'padding'!)

    MIL who's suddenly all up in our business so she can spend time with the baby... check!

    In answer to the original question, sadly my DH is MIL's only child (which explains a lot!) He does have a 12 year old half sister living with his dad/stepmom, but we don't have a lot of contact with them (we get along, we just live far away and are all busy.)

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  • My MIL has a daughter & she has twin boys that are 3 months younger than DS1.  And to top that off, SIL had an extremely tough time conceiving.  It was a few years before they had an IVF BFP.  Oh, and I live on the west coast, the ILs are in MA & SIL lives about 30 minutes from them.  As soon as my SIL found out she was KU, my son became the 3rd favorite grandson.  It is VERY obvious that she favors SILs boys over mine.  It is very hurtful to both me & DH.
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  • Yes she has a daughter, but I don't know that she's ever going to have kids. I think she wants kids, but she's in her 30s, has never had a boyfriend and is not the most personable human in the world. I do like my SIL but she has the kind of personality that automatically puts people on the offensive. While I don't get along super great with my MIL, to her credit I don't think she would treat them any different.
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    Yes, my MIL has 2 daughters.  Both are younger than DH but started their families before we did.  One SIL has 2 LOs with #3 on the way and the other SIL has 1 LO who is 9 months older than DD.  DD is the 4th grandchild on DH's side.

    Both SILs are pretty close to MIL.  I have a cordial relationship with all of them, but don't feel close at all.  I definitely don't feel like a 3rd daughter.  They see us the least often out of their kids because we live out of town.  I've actually been pretty disappointed with the level of interest MIL (and FIL) seem to show in DD.  Fortunately, my parents are great grandparents and very involved with DD, even though they also live out of town. 

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  • Yes MIL has a daughter too who has kids...  It's night and day the amount SIL's kids get to spend with MIL compared to DD & DS...  She'll go over to SIL's place or they'll go to her place to the point that when DD was younger she started to feel like she wasn't as important to her because MIL would call literally minutes in some cases as we were getting ready to leave the house to go over there for her once a week visit to say she couldn't watch her because SIL needed a sitter (MIL never did the same for us) and she'd never reschedule or watch all three kids at once.  MIL would only watch DD for a couple hours but she'd have SIL's kids as DC 2x/week for the full shift before they were in school...  Now with DS she hardly makes an effort to see him even though I gave her an open invite to come over to our house and would even stay on property if she didn't feel comfortable watching DS alone (i.e. things like changing/feeding)...  DS is such a needy baby that quite honestly, I'd love someone to just sit with him while I wash pots & pans, or scrub the bathroom... I'm not asking for much!!

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