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Eliz77

Hi! I am new. I just married my sweetheart of 7 years two weeks ago tomorrow. I am 35 years old and have been feeling the urge to have a baby for some time now. My husband wants kids as well, and is so good with our friends/family kids we do see so I know he will be a great dad. However, he isn't ready to begin trying. I know how I can be-I'm a whirlwind, talking up 10 zillion things I want to do at once and stressing him out at the same time.

 On our flight back from the HM, I broached the topic of pregnancy and was kinda surprised he wanted to wait. I say kinda because on one hand, I know I overwhelm him and he needs to transition from one phase to another regardless of what the topic is (drinks to dinner vs proposal to marriage). But on the other I am THIRTY FIVE YEARS OLD and I thought it was a given we'd start trying as soon as we landed from HM! 

 Am I wrong to think this way? Are any of you in the same situation as me? If so, how are you handling things? Last think I want to do is rush him into anything. I KNOW we will have a family soon, I just am not sure if I am rushing into the next chapter or if this is normal, to take each phase and move through it with time.  

cowgirltu

I would give him some time, maybe 6 months and bring it up again.  He sounds like he needs time to process each major event that happens in his life before the next one happens.  If you try to push him into it before he is ready, he may just end up resenting you and it will strain your marriage. HTH!

MsCraftsy

cowgirltu:

I would give him some time, maybe 6 months and bring it up again.  He sounds like he needs time to process each major event that happens in his life before the next one happens.  If you try to push him into it before he is ready, he may just end up resenting you and it will strain your marriage. HTH!

I think that cowgirl hit it on the head and that is what I would have recommended  as well.

kelle017

MsCraftsy:

cowgirltu:

I would give him some time, maybe 6 months and bring it up again.  He sounds like he needs time to process each major event that happens in his life before the next one happens.  If you try to push him into it before he is ready, he may just end up resenting you and it will strain your marriage. HTH!

I think that cowgirl hit it on the head and that is what I would have recommended  as well.

  It stinks to have to wait, but you can't push it.  Your dh may surprise you once things settles down. 

sunlavender

Welcome!