I need to vent RE: DH's job
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So, Wednesday, DH interviewed for yet another position within his company. (This is his third interview for various positions...they passed him over for the other two.) The guy who did his previous interview said he was fantastic and that the only reason they gave someone else the job is because she was more experienced.
Anyhow, going into this interview, we knew that the guy who did the previous interview had already called and recommended DH for this position. DH's area manager also had written the most glowing letter of recommendation ever (I got to read it) and DH was one of only 5 people being interviewed for the position. He has all the qualifications, and the support of his managerial staff.
And yet again, he didn't get the job.
Their reason this time? Literally, the reason he didn't get the job (according to the email the guy sent, which DH forwarded to me) was because he didn't "ask for the job" at the end of the interview. Apparently that's something they secretly want you to do in this company, and since DH didn't know that, they were like, "Eh. Screw his other qualifications. He didn't ask, so he must not want it."
It is SO FRUSTRATING watching my husband work so hard and still get passed over for promotions over and over again. He feels so trapped and he feels like he's not being a good enough provider, and it makes me angry that his job puts him in that position. He's an amazing husband and such a good employee, and I feel like they constantly take advantage of the fact that he's a nice guy and walk all over him. Andplusalso, we live in the crappiest little town and if he had gotten this position, we would've been moving to Louisville, KY, which is so much better than this little podunk piddly town. And, DH can't even apply to jobs in other companies until after the baby is born, because the gap in our insurance would fall right when I had my hospital stay and it would be so wildly expensive that we can't do that. So he's stuck in this job until at least late September. Sigh.
Don't get me wrong...I'm thankful that DH has a job at all, and that we have good insurance and benefits. But I hate seeing him feel so trapped and unappreciated. He works almost 50 hours a week and just wants to be home more, providing more for our family, and out of this town. I feel frustrated because I can't do anything to help him with that.
Re: I need to vent RE: DH's job
This is how it is in school districts anyway!
that is so strange to me! i have never asked for the job at the end of the interview before...i am so sorry that you and DH are going through this.
you know you have lots of prayers from me about all this stuff. best of luck and hugs to you!
No, actually I'm surprised they didn't promote him to get him OUT of this position. He's currently in a pretty sales-based job and while his numbers are fine, they're not top sales numbers. He would've been moving into a more administrative job if he had gotten the position, which would've been right up his alley because he's a super organized, multi-tasking kinda guy. Promoting him would've let them put a better salesman in his spot and would've increased their revenue somewhat.
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I've was a hiring manager for my company when I worked in the office and that sounds like an excuse and the most likely (i) hired someone else that they didn't expect to like as much or (ii) didn't hear what they wanted to hear from your DH in all the questioning.
Anytime I interview for myself, I always ask when they expect to make a decision and make it obvious that I want the job and will accept the offer. While I probably won't deny my top pick for the position if they don't do this, I do look for it when interviewing candidates.
Is he close enough with his manager to ask for mentoring in interviewing? I used to mentor any associate that asked as well as any of my associates that I knew were applying for promotions. I felt if looked better on me as a manager to help them achieve their goals so I was happy to do it.
These are pretty much my thoughts. If there is a next time (and I echo everyone's thoughts to have him look for a new job while you are on ML), he probably wants to end his intv with, "Thank you for the opportunity to discuss this position. I think I would be a great fit and hope I have the chance to show you that in the future."
Actually yeah, he did that before this interview. And he did it the interview before that, too. He always asks them what he could've done better. That's part of why this is even more frustrating...they told him that his interview skills were great and that his last interview was perfect. He didn't specifically ask for the job but he did make it very plain that he wanted it, especially in his letter of intent. He even told the interviewer that he felt really motivated to try for this job, and told him a few reasons why. They just didn't like the fact that he didn't specifically, flat-out ASK for the job.
It didn't seem insensitive to me.
Wow that sounds like a complete BS reason not to hire someone. Isn't applying and interviewing for the job "asking" for the job???
I'm sorry to hear things didn't work out this time around.
Sorry that you are frustrated. Normally it is all about politics when getting a job/promotion. I say things happen for a reason and I am sure they will work out for the better in the end!
My old job use to do this BS. He only has a little longer until he can start looking outside the company. Are the any other jobs in the company he can try to apply for and this time ask for the job?
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