So, my SS is 9 years old, soon to be 10. He has always had issues with social interaction, communication, behavior, etc. Since I have known my DH for 4 years, we have thought maybe ADHD. Now that we FINALLY got BM on board, he was diagnosed back in April. The thing is, I think there is something more there. I was not at the appointment. What I understand is it was very much BM and DH saying the symptoms. Dr. met with him once and he was done, diagnosed, and given meds.
The thing is that BM originally didn't want to do this, she thinks he is a perfectly normal boy. Although she does realize he is having difficulties that her 4 yr old SS doesn't have. We took 4 years to convince her to get him help. And even know she tells him not to take his meds, because he doesn't need it, etc. BM isn't that great anyhow, she is lazy, prefers to sleep than watch them, etc.
Anyway, I am leaning towards Asperger's Syndrome. Granted, I am no doctor, I just have had experience with teaching kids with autism. But reading through site after site about symptoms, misdiagnosis of ADHD, and talking to some colleagues who have more experience...all leading to this thought.
Granted, I haven't spoken to my DH about this, but the issue is how to tell BM and get him more help. His meds aren't helping. He really is just getting "worse" so to speak. He needs help. I just don't know what to do. I am not his mother. And during the school year we only have them EOW.
My DH will take some talking to, he is very protective, but he wants what is best. But he is very "whimpy" with his ex. He just lets her make decisions and talk crap. She only makes the decisions with everything about their medical care, if they have insurance, when they go to the dr/dentist, etc. He has tried to have say, but ultimately she just argues, and he doesn't like to argue.
Any ideas? Any advice? Yes, my DH should get a backbone, but how to help her see this? I could be wrong, which is fine. Just his meds aren't working anyway, because he is just getting more anxious, etc. So, he needs help anyhow.