Before I vent please understand that I do appreciate my mother for attempting to make my birthday special. On that note I really just rather not be bothered. My mother planned a surprise bday party for me on Saturday. I am currently redoing our home little by little before DH returns from deployment. She has invited everyone to my house for the party. I have 2 days to shampoo carpets, scrub grout, straighten, organize, and spend extra money to finish a few small projects to make our home presentable enough for guess. We have beige carpet so we don't walk on it with shoes on. Well half of the guest she invited feel that they don't have to take their shoes off. I have no problem straightening this matter but honestly who wants the frustration on their bday? I am 3/4 of the way through DH's deployment and just rather spend my bday on skype with him and then go to the circus with our LO. I called her tonight and told her thank you but in the future please don't. I love my mother and understand her intent and even if it were at a restauraunt that would have been better because its less work and money on my part (as far as getting my house in order). Sad to say but I will be glad when the day is here and over.