If you have a public birthday party for your kids, do you invite certain kids and pay for only that kid. Do you pay for that kid & one adult? How do you handle family? Do the same rules apply for family?
We've never had a birthday party for our kids at a paid location and for good reason. Our families are large and even just inviting family we have about 25-30 people at every party. We let the kids do a smaller sleepover or outing with a few friends in addition to the family party. However, DH and I have been thinking about changing that but do not know what most people think is proper ettiquette.
My sister just sent out a FB invite yesterday for her 2 girls birthdays which she is combining. It's for this Saturday (so 4 days notice) and it said she is having it at a small local lake that's sort of like a waterpark. She said on the FB invite she is paying for 1 adult and 1 child only and anything else you have to cover. She invited far more people than just family this time. She just texted me asking for a headcount. We have everyone but DD this weekend. So we would have to pay for 4 of us to go.
I just found it highly tacky that she gave us such sort notice and expects us to just up and pay for 4 more people in order for us to go. Is this the norm? To treat the family the same as random other people. I just think in the same situation, I would pay for our siblings & neices & nephews and maybe just the kids of the other people. Or at least pay for my nieces and nephews and the other kids and let all the adults pay. It's not the same situation as a party where some brings a tag-along sibling because all my kids are invited....
My brother (we all know he's definitely not one for etiquette) has had parties at McDonalds before where they brought in cake and he expected everyone else to buy their kids happy meals. I just don't think either situation is right.
I asked someone at work and they suggested just taking one of the kids but then which would I take and wouldn't it be wrong that one gets to go to their cousins' party but the others don't even though they were all invited? So it would pretty much have to be all or none. I mean, they are my nieces so I will probably suck it up anyway but still.