Do your kids get their own bday cake?

bearfootz

Is this silly? Or is it important for them to each have their own? Or at least their own chance to blow out the candles maybe...

Rynleigh

We always get the mailers from practically every grocery store in town saying "free 9" round birthday cake for your baby's first birthday" - so I think we'll probably be getting them each their own to mangle and destroy simply because they're free lol 

Of course, mine aren't even born yet...  

mirnb

My boys will be getting their own for their birthdays....My best friends growing up were twins and they always got their own...and that is still important to them to this day and they are 27! If you had 2 kids who weren't twins they'd get their own so I say everybody deserves their own cake! But I love desserts so maybe its just an excuse to have more cake...hard to say....:)

mars724

I guess I disagree with the majority. My two older brothers have birthdays in November and my mom always got one cake for both of them and had one party. 

I guess ask yourself if you had two kids with birthdays really close together, would you get two cakes? For me, that's a no. So I'm going to get one big cake, and they can each have a cupcake to smash.

Personal preference I think, I also never call them "the twins" and I have never dressed them in the same clothes, so it's pretty clear around our house and to my family that they are two separate babies.  

floridakat

I made cupcakes for their first birthday, and neither one of them liked them, LOL. It took them a while to warm up to sweets at all! When they get old enough to really have a preference, I'll be happy to make them each their favorite cake for their birthday.

pea-kay

I generally do cupcakes, so yeah. And we do sing three times.

leebi07

1st birthday they each got their own smash cake.  2nd birthday we will be getting one cake.  As for the future, if it gets to the point where one wants vanilla and the other chocolate we'll get them each their own but if they like the same we'll do one. 

CaliDutchGrl

We did cupcakes for their first birthday, so they each had their own.

 

Since their first birthday we have discovered that one of my sons has a wheat, egg, soy and nut allergy...so we will be making rice krispy treats! 

CER+MEL

We had one big cake for the first birthday with cupcakes as well.  They both had their own cupcake with a "1" candle in it. 

For the second birthday I only did cupcakes out of convenience, again with a "2" candle for each. 

I forgot both times to tell everyone we were going to sing twice, so everyone sang "....to Michael and Sophie" when I intended to just do one at a time. 

While I'm keeping all of these ideas in mind, I think you get a few years to work out what's best before they really care anyway.  : )

lmydogally

First birthday they will have their own, after that who knows.  

nickirigby

We have talked about this and with my mom being a twin herself we have decided that our twins will each have their own birthday cake.  We will only have one party, but they will each get their own cake every year.  Good thing I enjoy baking

ougrad1

Landry and Hudson will be two in less than two weeks.  We're getting one cake for this birthday.  They have no idea at this point.  I give it to their fourth birthday and I will get them smash cakes all over again....with four candles each.  Don't make it complicated until you have to.   : )

macchiatto

For their 1st and 2nd birthdays, we did cupcakes for everyone.

Six weeks before they turned 3, they were at their cousin Abby's birthday party and started getting VERY excited about birthday cakes. Will wanted a Captain America birthday cake and Alex a lion cake, so yes, they each got their own cake. I'll do that from now on, now that they're old enough to care. If they wanted to share one year, that would be fine but I wouldn't make them share, especially if they wanted different themes. We just did a duo-themed birthday party while we were at it. It was a pretty informal, smaller party so that was NBD and I think it worked well. The favor bags had a mix of lion and superhero stuff, the decor was neutral birthday/bright colors, the plates were lion and the napkins were Captain America, etc. It was fun.

macchiatto

My sister's second and third sons are 2 years and 1 day apart. They have a joint birthday party but they each get their own birthday cake. Each of her kids gets to choose what kind of cake they want so she's not going to make those two share just b/c their birthday is close together. That seems kind of cheap to me (and cakes aren't even that expensive, especially if you make them yourself like she does! ). I mean, if the kids don't care, no problem, but I don't get why you wouldn't just let each kid have their own cake, or at least do cupcakes or two smaller cakes.

When I meet adult twins (or with my friends who are adult twins) I like to ask them for tips on raising twins or things they wished their parents had done differently, and the one thing I've heard most repeatedly is to let them have their own birthday cakes (once they're old enough to care).

juliane2004

mars724:

I guess ask yourself if you had two kids with birthdays really close together, would you get two cakes? For me, that's a no. So I'm going to get one big cake, and they can each have a cupcake to smash.

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For me, my kids are born in Oct and Dec, and we had a joint party last year in November. We had a cake for the group, and then one small cake each for the kids, and we sang happy birthday twice (once to each). I don't have twins, but I do feel it's important that even at a joint party, to keep it somewhat individual.

 

TripMomma

For their 1st Bday the triplets each got their own smash cake plus we had two guest cakes, since then we have just one huge cake for everyone.

Breezy8407

My brother and I had joint birthday parties growing up because our b-days were close. We always had our own cakes. My Grandma made amazing cakes, so she would make us our own. I always had something girly like Barbie and my bro had things like Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Thomas the train, etc. Since ours are b/g I'm sure we will get them separate cakes if they want when they are old enough to understand.

On a related note, people have been asking me already if we will have separate parties for ours since thy have different birthdays...ummm...  I'm sure we will celebrate/honor each of their birthdays individually at home with just the 4 of us, but having a separate party two days in a row seems a little excessive, no?

MrsLnt

Absolutely. If they were born at different times they would, so, why should I make them share a cake just because they were born on the same day? They have to share so many things, their own birthday cake is the very least they can have that they don't have to share. 

macchiatto

Breezy8407:

My brother and I had joint birthday parties growing up because our b-days were close. We always had our own cakes. My Grandma made amazing cakes, so she would make us our own. I always had something girly like Barbie and my bro had things like Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Thomas the train, etc. Since ours are b/g I'm sure we will get them separate cakes if they want when they are old enough to understand.

On a related note, people have been asking me already if we will have separate parties for ours since thy have different birthdays...ummm...  I'm sure we will celebrate/honor each of their birthdays individually at home with just the 4 of us, but having a separate party two days in a row seems a little excessive, no?

Interesting!
I will say, when mine are old enough to care, if they want separate parties I'm fine with it. We have no family within 600 miles so it's not like relatives would have to come to two parties; it would be friend parties and if they end up in separate classes at school, have different friends, want totally different types of parties, etc., I could see that happening down the road. Even at 3.5, they are dramatically different in their personalities, interests, and the people they click with.