I've read a bunch of articles on spanking, lately, and many of them include grabbing as something that negatively affects a child.
I feel like I have no choice but to grab DS. He runs away when we're out and thinks it's hilarious, and I have to grab his hand or his arm when he starts to take off. If it happens a bunch during one outing, I will make him go in the stroller or shopping cart (assuming I have it),but I prefer to let him walk, and he prefers to walk. He has TONS of energy and he needs the exercise. He will sometimes hold my hand, but after awhile his arm gets tired of being up like that and then he doesn't want to anymore. I've tried attaching one of those wrist strap things to my pants or the stroller and having him hold that, but he prefers not to. We've tried a safety harness, but he thinks its really funny to run away while tethered because he likes the feeling of the resistance. If I notice him starting to bolt, I tell him to stop and if he doesn't I grab his arm or hand.
ETA: I will also explain that he is expected to stay near me and will offer incentives if he behaves. It often works, but not always. He just gets too distracted by everything he is seeing and wants to go over and touch everything.
I also grab him when I need to change his diaper and he won't listen. He will often just run off in the opposite direction because he thinks it's hilarious and nothing I do will convince him to lay down and get his diaper changed when he's in that kind of mood. So I make him. And sometimes I literally have to hold him down because he kicks and flails and rolls all over the place and generally acts like a maniac.
Thoughts? Questions? Comments?