DH = dumb husband...vent....

bartkj03

   I think that I am going to change the definiation.  Any objections?!?!  Uhgg.. mine just didn't seem to get the importance of our 12 week appointment and hearing the heart beat (we have not had an easy road) and thought he should stay out with "friends" (meaning people we dont really associate with all that often) last night.  Then didn't get why I was crabby when he got home at 11:30 and woke me up.  And then I did the predictable and started crying (fail!) I never cry.  So yah..bad night...here's to a better day!!!!!!!

Noethola

So sorry for the bad night you had! I do hope today is better for you. Guys arent always going to understand each part, but be patient and just try to keep communicating.

In my case, everything that changes with me is a whole new mystery to my husband. Every time I tell him of a little change, he asks me if its normal. Each time we are at an appointment, he asks the doc "Is that normal?" (My doctor and I are ready to nickname him "Isthatnormal".) Doesn't always matter what he reads, he is one that has to experience it. I spend all my spare time thinking about this baby, so it seems. For him, its not always a constant thought. He always asks if he needs to be at each appointment. Sometimes I tell him its just nice to have his presence, even if he doesnt feel like he had any use in being there.

All the best this morning!

MrsLean

Men = not so sensitive all the time. It doesn't mean they don't care, it's just that they truly don't always "get it". My DH is very caring and is excited for the baby, but I have to explain sometimes that when I snap at him it's not personal, it's hormones, and that when my doc said it's up to him which appointments he goes to that it doesn't matter what the doc says, it matters what I say... (not to sound to bossy, but I do want my DH there to hear the baby's heartbeat for the first time!)

It's hard not to get frustrated because as a woman you automatically know that even the little things are important & exciting, but a lot of men just seem to need the explanation.

aklawrence1

I don't think men get it. I know they're "wired differently" but sometimes I think they're missing some wires all together.

I came home from work the other day and I was seriously having the worst day ever, to the point I was so mad I was red, and so mad I was crying. So he's just drinking away... and I'm like "okay so what am I supposed to do? you have a bad day and you just drink your problems away? what about me?? aren't YOU supposed to make me feel better... and NOT drink?" ...so clearly I may have overreacted, I don't even drink not pregnant, but I was just so fed up with him. I get mad when he doesn't do things around the house and leaves them for me (he has yet to take over the laundry, dishes, dusting, vacuuming, etc).