Help my BFF!!!

jomoni10

So my friend had a baby when she was young, dad was out of the picture for several years then she had some hard time and the kid had to live with his dad then the dad wouldn't let her see the kid once she got better. Well now after several years, getting married and having more kids, the dad calls her up out of nowhere and says he want her to be in her kids life. Shes happy but now her H is freaking out on her, he's never had to deal with having a ex around or having a blended family, he's always known, but I don't think it would actually happen. What does she do, what can she say to him to make him feel better about the relationship? He keeps saying that the guy only contacted her for other reasons (like wanting to get back together), but we believe the guy is married. I don't know how to help her!

twister22

Why did BM have no CO set up so she could see her child? A CO should be set up so things are clear, set in stone, and cannot be "taken" away with a judge doing so.

Phantomgirl

What does your friend actually want?  If she decides to reestablish contact with her child she better be damn sure that she is going to keep that contact regardless of what her DH says/wants.

In regards to her DH, he is an adult.  He needs to set aside or work on his insecurities on his own.  

He can support her decision or leave but he should not stick around and make her life difficult.

She will resent him if she allows him to dictate this decision.

 

Nineoceans

Uhmmm really?? It doesn't occur to your friends husband that her biological child may need her in her life or have questions/anger/resentment towards her for not having a mother? Really bizarre. He sounds like a few fries short of a happy meal. Id tell her to do whatever she has to to make that relationship work with her child and if her husband has a problem then I'd give him walking papers