Another traveling question...24 & 28 weeks?

nuttycoconut

The traveling at 34 weeks question has me thinking...I have a wedding an hour away by car in NYC the weekend I'm 24 weeks. I'm getting a TAC next week so my cervix should be 100% fine. I'm thinking I'm going to go to the wedding. Would you?

Also, my cousin's wedding is about 3 hours away in Philly in Nov. I am extremely close to this side of the family and I'll be 28 weeks. I know that one is trickier because I'd have to risk having babies in the NICU if I go into preterm labor. Again, I *should* be fine with the TAC but realize anything can happen. Would you go to that?

Obviously I would be cleared by my MFM the week of each event and would not go if they advised against it. I also feel better knowing I'll be near major city hospitals. Also, if I went to the wedding at 28 weeks it would be my last time leaving the area. WWYD?

BananaPancake

I'd definitely do the 24w trip, but the 28w would make me nervous. I am going to make sure my MFM clears me for my 20w and my 24w, but I feel like those are so early on that I'm a little safer as far as the what-ifs. At 28w I feel like you'd have a whole lot more to factor in. My gut would tell me no on that one...feeling trapped yet??? ;-) 

cutebride73

The 24 week trip sounds completely possible - I went to Italy from 18-20 weeks and you are only going an hour away, so I would think that wouldn't be a problem.  The 28 week trip I might be more unsure about - especially since it's 3 hours away.  I will be 28 weeks this weekend and I don't know if I could handle a 3 hour (each way) car ride.  I am getting uncomfortable and I just don't feel "well" on a lot of days.  Everyone is different though and since you will be near major hospitals that is a consideration.  I would see what the latest possible rsvp date is and wait until then to commit.   

CourtneySue

The 24 week one doesnt sound too scary but if you dont have any other kids & have enough family in Philly then I would go.

jessican08

I personally wouldn't. After being stranded for an extra 3 day over 1000 miles from home at 11w because of my SCH bleed and having to deal with strange hospitals, doctors and having to fork over a lot of extra cash for rearranging travel, I'm not comfortable traveling.

I asked my OB about driving 4 hours to Atlanta to visit my parents at 24 weeks and she said not to go anywhere after 24 weeks I wouldn't be comfortable delivering at - keeping in mind my babies would need to stay put wherever I deliver at.

Having said that, if you do get your MFM's blessing, it's all about what you're comfortable with. As you said, it's not like you're in the boonies, you'll be near some great hospitals so if you're comfortable with it and they are too...go for it!

 

P.S. - Also, be sure to find out what your insurance would cover if you would need to be treated at an alternate hospital.

TripMomma

This is going to sound harsh and for that I am sorry. You lost a set of twins at 22 1/2 weeks and you are even considering traveling? No, I would not travel at all...whatever it is is not as important as your peace of mind should, God forbid, anything bad happen again. Good luck.

nuttycoconut

TripMomma:

This is going to sound harsh and for that I am sorry. You lost a set of twins at 22 1/2 weeks and you are even considering traveling? No, I would not travel at all...whatever it is is not as important as your peace of mind should, God forbid, anything bad happen again. Good luck.

Well I do have many reservations about it, and that's why I did ask for your opinion. Yes I'm considering traveling because my cervix will be able to hold a 250 pound baby once I have my transabdominal cerclage next week. My pregnancy will be less risky this time around than it was before my IC was discovered and as far as my Dr is concerned I will have "100% corrected the problem." I think the NYC travel is nbd since my hospital is only 40 min from there (it's in between my home and nyc). The 28 week wedding I may have to miss but fortunately I have plenty of time between now and November to make an informed decision and see how I feel emotionally and physically.  

nuttycoconut

cutebride73:

The 24 week trip sounds completely possible - I went to Italy from 18-20 weeks and you are only going an hour away, so I would think that wouldn't be a problem.  The 28 week trip I might be more unsure about - especially since it's 3 hours away.  I will be 28 weeks this weekend and I don't know if I could handle a 3 hour (each way) car ride.  I am getting uncomfortable and I just don't feel "well" on a lot of days.  Everyone is different though and since you will be near major hospitals that is a consideration.  I would see what the latest possible rsvp date is and wait until then to commit.   

 

Hmmm I forgot about the feeling crappy and uncomfortable part:(. Thanks. 

GypsyEsq

nuttycoconut:

TripMomma:

This is going to sound harsh and for that I am sorry. You lost a set of twins at 22 1/2 weeks and you are even considering traveling? No, I would not travel at all...whatever it is is not as important as your peace of mind should, God forbid, anything bad happen again. Good luck.

Well I do have many reservations about it, and that's why I did ask for your opinion. Yes I'm considering traveling because my cervix will be able to hold a 250 pound baby once I have my transabdominal cerclage next week. My pregnancy will be less risky this time around than it was before my IC was discovered and as far as my Dr is concerned I will have "100% corrected the problem." I think the NYC travel is nbd since my hospital is only 40 min from there (it's in between my home and nyc). The 28 week wedding I may have to miss but fortunately I have plenty of time between now and November to make an informed decision and see how I feel emotionally and physically.  

My only thought is that the TAC doesn't address preterm labor, infection, PPROM or anything else that might happen.  I do admire your ability to look at the positives though but I think it's irresponsible of your doctor to suggest that he will 100% fix anything.  So much about twin pregnancies and high-risk pregnancies (and I would frankly consider you to be higher risk the second time with twins TAC or not considering your previous outcome, not lower risk) is a crapshoot.  All of that aside - I live in a major metropolitan area and at 24 weeks was still going places, within city limits, that were an hour away from my hospital.  So taking that into account I suppose the 24 week wedding would be NBD.  My OB would not have approved travel at 28 weeks.

ColleenS629

GypsyEsq:

nuttycoconut:

TripMomma:

This is going to sound harsh and for that I am sorry. You lost a set of twins at 22 1/2 weeks and you are even considering traveling? No, I would not travel at all...whatever it is is not as important as your peace of mind should, God forbid, anything bad happen again. Good luck.

Well I do have many reservations about it, and that's why I did ask for your opinion. Yes I'm considering traveling because my cervix will be able to hold a 250 pound baby once I have my transabdominal cerclage next week. My pregnancy will be less risky this time around than it was before my IC was discovered and as far as my Dr is concerned I will have "100% corrected the problem." I think the NYC travel is nbd since my hospital is only 40 min from there (it's in between my home and nyc). The 28 week wedding I may have to miss but fortunately I have plenty of time between now and November to make an informed decision and see how I feel emotionally and physically.  

My only thought is that the TAC doesn't address preterm labor, infection, PPROM or anything else that might happen.  I do admire your ability to look at the positives though but I think it's irresponsible of your doctor to suggest that he will 100% fix anything.  So much about twin pregnancies and high-risk pregnancies (and I would frankly consider you to be higher risk the second time with twins TAC or not considering your previous outcome, not lower risk) is a crapshoot.  All of that aside - I live in a major metropolitan area and at 24 weeks was still going places, within city limits, that were an hour away from my hospital.  So taking that into account I suppose the 24 week wedding would be NBD.  My OB would not have approved travel at 28 weeks.

Her doctor wasn't saying that she's 100% not at risk for losing the babies, (s)he is saying that the TAC will 100% fix the IC, which it will.

OP, I'd do the 24w trip, but probably not the 28w trip. 

nuttycoconut

Yes, my Dr. said the IC was fixed, not that I wouldn't have any additional complications. I unfortunately do know all of the risks of having babies and multiples, especially since I've spent the past 7 months on the loss board and have seen unimaginable things happen during pregnancy and after.

However, my RE,  high risk Dr., and I would never have agreed to transfer 2 embryos if we thought there was a possibility of IC again. I was trying to say above that the TAC puts me on an even playing field with all of you and I am "lower risk" in the cervix department than any pregnant person who doesn't have a TAC. Specifically I was told, "your cervix is stronger having twins with a TAC than it is on someone having a singleton baby with no cervix problems and no TAC." Of course I realize I'm not low risk in general and would never again be so naive as to think I will actually bring these babies home until that day comes.

Thanks for the responses. I agree it's important for MOMs-to-be to know the crazy complications that can arise during pregnancy and I'm first to let someone know if I think something they're doing can cause a problem.

BabyCarryingVessel

I would say it depends on how you feel for both trips, and what your doctor thinks! Personally the 28 week trip would make me nervous.