A Puerto Rican touched my baby

robinsokj · July 2012

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/67191116.aspx.

ali_bl-nov05 · July 2012

Oh and the manager is haitian, all very relevant to the story.

scoutkate · July 2012

lolyshit.

scoutkate · July 2012

ali_bl-nov05:
Oh and the manager is haitian, all very relevant to the story.

I bet he's her best friend.

Megs12411 · July 2012

Indifferent

Love how she justifies her specificity of race as "trying to give....a better visual of the whole incident"

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thisplaceisstupid · July 2012

This DONT TOUCH MY BABY!!! crap is stupid. If it is making your kid unhappy, fine, if the person touching is clearly sick, bleeding, etc, fine. But some lady down on her luck saying hi to my baby wouldn't phase me a bit. I'm sure it was a bright spot in that ladies day..

ali_bl-nov05 · July 2012

scoutkate:
ali_bl-nov05:
Oh and the manager is haitian, all very relevant to the story.

I bet he's her best friend.

So it's OK that she is bringing up how the lady "looked puerto rican"

DragonflyBelle · July 2012

Someone buy that snaggle-tooth Puerto Rican a damn bra already!

ginamcp · July 2012

thisplaceisstupid:

This DONT TOUCH MY BABY!!! crap is stupid. If it is making your kid unhappy, fine, if the person touching is clearly sick, bleeding, etc, fine. But some lady down on her luck saying hi to my baby wouldn't phase me a bit. I'm sure it was a bright spot in that ladies day..

I tend to feel this way too. Quite a few randoms have touched C and I don't get all up in arms about it. She's washable and the contact lasts just a few seconds and then stranger moves on. *shrug*

ali_bl-nov05 · July 2012

And for the record, id012 doesn't think the OP is "raciest"

Megs12411 · July 2012

oh, wait, apparently said details are justified because we all make appearance based judgements...and you're full of shiit if you claim otherwise:

kaydee77:
AimeeL85:

That's beyond annoying, I don't understand why anyone thinks they have a right to touch someone else's baby.

I don't think the details given are that odd. I think anyone who claims they wouldn't make a single judgement about this woman based on her appearance is lying or kidding themselves.

Exactly this. No one should touch a kid that they don't know, but I bet if it was a well-dressed, beautiful woman with all of her teeth, the OP wouldn't have been nearly as upset. We all judge people based on their looks, whether we want to admit it or not.

I still don't understand why we needed to know about her nipples, though.

ByeBabyBunting · July 2012

thisplaceisstupid:
This DONT TOUCH MY BABY!!! crap is stupid. If it is making your kid unhappy, fine, if the person touching is clearly sick, bleeding, etc, fine. But some lady down on her luck saying hi to my baby wouldn't phase me a bit. I'm sure it was a bright spot in that ladies day..

But she looks Puerto Rican thisplace!

ATMmom324 · July 2012

The OP is crazy but I don't like strangers touching me. I am not going to let them touch my defenseless kid. Stranger Danger.

write2nicole · July 2012

Is everyone missing the fact that the Puerto Rican bra-burner was also 5 feet tall and heavyset? I mean, this isn't just a Puerto Rican feminist. This is a SHORT, FAT, Puerto Rican feminist. Totally different and you ALL know it.

ATMmom324 · July 2012

write2nicole:
Is everyone missing the fact that the Puerto Rican bra-burner was also 5 feet tall and heavyset? I mean, this isn't just a Puerto Rican feminist. This is a SHORT, FAT, Puerto Rican feminist. Totally different and you ALL know it.

As a tall person it is even creepier when a short person touched me. Their head is boob height and I always feel like they are going to motor boat me. I avoid hugging MIL for just this reason.

ThePolishHammer · July 2012

Wow.

Nipples.

write2nicole · July 2012

Missing teeth are totally irrelevant. What's she got against poor dental hygiene?

ali_bl-nov05 · July 2012

Pfft:
write2nicole:
Is everyone missing the fact that the Puerto Rican bra-burner was also 5 feet tall and heavyset? I mean, this isn't just a Puerto Rican feminist. This is a SHORT, FAT, Puerto Rican feminist. Totally different and you ALL know it.

Yep. If J.Lo touched her baby, would she complain?

J. LO has perky boobs and a mouthful of teeth.... but she not only looks, but IS puerto rican.... tough call...

kbingram51 · July 2012

But, seriously, NIPPLES were showing guys.

Racism is okay when there's obvious nipp-age and baby touching. Surprise

thisplaceisstupid · July 2012

Scout2005:
thisplaceisstupid:
This DONT TOUCH MY BABY!!! crap is stupid. If it is making your kid unhappy, fine, if the person touching is clearly sick, bleeding, etc, fine. But some lady down on her luck saying hi to my baby wouldn't phase me a bit. I'm sure it was a bright spot in that ladies day..

Eh, I don't like strangers touching my dog either.
Hands off, people. You can say hi without touching.

I get it. But I don't expect to see some white trash rant about non whities touching your baby from you.

eta- I dont know if you're white, but you get the gist.

grr_aargh · July 2012

I don't see why race matters at all. Poor people without access to dental care are icky.

:rolls eyes:

She's not only racist, she's kinda classist, yo.

gisa886 · July 2012

All I can think of is Butters' Very Own Episode with some Puerto Rican guy.

nanabanana06 · July 2012

Yikes. Talk about classy.

Kitiara5512 · July 2012

gwinnygirl:
Somebody say nipples again.

::in cartoony hunchbacked mad scientist voice:: neeeeepples

CinemaGoddess · July 2012

Someone please C&P the OP so I can read it after the DD.

TYVM.

Kitiara5512 · July 2012

PurpleDrewbie5:
I don't post too often but I had to share this experience.
I needed to pick up a few groceries so last night my daughter and I ran to the store. I used to work at customer service at this particular store and after checking out I stopped to chat with one of the managers.
As we are chatting this lady, who I later recognized as one of the people who come in returning dirty cans and bottles to buy beer and scratch offs, comes behind me starts touching my 9.5month old daughter. To give you a visual, this lady is about 5feet tall, heavy set, looks Puerto Rican, has no teeth other than two blackened bottom front teeth, is wearing a baggy shirt with NO BRA, (nipples showing) and speaks, I will describe it as, mushy broken English. Not only does she touch my daughter she starts rubbing her chest.
I say quickly, "you can look but please don't touch." She doesn't remove her hand. I take her hand and remove it for her while saying "please don't touch". She is still reaching for my daughter and I turn and loudly say "Do not touch!" She says something like "it's okay I had kids once too." I should mention that even though she does not speak well, she understands English just fine. She was just ignoring me.
Then she gets down to my daughter's eye level (DD is buckled in the front of the cart) and starts blowing raspberries. I see spittle flying from her lips. I push the cart backwards and step in between her while my manager friend, who is Haitian, very blunt and speaks with a mild accent as well, tells the lady "you just go home. You get out of here."
The store is not really very big and only about three lanes were open but by this time we were being watched by every checker, sacker, and customer. As the lady turned to go the manager grabbed the hand sanitizer and handed it to me.
I am pretty sure every ounce of politeness and charm left me in that moment.

PurpleDrewbie5:
I Heart The 80s:
I don't like when strangers touch my children either. But why are you mentioning the races of everyone involved?
I am trying to give you a better visual of the whole incident.

PurpleDrewbie5:
Hav=Fath:
Not saying you aren't perfectly justified in being upset and angry about her insisting on touching your LO, but it sounds as if she is "slow" or maybe intellectually disabled. I can't imagine anyone of normal intelligence continuing after you told her so clearly not to touch. If that is the case, while I would still stop her from touching, I wouldn't be as upset with her. But then again, I've worked in the ID field for so long I'm much more used to it than most.
I thought that someone might think she was a little slow. I probably should have mentioned that she's not slow. She was just stubbornly not listening.

PurpleDrewbie5:
jcsumm0:
PurpleDrewbie5:

As we are chatting this lady, who I later recognized as one of the people who come in returning dirty cans and bottles to buy beer and scratch offs, comes behind me starts touching my 9.5month old daughter. To give you a visual, this lady is about 5feet tall, heavy set, looks Puerto Rican, has no teeth other than two blackened bottom front teeth, is wearing a baggy shirt with NO BRA, (nipples showing) and speaks, I will describe it as, mushy broken English. Not only does she touch my daughter she starts rubbing her chest.

Why is this relevant?

No, people shouldn't touch your kid, but you are not sounding so great yourself here.
Not trying to sound rude or anything. After re-reading my OP, I can see how it may have come across that way and I apologize. I was very detailed in the post as I was trying to give the readers a visual. I find that I understand things better with more details. I do apologize, I am sure I could have found a better way to make the OP visual.

Kitiara5512 · July 2012

PurpleDrewbie5:
robinsokj:
PurpleDrewbie5:
robinsokj:
So, b/c you've seen the woman bring in cans before that means you're fully aware of her mental capacities?
LOL. I am telling you that she understood what I was asking her. I am not claiming to be fully aware of her mental capacities but I am aware enough to know that she understood me. That is clear as she tried to justify her actions by saying that she used to have little kids too.

No, that makes absolutely nothing clear.

"Please don't touch my daughter."

"Oh, it's okay, I've have kids too."

She understood I didn't want her to touch my daughter. She continued to touch her and tried to convince me it was okay because she used to have small children.

I used to work at this store. I have taken back her cans and bottles before. I have cashed in her lottery tickets before. A lot of times? No. Enough times to know that she is capable of understanding somethings as simple as "please don't touch my daughter?" Yes. She was not slow or impaired. She was stubborn and ignored my requests.

scatteredtrees:
id012:
I haven't been posting here lately but I was reading the post today so I want to chime in.
I think its a little ridiculous that you ladies are jumping on OP for mentioning the race of the person touching her child, and I *think* some of you are saying she is raciest.
Why is she raciest because she was describing someone and mentioned there race? Why is it so "taboo." It doesn't mean that she is raciest, at all. She was describing someone.

Raciest, as in, 50 Shades of Gray is the raciest novel on the NYT Best Seller list?

KateMW:
prairiegurl24:
i had this happen to me once in costco, some old lady comes up and starts to touch my daughter, then starts to call her an IT, i turned to her and said my DAUGHTER is 6 months, don't touch her. the old lady then said to me why are you being rude? i said to her how would you like someone coming up to our BABY and starting to touch your BABY without permission, and then calling your baby an IT, she then walked away shaking her head, i don't give two craps who you are, don't touch my child, even my husband was annoyed with that old lady too, and the people behind us in line were like good for you for sticking up for yourself
You sound like a peach. There is a nice way to approach it and that so wasn't it. You were being rude. I don't get the disrespect of elders...maybe it's a Southern thing, but old people get a pass around here.

pinitbaby:
Well IMO there's a difference if the person touching my kid looks like a decent person or if they look like a homeless ex-crackhead.

I grew up in a crappy neighborhood-ghetto as some would say and was surrounded by the not-so-fortunate as i call them, I know that might sound mean but I dealt with it first hand and now i go broke every month making sure my kids have a better place to live then where I grew up.

I think all the OP did was try to piant the picture for us and I would imagine not everyone would be so pleased to have someone of that nature all rubbing up on their baby as that woman did to hers. Race isn't the issue for me, its the nature of the person.

Titts McGeee:
ali_bl-nov05:
mrscarter09:
I'm seriously curious. If OP had left out Puerto-Rican and Haitian in her description, would she be getting the same backlash for being upset that someone touched her baby? If she had just said "an older woman who speaks broken English" would it make a difference?
Nobody is bothered that she prefers people not touching her baby, it's the fact that she had to bring up everybody's races and nationalities into the mix that we are frowning upon. If you can't see that, I don't know what else to say.
She says on page 2 that she lets "lots of people touch her baby".
Just not heavyset, braless,puerto rican, broken-english speaking, badly dressed and/or alcohol-consuming people. Or those who recycle their bottles for money.

Kitiara5512 · July 2012

And yeah, I really am that frigging bored.

Epiphany27 · July 2012

Nobody tries to touch my baby. He looks like he would bite you (he would).

I however, would not let anybody living in Puerto Rico *drive* my baby around. I felt like I was constantly about to get in a car crash there. Black, white, Puerto Rican...it doesn't matter. The island ruins your driving skills.

mollybloom · July 2012

But guys, she can't be a racist cause she has a Haitian friend.

Hmm

insertclevername · July 2012

But....NIPPLES!!!! Gosh!

IrishEyes0530 · July 2012

ATMmom324:
write2nicole:
Is everyone missing the fact that the Puerto Rican bra-burner was also 5 feet tall and heavyset? I mean, this isn't just a Puerto Rican feminist. This is a SHORT, FAT, Puerto Rican feminist. Totally different and you ALL know it.

As a tall person it is even creepier when a short person touched me. Their head is boob height and I always feel like they are going to motor boat me. I avoid hugging MIL for just this reason.

This made me lol.

And also, nipples.

Manateearmz · July 2012

Ming Ming just made my night.

BrittRMere · July 2012

Eh, it didn't scream 'racist' to me initially (though as she went on talking about how she lets other people touch her kid, yadda yadda, it did start leaning that way). I think the OP was a complete dumbass for thinking she wasn't going to get flamed to hell on here for including those details, though.