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April 2012 Moms
MrsGreen620
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Mom/MIL Monday
MrsGreen620
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I'll start! The other day, my mom was holding Evelyn when she started crying her "i want you to walk" cry. I tell mom to stand up and walk with her, and she coos (to Evie) "no, no, no, we don't always get what we want, do we?" The screaming continued until she stood up, ugh. It makes me dread having her babysit. My baby DOES always get what she wants, she is only 2 months old!
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Re: Mom/MIL Monday
Im on vacation with my inlaws. Until Thursday night.
So far:
1. She kept telling me she was now going to hold Mila, not asking. We would be in public at lunch or something and I would FINALLY get M settled and happy and MIL would say, "I'm taking her over to look at the ceiling fan now!" I would say, no, she's fine here. And she would reply, "I'm taking her now" and come over and grab her from me.
2. The one time that I did actually put my foot down and semi-angrily refuse to give M up (I was standing and bouncing M, trying to keep her happy while out to eat), MIL stood beside me and mimicked my shushing and bouncing with nothing in her hands. Then she started reaching over and patting M's butt over top of my hand (I was already patting her butt)
3. When M falls asleep in one of our arms, she leans over her and loudly says, "wake up! Wake up!".
DH finally had a talk with her so maybe she'll calm down.....
I think i would punch somebody if they did that....I am p!ssed off for you.
Right?! Last night I turned and asked her why she wanted the baby to wake up. She said, "I don't know.. I just want to see her. Haha!" UGH!! She's three months old!! Just let her SLEEP!
For the most part, my MIL is great.
However, she wears this icky smelling musk all of the time. Whenever she is over, LO smells like her for the rest of the day. It is gross. I've tried to mention to her that I am concerned about using scented things around LO because I have sensitive skin and many food and environmental allergies. I think my next move is going to be to do what my doctors office does and declare this a perfume free house.
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Wow. Those are things my 2 year-old does.
My IL's are great for the most part. However, my MIL has had an issue with us swaddling DS since day one, and always refused to do it when she kept him. She thinks it's mean and claustrophopia-inducing. She then started doing it half-heartedly after DH talked to her about it, but of course DS busted out...and once he busted out she would declare he didn't like the swaddle that day.
This would not be a big deal, except DS will NOT sleep without a swaddle. He's three months old and she continues to think *she* can get him to sleep without it with some magic grandma powers. Except...she has never successfully gotten him to nap unswaddled when she has babysat.
They kept DS at night (not overnight, just for the evening at our house) for the first time this weekend so we could go to a wedding, so she had to put him to bed. She called me to inform me that she decided she would swaddle him that night because she knew he would sleep better if she did.
Yes, I was glad she finally decided to do that...but seriously? Thanks for deciding to follow my instructions after three months. Glad you finally realized I'm the mom and know what my kid needs.
My mil is actually fantastic and My mom is gone but I do have a rant about my dad.
He seems to think that anything he did with us kids is alright to do with my baby...we were out to lunch and he leans over and is trying to give Noah banana pudding!.....What part of that seems ok to him? I told him "No dad he can't have that yet" and he says "aww sure he can, you guys had pudding when you were little" I eventually had to tell him "Well this is MY baby and I am his parent and I don't want him to have pudding at 2 months old!"
Noah's half brother is allergic to EVERYTHING and Noah is already having issues with lactose intolerance and has to be on sentive formula...I'm not giving him freakin pudding!
I'm realizing that some of our parents' memories are not too accurate. MIL says both her kids slept through the night after 6 weeks. FIL remembers them NOT sleeping through the night, for pretty much the first year.
I would freak out and probably slap first and think later.
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I go back to work next week, and the little man will be staying with MIL. She's been great so far, but I have a feeling I'll have plenty to contribute soon.
One thing I've noticed is that she seems to respect my requests more than my BIL's wife. She is several years younger than me, and MIL has bossed her around since they've had kids. Makes me feel sorry for her.
this is sooooo like something my MIL would do that it makes me want to scream on your behalf. ugh!
Um, no. This is so not cool. I'm sorry you have to deal with your mil right now while on vacation. That does. not. sound. like. fun.
What's that phrase again? I think it's "mother knows best." I don't think anybody should ever go against mother's instructions. It's your child. You know what lo likes!
We hardly ever see my ILs because they live about 7 hours away, but my MIL is a real peach. I could fill books with her weird behavior and catty comments. But I'll just share this one:
We were at their place probably six years ago on vacation (they live in Austria), and MIL says, "B, come here, I have to tell you something." I found her in the bathroom, completely naked. Then she said something banal like, "You should really try the soup later." She was out to shock me, of course, but I managed to keep a straight face. It was one of the biggest WTF moments of my life. Also, at our wedding, she read that AA thing about accepting what you can't change.
Your mil sounds like she has the mentality of a two-year-old. Number 2 is just odd, as in really odd, and 3 would piss me off.
Mine is that I feel my mom likes the title and bragging rights of being a grandma more than she actually cares about him, and it breaks my heart. She doesn't call to see how he is. When they visited for for days, she saw him for maybe an hour. However, whenever I post a pc on FB, she shares it with saying one thing about her grandson.
Actions speak louder than words.
Plus, she has already blamed stuff on him. She told my family they couldn't join them on vacation this June because they already came down here to see him. Ummmm, they spent 90% of their time away from us. That trip was not to see him.
I know. We got down here on Friday. Saturday morning I looked up how much it was to change our plane tickets and fly back home. That's how overwhelmed and irritated I was. Unfortunately, I can't see spending $400 to change the flights. Hopefully after DH's talk with her, we can limit the cray cray for the rest of the trip.
My mom was visiting when I was in labor at the hospital. Despite telling them that I did NOT want any visitors at the hospital, my parents showed up out of the blue.
They just so happened to appear right after I got an epidural, which we found out, makes me nauseous. When my mom started talking to me, I start puking up purple popsicle EVERYWHERE. Every. Where.
She got the nurse and I got cleaned up. She came back in and I started puking again.
She didn't come back to visit until well after DD was born.
This is why I drive to visit my parents. It is 600 miles. And I have to drive through NYC. And 5 states.
But sooooooo worth being able to leave whenever stuff starts going sour.
My MIL dropped by to see DD about a week ago, and DD was in a great mood, smiling and cooing at her for the first time. My MIL turned to me and said "What's wrong with her smile? It's lopsided." She loves to point out what's "wrong" with anyone and everything. It makes me sick. She loves to bring up how I haven't lost all the weight I gained and how messy my house is.
I am much angrier at my mother though. We set some strict rules about smoking, because her and her boyfriend are chain smokers that smoke in the house and car so they both reek of smoke. Essentially, shower and wear clean clothes before coming over and NO SMOKING during the visit. After taking us all out for my birthday dinner, we came back to my house for dessert and they stayed outside and snuck a smoke, came inside and tried to pretend they didn't. DH flipped out.
Also, I have bitched to my mom about MIL coming by without calling first and how it stresses me out and anyone coming by unannounced gives me anxiety. My mom somehow thought she was exempt from this and dropped by with no notice. I had finally gotten DD down for a nap after she had barely slept all night and was falling asleep myself, so she woke us both up. Not cool.
We considered it. But it's a 12 hour drive without a baby... We figured it would take at least 2 days each way with a baby.
I think when your LO is up in the motn, you should run into your mil's room and yell, "wake up, wake up." then tell her hello, smile, and leave.
We drive overnight, like leave around 9-10pm. It is 6-10 hours depending on NYC and weather. I am not sure how it will be with a baby either. I hope she likes road trips!
Having fulfilled many familial obligations in the last 3 months, I am hoping I am off the hook for at least a year.
PRICELESS!!!! Ohhhh, I really want to do this.
My MIL is pretty good.
She printed us some pictures of Madison and gave them to us at church the other night. Five of them are just her holding Madison. Do I need 5 different pictures of that? It's hard enough that my Mom isn't around, I don't need all those pictures of MIL with LO when my Mom will never meet her.
She was talking to me last week about missing her Mom who passed away last year. Telling me about how your relationship changes when you're older and you have this better relationship, how much she misses her and on and on. I seriously just sit there and don't know what to say. Her mom was 96 when she died. I know it's hard at any age but please don't talk to your DIL whose Mom passed away at 52 while your DIL was in her 20's and still not at the stage where they have a fantastic relationship about these things. This is not something we will ever 'bond' over. Sorry.
Almost all my issues with my MIL stem from not having my Mom around.
Ughhh, I hate when people say stupid things to your baby... Passively responding to what you said, but to your baby instead. So annoying.
Mine is, my MIL came over too babysit. I let her know I was hesitant about leaving because he had seemed to be fussy that day, and for some reason wasn't wanting to take a bottle from my Husband...H noticed it too. He would cry and cry and then I would come over and he would take it. She then said to the baby in that stupid cooing voice, "Is your mommy not letting daddy do anything??" Don't even know where to start with that one.
Thank you, Nathan, for summing it up so well.
I was just about to comment on this, but Ateal's response is far better than anything I could come up with. Yes, thank you.
I had to actually break out the laptop to see what this gif was (I usually read from my phone, and it ain't no fancy one). Yes, this does sum it up. And there are so many other stories where that came from ... but that one really kind of is the "best" one. Or how about our third date, where my now ILs invited me and my now husband over for a BBQ. We walked in, and his father was naked in a recliner, save for a wash cloth over his FIL junk. His mother was on the balcony sunning herself. I have to report that I did get an eyeful of her snatch before she closed her robe.
In their defense, it was summer and hot for German standards (this was before they moved to Austria, where they are now to free to be naked all the hell they want, because we make it a point to not visit them.).
My MIL talks about how delicious rice cereal is and that she can't wait to give it to DD. She let me know how she mixed milk and sugar in it to make it extra yummy for her kids. Not only have I told her 1,000 times that I am planning on skipping cereal since it doesn't have any nutritional value, but I have also told her that if she does have it we would mix it with formula AND we wont be adding sugar to make it "yummy".
That is just the newest thing on the very long list of things she does that makes me want to slap her.
TeamHayes reminded me of another MIL moment.
MIL is obsessed with going to check out the daycare that we picked. I really don't care about her opinion, DS is going no matter what she says. It is close to my school and it is used by all of the teachers in my district. They all have great things to say about it, and H and I liked it when we went to visit. MIL keeps telling me that she just needs to see for herself that it is ok.
I won't tell her the name of place until after DS starts...
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